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    Hi,
    First of all I'm male, straight and 18 and I've never had much male influence in my life & when I went to secondary school I hung around with my best friend from primary (female) and her new friends (mostly female) and it's been like that ever since really. I have male friends but mostly they're female. I was bullied often at the beginning of secondary school by kids that used to call me gay (There's nothing wrong with being gay it was the derogatory way they used to say it, kind of mockingly). This led to a huge loss in confidence and anxiety about myself, image/mannerisms/the way I speak. Mostly it led to a lack of confidence when it comes to girls I want to be with opposed to just friends with.

    As I got older the mocking stopped and I thought it was because people were older and becoming more accepting of me as a person and I became more accepting of myself- not caring what people thought about me. However, last week someone from primary school, who I don't speak to, came up to me and said I was "feminine like" then laughed it off but continued to repeat it again and again. It brought up all the anxiety I used to have before when I was younger. Also, when me and some friends were talking about going away for the summer some of my female friends don't understand it why I would like to have another guy around.

    Sorry this is long, but I do find it hard being one of the few boys in my friendship group especially when they're having conversations about periods/sex and to which I obviously can't relate.
    Has anyone else been in this sort of position before?
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    Not entirely, but I can slightly relate in that most of my friends are female at the moment, sometimes find it very hard to relate to them when they talk about certain almost exclusively female things, and a few other bits here and there.


    Just ignore them, ignore those fools from primary school. They are your friends, who happen to be female for one reason or another, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that okay.

    I also really want another friend in my social group who is male, as it can become a bit heavy sometimes (sometimes a lot of the time.)


    I'm not really sure what to say exactly, try socialise with some males like you? Or can you merge two social groups together? Like manufacture the scenario in which that would happen?
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    (Original post by XcitingStuart)
    Not entirely, but I can slightly relate in that most of my friends are female at the moment, sometimes find it very hard to relate to them when they talk about certain almost exclusively female things, and a few other bits here and there.


    Just ignore them, ignore those fools from primary school. They are your friends, who happen to be female for one reason or another, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that okay.

    I also really want another friend in my social group who is male, as it can become a bit heavy sometimes (sometimes a lot of the time.)


    I'm not really sure what to say exactly, try socialise with some males like you? Or can you merge two social groups together? Like manufacture the scenario in which that would happen?
    Thanks for understanding, it's nice to know that somebody can relate if only a little
 
 
 
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