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I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 and half years and we are at the same uni, and At the moment he seems to be making far more of an effort with his mates than he does with me.
This summer he is arranging to inter rail travelling with a group of his mates which i don't mind but the thing is he knew I wanted to do that as it was me in the first place that suggested it but he went ahead and suggested to his mates.
He says he will come on holiday with me afterwards interailing go with them for 2 weeks and a week or possibly 2 with me, we were going to go travelling through Croatia and Slovakia. He was going to arrange the other hol with his mates this holiday and met them the other night to do this.
The thing is he told me it still hasn't been fully arranged but when I was out tonight I spoke to one of his mates who says yeh it has and they are doing the Eastern bloc. This has really annoyed me a) because he knew I wanted to go to Croatia and b) he lied to me
I am really fed up, do you thing this is normal, I just feel like jacking the whole thing in and I feel so hurt.
This summer he is arranging to inter rail travelling with a group of his mates which i don't mind but the thing is he knew I wanted to do that as it was me in the first place that suggested it but he went ahead and suggested to his mates.
He says he will come on holiday with me afterwards interailing go with them for 2 weeks and a week or possibly 2 with me, we were going to go travelling through Croatia and Slovakia. He was going to arrange the other hol with his mates this holiday and met them the other night to do this.
The thing is he told me it still hasn't been fully arranged but when I was out tonight I spoke to one of his mates who says yeh it has and they are doing the Eastern bloc. This has really annoyed me a) because he knew I wanted to go to Croatia and b) he lied to me
I am really fed up, do you thing this is normal, I just feel like jacking the whole thing in and I feel so hurt.
Reply 1
15
Sit him down and tell him it hurt you. Don't mention it in context of the holiday; that you wanted to go to Croatia, tell him in the context of your feelings; make it clear you're explaining about him hurting you, regardless of the subject matter.
He might have just got carried away planning with his friends, it's easy to do, and someone else was jsut suggesting things and he was going with the flow. Once he realises he's upset you, maybe he'll change arrangements a bit; Interrailing is quite flexible afterall.
Good luck. I'd say give him a chance though if this is the first big issue between you.
He might have just got carried away planning with his friends, it's easy to do, and someone else was jsut suggesting things and he was going with the flow. Once he realises he's upset you, maybe he'll change arrangements a bit; Interrailing is quite flexible afterall.
Good luck. I'd say give him a chance though if this is the first big issue between you.
Reply 2
This man is unreliable and a liar.
Reply 3
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I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 and half years and we are at the same uni, and At the moment he seems to be making far more of an effort with his mates than he does with me.
This summer he is arranging to inter rail travelling with a group of his mates which i don't mind but the thing is he knew I wanted to do that as it was me in the first place that suggested it but he went ahead and suggested to his mates.
He says he will come on holiday with me afterwards interailing go with them for 2 weeks and a week or possibly 2 with me, we were going to go travelling through Croatia and Slovakia. He was going to arrange the other hol with his mates this holiday and met them the other night to do this.
The thing is he told me it still hasn't been fully arranged but when I was out tonight I spoke to one of his mates who says yeh it has and they are doing the Eastern bloc. This has really annoyed me a) because he knew I wanted to go to Croatia and b) he lied to me
I am really fed up, do you thing this is normal, I just feel like jacking the whole thing in and I feel so hurt.
This summer he is arranging to inter rail travelling with a group of his mates which i don't mind but the thing is he knew I wanted to do that as it was me in the first place that suggested it but he went ahead and suggested to his mates.
He says he will come on holiday with me afterwards interailing go with them for 2 weeks and a week or possibly 2 with me, we were going to go travelling through Croatia and Slovakia. He was going to arrange the other hol with his mates this holiday and met them the other night to do this.
The thing is he told me it still hasn't been fully arranged but when I was out tonight I spoke to one of his mates who says yeh it has and they are doing the Eastern bloc. This has really annoyed me a) because he knew I wanted to go to Croatia and b) he lied to me
I am really fed up, do you thing this is normal, I just feel like jacking the whole thing in and I feel so hurt.
Of course you have a right. If my gf proposed that, I'd actually put her first and go with her. In my books, whoever proposes first should get priority!
Reply 4
This reminds me of a topic that was made some time ago....
I would be annoyed too. I suggest you sit him down and explain how you are feeling. The only way that he will know how you are feeling is if you tell him. Don't make it into an argument, but be firm with him and tell him what you think of the situation.
You suggested it, you should have been put first. It could have been an honest mistake, he got ahead of himself and blurted it out. These things happen but that isn't an excuse, I honestly don't blame you for being annoyed.
I would be annoyed too. I suggest you sit him down and explain how you are feeling. The only way that he will know how you are feeling is if you tell him. Don't make it into an argument, but be firm with him and tell him what you think of the situation.
You suggested it, you should have been put first. It could have been an honest mistake, he got ahead of himself and blurted it out. These things happen but that isn't an excuse, I honestly don't blame you for being annoyed.
Reply 5
see if any of your mates want to do it instead?
i think its a shame that he's decided to organise a holiday with his mates instead of you and i totally agree with leigh and louise that you should share your thoughts with him.
i think its a shame that he's decided to organise a holiday with his mates instead of you and i totally agree with leigh and louise that you should share your thoughts with him.
Reply 6
He is entitled to his friends outside of your relationship but I do think what he's done there is harsh on you, just tell him how you feel.
Reply 7
Bros before hoes.
Reply 8
10
Talk to him about it. His promised to take you away anyway.
He is allowed to have a holiday without you and maybe him and his friend have their wires crossed?
Don't get angery just yet
He is allowed to have a holiday without you and maybe him and his friend have their wires crossed?
Don't get angery just yet
Reply 9
17
It looks as though you have different priorities.
He is your first priority but the reverse is not true. Are you willing to accept this?
He is your first priority but the reverse is not true. Are you willing to accept this?
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