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Severe depression as result of a baby.. watch

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    Hi all.

    I really need your help.

    I'm struggling with severe depression as a result of a traumatic life event back in January. I found out I was pregnant and wanted to keep it but other half didn't really.
    Went for a scan to find out that actually baby didn't have a heart beat... so you know what happens after that.. </3
    I've been struggling for 9 months and hadn't told my parents until this week when I just couldnt carry on anymore.

    I don't think I want a relationship anymore... after 5 and a half years. I don't know if it is because of this or if I just don't want it anymore.
    Tried bringing it up but other half just burst out crying.. and I couldn't hurt him. But I'm just not happy.
    Parents have said stay with him... others have said to leave.

    Has anybody else been in this situation?

    He has everything planned out... his wage rise, moving out, marriage etc
    No idea if I could live with myself knowing I'd hurt him... but I don't know how else to carry on.

    Any advice is greatly received.

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    Yes, any kind of trauma can cause depression (or ptsd ?) i would see a doc and not do anything re relationship until you are well or know what you want for sure.
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    (Original post by earthworm)
    Yes, any kind of trauma can cause depression (or ptsd ?) i would see a doc and not do anything re relationship until you are well or know what you want for sure.
    Very sorry for your lost, OP - can't imagine what that must have been like

    The above advice is very good and is worth following :console:

    Since you haven't mentioned it I'm just going to throw this out there:

    Maybe seeing the doctor/mental health specialist will a good step forward. Recovery is always a pain in the back-side but the first step to it is getting help. Then after that maybe it'd be possible to reach out to friends and family about it too.

    The relationship part is a little tricky. I also suffered an experience, around 6 months ago, and it is currently effecting my relationship and I didn't want to be with her anymore - Then I decided I should reach out for help, I'm still waiting to be transferred but things have eased between me and my partner as she knows I'm getting help now. Its possible that it could be due to the depression you don't feel like you can be with your partner anymore, but I would suggest seeing how going to the doctors/recovery goes first!

    I hope this has given you some help, I hope things get better OP!
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