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    I am a lesbian nor bisexual but I do watch lesbian porn and find myself aroused to it. Anyway this girl at my uni kissed me at a drunk party thing and we made out and I liked it. I also like a boy in third year who is really clever and just my type. In terms of sexuality , do I have to define myself or is just a case of being curious even though I am attracted to both genders . I am confused because I'd like to marry a man but the idea of an open relationship with my married partner seems far more appealing. So what do you reckon?
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    i AM NOT , I MEANT TO SAY I AM NOT A LESBIAN
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    I reckon that there is no need to define who or what you are; just let things be and you'll find your way in life.

    Tumblr definitions are useless.
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    don't feel pressured to define yourself, just go with what you like
    that said, it does feel better to have a name for things sometimes

    sounds like you're bisexual with a preference to guys?
    or if you're sexually attracted to males and females but only romantically towards males then that's something like bisexual heteromantic
    idk
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    There is a strong, growing and significant school of thought that supposes sexuality isn't necessarily neatly binary, and rather, suggests that everyone lies on spectrum.

    There are some tests available...but I would suggest to not define yourself and be limited, and keep experimenting, and see what you like.
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    This might help or confuse you further.

    http://40.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m4...67g5o1_500.jpg
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    (Original post by NomadicNadia)
    I am a lesbian nor bisexual but I do watch lesbian porn and find myself aroused to it. Anyway this girl at my uni kissed me at a drunk party thing and we made out and I liked it. I also like a boy in third year who is really clever and just my type. In terms of sexuality , do I have to define myself or is just a case of being curious even though I am attracted to both genders . I am confused because I'd like to marry a man but the idea of an open relationship with my married partner seems far more appealing. So what do you reckon?
    Don't try to define yourself. Sexuality is fluid and wants to be defined just as much as steam wants to be caught with a spoon.

    Just be happy with who you are. So you find men attractive but you get off to women in porn and you have enjoyed having fun with another girl. That's cool.
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    So don't then. Simple.
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    (Original post by NomadicNadia)
    I am a lesbian nor bisexual but I do watch lesbian porn and find myself aroused to it. Anyway this girl at my uni kissed me at a drunk party thing and we made out and I liked it. I also like a boy in third year who is really clever and just my type. In terms of sexuality , do I have to define myself or is just a case of being curious even though I am attracted to both genders . I am confused because I'd like to marry a man but the idea of an open relationship with my married partner seems far more appealing. So what do you reckon?
    It's 2015. Be whoever and whatever gender/orientation you want. I'm almost certain university is a craven for experimentation and all that jolly stuff. I don't think you have to define yourself personally, but with him & her, perhaps you'd be sending out mixed signals??
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    If you don't feel a need to define yourself, then don't. But if you're looking to a forum for advice, then maybe defining yourself would make you feel more comfortable. In that case give it a definition, but realise that this might be subject to change.

    I'd recommend having a long think about what your preferences are, but try not to see it as a challenge and more like an on-going journey of self discovery (wow that sounds lame af)
 
 
 
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