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    So i've been with this girl for two years, and we both left for uni this past summer (only a couple of hours away from each other). We've been at uni for a month now and she recently left me for her own reasons. She felt like she was tied down with me, and felt like she couldn't reinvent herself and be her own person while she still had part of her old self as such a big part of her life (me). I understand this, and I think it's something that everyone thinks about before going to uni, but I thought we could work through it and try to build new lives yet work to create one together. Yet it's only been a month and things have fallen apart.

    Anyway, my question is whether I should fight for her or not. I feel like I've let her go quite easily, I understood her motive, and we had a day spent together to say our proper goodbyes. Now she's gone however, I just feel I gave in too easy for someone who was so important to me, and who I had such a great and smooth relationship with.

    Is it right for me to be a bit selfish and want to think of myself first, especially as that is how she has viewed things, or am I right to think of others and put her needs before my own? I feel so conflicted and any help and advice would be much appreciated, thanks.
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    So i've been with this girl for two years, and we both left for uni this past summer (only a couple of hours away from each other). We've been at uni for a month now and she recently left me for her own reasons. She felt like she was tied down with me, and felt like she couldn't reinvent herself and be her own person while she still had part of her old self as such a big part of her life (me). I understand this, and I think it's something that everyone thinks about before going to uni, but I thought we could work through it and try to build new lives yet work to create one together. Yet it's only been a month and things have fallen apart.

    Anyway, my question is whether I should fight for her or not. I feel like I've let her go quite easily, I understood her motive, and we had a day spent together to say our proper goodbyes. Now she's gone however, I just feel I gave in too easy for someone who was so important to me, and who I had such a great and smooth relationship with.

    Is it right for me to be a bit selfish and want to think of myself first, especially as that is how she has viewed things, or am I right to think of others and put her needs before my own? I feel so conflicted and any help and advice would be much appreciated, thanks.
    Two of my female friends have done the exact same thing within the first two weeks of uni, both we're in really close 2 year relationships, it was shocking tbh. Also though, both quickly became interested in other people and I know from talking to them that they don't regret their decisions. She'll come back to you if she feels the need to but fighting for her doesn't seem realistic as you're kind of long distance now making it even harder. Both of my friends actually go to the same uni as their exes too, maybe think of moving on and reinventing yourself as a way of coping?
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    Let her go. If she really wanted you, she'd stay. Uni is either an opportunity for couples to grow stronger, or drift apart. She's drifted apart. So let her go her own way, and you find someone who wants to make your relationship grow stronger
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    Let her go. Let her carve out her own path in life. Don't keep hoping that she'll one day come back to you, you have to accept that she simply doesn't want to be with you anymore, she wants to live her own life and she doesn't want you in it. Very sad, but you have to find a way to live with that. You'll be alright, you'll bounce back. But for now, you have to let her go. You did the right thing here, you shouldn't have any regrets. These things happen sometimes. It makes you realise that you're truly alone in this world, no matter what your relationship status is, and you have to make something out of yourself. Your happiness must not depend on anyone else.
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    sorry to say it but she's slutting around.
 
 
 
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