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things you'd wish you'd known for first time? watch

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    so last night I was doing a lot of stuff with a boy but we didn't actually have sex. we're gonna see each other at a party tomorrow, and I think it's likely we'll end up having sex

    is there anything you wish you could tell your younger self about your first time?

    Don't do it with someone you regret.
    Might not be relevant to you, but if I could go back in time I'd drill that into younger me's head

    If I could tell my past self something about it, I'd tell myself to not stress so much about it - it's not that big of a deal, it doesn't have to be perfect, and it's not worth all the nerves.

    I'd tell my younger self to bring lube.
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    Do you want to have intercourse with him?

    If so, there's no rush - a party with other people around is not necessarily the best time or place to be losing your virginities. Being able to spend time on this is a good idea.

    What are you going to do about contraception? Are you going to take condoms? (And use them? Do you know how?) Lube?

    Especially if you've never had anything larger than a finger/tampon in your vagina, you might want to be in charge of what goes inside you, how far and how quickly. But sex in the context of a hookup like this can be hard to negotiate.
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