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    I'm in yr 13 and preparing for uni next year, however what's troubling me is the way people perceive me and also the fact that I feel really lonely sometimes. I have a small group of friends however I feel that they don't seem to contact me, even when they haven't seen me in a few days and I feel that I can never seem to tell them how lonely I feel enough, in case they don't believe me. I'm not very good at making new friends and I try to have a 'fake 'til you make it' attitude over my confidence, however I'm still scared of just being out going in case people think I'm weird because in the past if I ever tried to be like that people were just repulsed by me. I'm finding it really difficult to concentrate on who I am personally and I'm often worried that no one wants to make friends with me because I'm not interesting enough and I keep saying that I'll try new things so that I can be defined as 'the person that does that' like some of my other friends. I'm too scared to just talk to people in case they see me as being too intrusive and also I'm never actually sure what to say to people, as most people seem to have made loads of friends just from saying random, funny things to each other. I'm just really lost.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in yr 13 and preparing for uni next year, however what's troubling me is the way people perceive me and also the fact that I feel really lonely sometimes. I have a small group of friends however I feel that they don't seem to contact me, even when they haven't seen me in a few days and I feel that I can never seem to tell them how lonely I feel enough, in case they don't believe me. I'm not very good at making new friends and I try to have a 'fake 'til you make it' attitude over my confidence, however I'm still scared of just being out going in case people think I'm weird because in the past if I ever tried to be like that people were just repulsed by me. I'm finding it really difficult to concentrate on who I am personally and I'm often worried that no one wants to make friends with me because I'm not interesting enough and I keep saying that I'll try new things so that I can be defined as 'the person that does that' like some of my other friends. I'm too scared to just talk to people in case they see me as being too intrusive and also I'm never actually sure what to say to people, as most people seem to have made loads of friends just from saying random, funny things to each other. I'm just really lost.
    Hi,
    Just seen your post and although I am probably older than you I am in the same boat. I have never had reliable friends or friends that have actually cared about me but had stayed friends with them just to have something to get me out of the house. Even when I was at Uni it was the same. My confidence is weird. Put me in a stressful customer service environment and I am at home put me in a busy house party and I`ll be so close to the wall I turn into the paint (Am being sarcastic BTW I do know what you are saying though and it is sad that when you have had friends you are still left out and if anything in life is bad its being made unwanted. Personal message me if you wish and we can talk about privately or just reply to this.

    Hope I have been some help
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    For me I'm lonely, but I don't think anyone cares. I just got tired of contacting people but they never did the same.
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    Hey! I relate 100% with what you say. Personally I'm at the point where I can't bother anymore and I just want to focus on myself and on improving myself Think about it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    For me I'm lonely, but I don't think anyone cares. I just got tired of contacting people but they never did the same.
    Personally I do feel the same as in no one cares. Got stood up today for a day out with a work friend for some bowling and carvery.

    Same with contacting people I have come to the point where it is pointless in trying but I try anyway in the hope that one day someone will say c`mon I`ll come out with you but for me it is just plain hope now as it just daft that people that are adults are acting like a four year old haha
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    (Original post by jedanselemyia)
    Hey! I relate 100% with what you say. Personally I'm at the point where I can't bother anymore and I just want to focus on myself and on improving myself Think about it.
    Is uni not going great for you?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in yr 13 and preparing for uni next year, however what's troubling me is the way people perceive me and also the fact that I feel really lonely sometimes. I have a small group of friends however I feel that they don't seem to contact me, even when they haven't seen me in a few days and I feel that I can never seem to tell them how lonely I feel enough, in case they don't believe me. I'm not very good at making new friends and I try to have a 'fake 'til you make it' attitude over my confidence, however I'm still scared of just being out going in case people think I'm weird because in the past if I ever tried to be like that people were just repulsed by me. I'm finding it really difficult to concentrate on who I am personally and I'm often worried that no one wants to make friends with me because I'm not interesting enough and I keep saying that I'll try new things so that I can be defined as 'the person that does that' like some of my other friends. I'm too scared to just talk to people in case they see me as being too intrusive and also I'm never actually sure what to say to people, as most people seem to have made loads of friends just from saying random, funny things to each other. I'm just really lost.
    Me too OP. It's an exhausting never ending circle and it's like you are detached to everyone around you.I know the feeling, I'm in a similar position. What you have to do is focus on yourself, focus on your own ambitions and goals, give yourself to your A levels and try and do the best you can.
    Try to keep in contact with your friends at school. Take it slow, build on your conversations. I haven't spoken some people in the whole week that we've been off but I still talk to them in person.
    If you want to just rant or whatever feel free to PM me
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    (Original post by saeed97)
    Is uni not going great for you?
    It's going okay actually, thank you for asking!
    Friends wise, not so much maybe bc I live at home but I'm used to it.
    Work wise, just need to catch up on a lot of things (thank f for reading week )
    And yourself?
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    I have the same feeling like all my friends are temporary? Sure I have friends but they're more of classmates that I be around with rather than actual friends. It's like secondary school all over again; you think you'll stay in contact with people but as soon as you leave they're gone. Don't worry, it's natural. You need fulfillment, find time for yourself. I think the friends you make at uni will be your life friends because college/sixth form/secondary school friends don't stick around. Well, at least from my experience. Or maybe I'm just cynical
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    (Original post by jedanselemyia)
    It's going okay actually, thank you for asking!
    Friends wise, not so much maybe bc I live at home but I'm used to it.
    Work wise, just need to catch up on a lot of things (thank f for reading week )
    And yourself?
    Yeh im in a similar position to you. I have 'friends' whom i socialise with in lectures and during breaks but the friendship starts on campus and ends on campus so not exactly close lol. (im a home student too, worst part of uni is the commuting lol)
    Ahh the fabled reading week. Such a thing doesnt exist for mechanical engineering
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    (Original post by saeed97)
    Yeh im in a similar position to you. I have 'friends' whom i socialise with in lectures and during breaks but the friendship starts on campus and ends on campus so not exactly close lol. (im a home student too, worst part of uni is the commuting lol)
    Ahh the fabled reading week. Such a thing doesnt exist for mechanical engineering
    Aw I feel you so much on this Tbh there's only one girl I would truly consider a potential very good friend but I'm starting to doubt it haha
    The key is to meet up with people outside the uni context..
    How long does it take you commute?
    Aww Well I have my economics and maths lectures this week tho
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    (Original post by jedanselemyia)
    Aw I feel you so much on this Tbh there's only one girl I would truly consider a potential very good friend but I'm starting to doubt it haha
    The key is to meet up with people outside the uni context..
    How long does it take you commute?
    Aww Well I have my economics and maths lectures this week tho
    I think it'll improve. Most people you see in 'close' friendships are in them just to not be left out so id say good friendships wont forge for another few months so we need to keep our hopes up.
    It takes me about 50+ minutes depending on train times.
    I honestly thought they were taking the piss when they told me last week that reading week is for only 1 module which is a 1 hour lecture but all the rest are still on. I dont even know what the point was lmao.
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    (Original post by saeed97)
    I think it'll improve. Most people you see in 'close' friendships are in them just to not be left out so id say good friendships wont forge for another few months so we need to keep our hopes up.
    It takes me about 50+ minutes depending on train times.
    I honestly thought they were taking the piss when they told me last week that reading week is for only 1 module which is a 1 hour lecture but all the rest are still on. I dont even know what the point was lmao.
    True! No point letting go now when uni has just started really!! It's hard
    Dayummm, that's long
    Lol that is taking the piss in your case! I know people who are going abroad on holiday during reading week and I'm like
 
 
 
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