balancing relationships

Hi guys im afraid this is mainly for people with bf/gfs, i was just wondering do/have any of u have problems balancing hanging around with friends and ur partner?? and then finding time for homework and family on top of that!! With me ive noticed one or the other is always saying im spending too much time with the other. Does anyone have the similar thing or perhaps advice that would help?? thanx

Reply 1

Phantom Phoenix

Same thing.

I've sod-all by way of advice, but wanted to show support. :smile:

Reply 2

Sijia

I'm lucky that we both have the same friends, but even then, sometimes you feel like you're spending too much time alone and maybe neglecting your friends, which is not good. But I suppose it really depends on your lifestyle and uni schedule. Then of course, there's your own set of priorities you have to sort out.

Reply 3

Kate.

I don't do much homework at all really, but the work I do I just do it all on one day, usually a Sunday or Wednesday. But...I don't generally do work. If I actually did homework I'd still find time to fit it in, none of it takes more than half an hour really.

Friends...well, I see my friends every Saturday, me and my boyfriend do our own thing then. He sees his friends most Fridays & Wednesdays, so I usually do something else then. Pretty much every other day we're with each other. At college, he hangs around with me & my friends, they all like him & vice versa so that's alright.

Don't see how family are involved at all really, I don't do anything with my family...

So yeah, I don't think I've ever really had a problem managing boyfriends/friends/college.

Reply 4

foxiroxi

LDR feels like I'm ballencing everything out :smile:

I spend time with him when he comes to visit and he gets my full attention :smile:

Other times I'm studying or spending time socilising with friends! :smile:

Reply 5

Yellowmarshmellow

With my last bf i saw him every friday then saw my friends all weekend and did homework/job in the evenings... got a bit stressy sometimes though.

Reply 6

Tag

yup. My job is at the weekend so that never changes. we have similar friends. but either my social life or school work sufferes, one or the other. eventually it'll sort itself out though :smile:

Reply 7

Yeah, I feel for you, I'm in a similar situation. I'm in an LDR which means I only see him once a fortnight in term time, which, although I miss him, is fine. We spend some quality time together and the rest of the time is for uni, work and friends.

But in the holidays I work a 4 day week, one day of which is Saturday. And he works Mon-Fri. Which means we only get Sundays off together, and my parents want to see me at the weekend too! Trying to balance that is really difficult.

I think you just have to explain to everyone who's worrying that you're spending too much time with others that you have a busy schedule and conflicting obligations. Tell them you'd love to spend all your time with them but there are other parts of your life which need maintaining (!) too. If need be, outline your schedule, but what's most important is that you know how you want to balance your time and stick to that.

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