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    I've been at university for just over a month and right now I'm really struggling to cope.

    The first two weeks were great but now my anxiety and depression has started to come back and this is making me more isolated.

    I have friends here but again I'm still at that point where I don't think I know them well enough to tell them about how I'm feeling. I have severe paranoia and I always feel like people in my block secretly hate me.

    My self esteem has plummeted since being here too. Seeing loads of girls that are thinner and more attractive than me everyday just makes me feel ugly. I was at a formal dinner today and I was comparing myself so much to other girls that I was close to crying in front of everyone on my table. I don't think I'm unattractive usually, but when I'm around other girls, I feel hideous.

    This shouldn't be relevant but another thing that has taken a toll on my self esteem is seeing how little guys are interested in me. I go out all the time and make the effort but it always seems like they go for the same girls; small, skinny, tanned and sometimes promiscuous. I'm not interested in getting a boyfriend or anything right now but no guys have ever seemed interested. I feel like I have to fit that particular mould in order to be attractive, so I'm putting loads of pressure on myself.

    I'm basically just a mess right now. I feel like everyone I live with hates me as they've formed all their little cliques already despite the fact I'm really social, spend loads of time with them and go out all the time. I compare myself to every other girl at university to the point where it reduces me to tears. I just feel ugly and worthless and I feel like if I dropped out no one would even care. I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong...
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    Go and see the Welfare Officer in your student union and / or your doctor and discuss these issues with them. There will also be a counsellor within your university that you will have access to. I thoroughly recommend counselling. Confidence comes from within. If you feel confident, you will be confident and people will react to that positively. You need help, but that help will only come to your if you help yourself and seek it.

    Good luck!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been at university for just over a month and right now I'm really struggling to cope.

    The first two weeks were great but now my anxiety and depression has started to come back and this is making me more isolated.

    I have friends here but again I'm still at that point where I don't think I know them well enough to tell them about how I'm feeling. I have severe paranoia and I always feel like people in my block secretly hate me.

    My self esteem has plummeted since being here too. Seeing loads of girls that are thinner and more attractive than me everyday just makes me feel ugly. I was at a formal dinner today and I was comparing myself so much to other girls that I was close to crying in front of everyone on my table. I don't think I'm unattractive usually, but when I'm around other girls, I feel hideous.

    This shouldn't be relevant but another thing that has taken a toll on my self esteem is seeing how little guys are interested in me. I go out all the time and make the effort but it always seems like they go for the same girls; small, skinny, tanned and sometimes promiscuous. I'm not interested in getting a boyfriend or anything right now but no guys have ever seemed interested. I feel like I have to fit that particular mould in order to be attractive, so I'm putting loads of pressure on myself.

    I'm basically just a mess right now. I feel like everyone I live with hates me as they've formed all their little cliques already despite the fact I'm really social, spend loads of time with them and go out all the time. I compare myself to every other girl at university to the point where it reduces me to tears. I just feel ugly and worthless and I feel like if I dropped out no one would even care. I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong...
    See your uni counselor ASAP. It's better for you to address these issues with a professional at an early stage before it starts effecting your studies or escalates into something truly horrid.
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    You got a friend in me.
    I hope you feel better soon bud
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    Know what you're at uni for. If you can't "have fun" in your first year like everyone else seems to be doing, then engage in your studies, join student unions, overall do anything that makes you a better person after leaving uni.
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    It was posted in 1970!!! I dont think help is needed any more..
 
 
 
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