help me plz!

Hi there, I need some help and advice...

I have real trouble talking to friends and just being myself around people. When I'm with a group of people I just tend to quiet one who always laughs but never makes the joke. I always hold back on my actions, never do anything with conviction and come across as boring because I have always feared being rejected by my peers.

I have trouble holding conversations with people because I can never think of anything to say at the time, but afterwards when I'm on my own I think about it again and what I would have said if I had the confidence, which annoys me because if I just said these things in the first place I wouldn't be having these problems.

In social situations everything seems awkward and in my free periods I just go home because I live close to school just to avoid this awkwardness. It's not that I don't have friends, it just that I never feel part of "the group" if you know what I mean, I just feel like a tag along.

It feels like the only person I feel comfortable around is my mum. If I didn't have her with me I don't know what I would do.

Sorry if all that made no sense, but this issue is really taking over my life right now... I just want to let people get to know the real me before I leave 6th form :frown:

any advice would really be appreciated

Reply 1

skcollob

Its difficuly but maybe youd relax more with people you felt comfortable around and know you better - the perfect example being your mum - so maybe just try and make a few more friends/ become a bit closer with some so they get to know you a little better and you can open up more? possibly joining a club or going out socially with a group of friends will help?
hope thats useful advice in some way :s-smilie: