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    I've been single for over a year now and it's starting to make me angry/sad especially when I see so many other happy couples around me. I have tried to distract myself about how I feel and the only way I have found I can do this is to go the gym and work out my anger but I know that I can't be in the gym 24/7 so how else can I distract myself? Also is it normal to feel angry/sad when being single?
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    Video games!!!
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    Idk, maybe get into a relationship?
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    Well first you need to identify what flaw in your character is making you feel the need to be with someone so desperately (especially if in teens or 20s). If you are solid and strong on your own and develop your own skills, hobbies etc and then enter a relationship, you'll be a better person for it and have more to offer. What happens if you enter a relationship and then after 6 months you are single again? You will be back to square 1, feeling **** again. So build your confidence now, be comfortable on your own and then when that someone comes along you will feel super but not wholly dependent on them for feeling great.
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    Once again sir, I do believe the answer is hookers!
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    I distract myself by thinking about the fact that: I can spend my time and (admittedly little!) money how I please; I don't have to check in with anyone or seek approval for what I'm doing; I'm free to move around the country (or world) without it affecting another person's life; and I don't have to constantly compromise my ambitions because of someone else.

    I'm not saying that relationships are all bad, or that I don't want one; what I'm saying is that there are advantages to being single, and irrespective of whether you feel you are single entirely as a result of your own choice or not, you might as well enjoy them while you can.
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    (Original post by Tourminator)
    Well first you need to identify what flaw in your character is making you feel the need to be with someone so desperately (especially if in teens or 20s). If you are solid and strong on your own and develop your own skills, hobbies etc and then enter a relationship, you'll be a better person for it and have more to offer. What happens if you enter a relationship and then after 6 months you are single again? You will be back to square 1, feeling **** again. So build your confidence now, be comfortable on your own and then when that someone comes along you will feel super but not wholly dependent on them for feeling great.
    I think the flaw in my character is that whenever I go somewhere I see happy couples everywhere and I feel like I am missing out. I am only 21 and I do have hobbies and interests but sometimes I feel like I just want to share them with someone else.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I distract myself by thinking about the fact that: I can spend my time and (admittedly little!) money how I please; I don't have to check in with anyone or seek approval for what I'm doing; I'm free to move around the country (or world) without it affecting another person's life; and I don't have to constantly compromise my ambitions because of someone else.

    I'm not saying that relationships are all bad, or that I don't want one; what I'm saying is that there are advantages to being single, and irrespective of whether you feel you are single entirely as a result of your own choice or not, you might as well enjoy them while you can.
    So basically I should enjoy my freedom because I don't have to worry about it affecting anyone else?
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    Get a new hobby ofc
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    Join a Dating Agency if you want dates.
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    Ffs, get a grip. You dont need a relationship.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've been single for over a year now and it's starting to make me angry/sad especially when I see so many other happy couples around me. I have tried to distract myself about how I feel and the only way I have found I can do this is to go the gym and work out my anger but I know that I can't be in the gym 24/7 so how else can I distract myself? Also is it normal to feel angry/sad when being single?
    dude being single is awesome.

    Go where you like, do what you like, no responsibilities, go out, come home, play video games.

    Enjoy it while you've got it. A relationship will happen in its own time.

    You dont need a relationship (and if you do then thats an issue you need to resolve), theres nothing wrong with being single.
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    ... play video games...
    True relationship goals: where you can still do this
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    (Original post by Emily.97)
    Ffs, get a grip. You dont need a relationship.
    says the clingy, needy girl
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    I **** off and watch porn .

    JK. In all honesty, do it while you still can.
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    (Original post by Alexion)
    True relationship goals: where you can still do this
    yes you can, buuuuuut at some point you have to turn the xbox off and do annoying things like "go see her friends" and "spend quality time together" and "have sex", dont these women know that Skyrim wont save itself from Alduin and need my help?

    Spoiler:
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    please note this post is intended to be humerous


    but still being single is awesome
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    Question what is so wrong with you that you need to depend on someone else for optimal happiness. Seriously, there's more to life than a relationship.
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    (Original post by silverbolt)
    yes you can, buuuuuut at some point you have to turn the xbox off and do annoying things like "go see her friends" and "spend quality time together" and "have sex", dont these women know that Skyrim wont save itself from Alduin and need my help?

    but still being single is awesome
    Haha :lol:

    My gf and I still prefer spending time in front of The Last Of Us and Portal 2 to other 'activities' so to speak...
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    (Original post by Ndella)
    Question what is so wrong with you that you need to depend on someone else for optimal happiness. Seriously, there's more to life than a relationship.
    I know that there is more to life than a relationship but I have started to feel like I would like to have someone that I can go somewhere and do stuff with.
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    (Original post by Ndella)
    Question what is so wrong with you that you need to depend on someone else for optimal happiness. Seriously, there's more to life than a relationship.
    Very true. The OP only posted 3 lines, but they're quite telling. Having read them again, it does look like he/she is looking for someone to make his/her life worth living for them. I say sod that, go off and live your own life. Why outsource the job of making yourself happy to an external party? Why not do it yourself?
 
 
 
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