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started uni this year and the only thing I like to do with my time is Xbox. Perhaps its just because its my escape.

My housemates invite me to go out with them some nights but I know I'm just going to have a miserable time because every time I drink, I just stand there staring into space thinking what the **** is the point of life.It worries me because I'm starting to think I am potentially one of those bad depressed drinkers.

Last night I wanted to have a few beers while at home because **** it, drank that and then drank 2/3 of a wine bottle and felt super down. I put on the Beatles and started crying to myself thinking about some girl I hardly know. I begged for her to help me. It felt good though, because it made me feel a little bit closer to her.

Nothing interests me here. I do not appeared depressed, so life goes on for me, without attracting attention from other people. I dont miss my parents or my family at all. I miss my baby cousin a little bit because he was so cute and funny.

Anyway, I just want to know if anyone experiences being down when drinking, and if I should try something new to have a good time.
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If you get sad when you drink, you're obviously not doing it to 'have a good time'. You're right, you should try something else
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Sometimes instead of alcohol simply perking you up it just 'amplifies' your emotions. This is why alcohol isn't effectively the answer for when you're in a bad state as it can, as you now know, just make it 10 x worse.
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thinking about getting counselling from my uni. (southampton)
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If you get sad when you drink, you're obviously not doing it to 'have a good time'. You're right, you should try something else
I thought drinking before going out would loosen me up and get me to socialise, but obviously I have to try something else.
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You can go out and not drink alcohol. I can have a good time without alcohol. If any judges you for staying sober or tries to convince you that you're 'boring' or whatever, then you don't need that person/those people in your life.
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Sometimes instead of alcohol simply perking you up it just 'amplifies' your emotions. This is why alcohol isn't effectively the answer for when you're in a bad state as it can, as you now know, just make it 10 x worse.
I know that feel. I've seen people who look depressed get drunk and seem like theyrr having a great time. Meanwhile nobody knows I'm depressed (not even I do), I have all the symptoms of depression without actually feeling depressed. If alcohol does amplify how I truly feel, maybe it means I am in a bad state.
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(Original post by BulkingTo6ft)
started uni this year and the only thing I like to do with my time is Xbox. etc etc.
I was in a similar position to you at the start in first year, although i'd banned myself from games when I was at uni. In the end I forgot about games as I was always doing other things. I also got depressed whenever I drank. Alcohol IS a depressant and can amplify what mood you are in. For me it was very rare to drink and have a good time, rarely and only if I was surrounded by really good friends would it be a positive experience.
Don't get me wrong, I didn't drink to excess and I never got drunk, ever. Although I would go home after a night out feeling depressed and sad most of the time.

I realised I was paying money to be unhappy and so I vary rarely went out to clubs etc and only drank at formal events.

In second year I moved and joined a sports society and that became my social life. I was dedicated to that and all my close friends were there. I had maybe only 5 friends outside of it, you know, the ones you sit next to in lecture and do group exercises with. If I wasent in uni, I was generally down at the society doing stuff, then coursework and study slotted in around that.

Because of the nature of the society I saw my friends about 6 hours a day for training and then we'd go to Weatherspoons after that and get some food.
If someone asked if I was free, i'd check the society timetable and then my uni timetable lol

That setup worked pretty well for me although I think it needs some care to make sure you get the work done and I'll say free time was unbelievably tight come third year!! I had a great time overall.

So, think what society you'd like to join, some are more sociable that others and you might bond better in those that test you as a group and are heavily team orientated, such as mine was. Then when you find it, go and join it and have a good time!

Best of luck

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(Original post by BulkingTo6ft)
started uni this year and the only thing I like to do with my time is Xbox. Perhaps its just because its my escape.

My housemates invite me to go out with them some nights but I know I'm just going to have a miserable time because every time I drink, I just stand there staring into space thinking what the **** is the point of life.It worries me because I'm starting to think I am potentially one of those bad depressed drinkers.

Last night I wanted to have a few beers while at home because **** it, drank that and then drank 2/3 of a wine bottle and felt super down. I put on the Beatles and started crying to myself thinking about some girl I hardly know. I begged for her to help me. It felt good though, because it made me feel a little bit closer to her.

Nothing interests me here. I do not appeared depressed, so life goes on for me, without attracting attention from other people. I dont miss my parents or my family at all. I miss my baby cousin a little bit because he was so cute and funny.

Anyway, I just want to know if anyone experiences being down when drinking, and if I should try something new to have a good time.
If you get depressed when you drink, don't drink - simple as that.
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(Original post by BulkingTo6ft)
started uni this year and the only thing I like to do with my time is Xbox. Perhaps its just because its my escape.

My housemates invite me to go out with them some nights but I know I'm just going to have a miserable time because every time I drink, I just stand there staring into space thinking what the **** is the point of life.It worries me because I'm starting to think I am potentially one of those bad depressed drinkers.

Last night I wanted to have a few beers while at home because **** it, drank that and then drank 2/3 of a wine bottle and felt super down. I put on the Beatles and started crying to myself thinking about some girl I hardly know. I begged for her to help me. It felt good though, because it made me feel a little bit closer to her.

Nothing interests me here. I do not appeared depressed, so life goes on for me, without attracting attention from other people. I dont miss my parents or my family at all. I miss my baby cousin a little bit because he was so cute and funny.

Anyway, I just want to know if anyone experiences being down when drinking, and if I should try something new to have a good time.
You're depressed because you're wasting your life ****ing about on your x-box. I would be depressed too if I spent my life doing that.

Solution: sell the x box, get out there and make something of your life. Then when you drink you'll feel happy and euphoric about what a ****ing legend you are.
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You're depressed because you're wasting your life ****ing about on your x-box. I would be depressed too if I spent my life doing that.

Solution: sell the x box, get out there and make something of your life. Then when you drink you'll feel happy and euphoric about what a ****ing legend you are.
Spend it staring down the bottle instead OP!

Not only are you wasting your life you have replaced the xbox with an actual poison so you die sooner :fyi:

Video games are the biggest entertainment industry you know. You are the one being left behind cole-slaw.If gaming is bad for us I don't see how the culture in our society surrounding alcohol can be any better or different or just the general rampant consumerism.

Meanwhile back in reality, I think you need some sense of purpose? Nothing intrinsically wrong with solitary hobbies like video games. But like everything, moderation is key. Why not try to do something with people that doesn't involve booze? Or maybe you are clinically depressed? Go to the doctor and ask for help? I really don't know.
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Spend it staring down the bottle instead OP!
Is that what I said? No. So stop trolling
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Spend it staring down the bottle instead OP!

Not only are you wasting your life you have replaced the xbox with an actual poison so you die sooner :fyi:

Video games are the biggest entertainment industry you know. You are the one being left behind cole-slaw.If gaming is bad for us I don't see how the culture in our society surrounding alcohol can be any better or different or just the general rampant consumerism.

Meanwhile back in reality, I think you need some sense of purpose? Nothing intrinsically wrong with solitary hobbies like video games. But like everything, moderation is key. Why not try to do something with people that doesn't involve booze? Or maybe you are clinically depressed? Go to the doctor and ask for help? I really don't know.
Aren't you an unemployed 25 year old virgin? Do you really think you're in a position to be criticising my advice?
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