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    Hi all,

    Really need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years, I wouldn't say we've always had the best relationship, a bit up & down but we have a 16 month old little boy which is why I'm so stuck with what to do. My boyfriend hasn't had a job for close to 2 years now, I work 6 days a week every week aswell as looking after our son and he sees us 3 days a week and doesn't work, this is obviously annoying me that I am providing for our son by myself, in the whole 16 months that my son has been here aswell as the 9 months of pregnancy my BF has bought 1 outfit, 1 pair of shoes, 2 toys and 2 packs of nappies. I buy the rest. Not only that, my BF is always asking me for money. He will nag and nag me for hours if I say no to the point he stresses me out so much that I give in. I had a stroke a year ago and I feel very stressed out which is not good for my health. In the 4 years we've been together, he's bought me birthday and christmas presents 1 year out of 4 as last year I had to buy my own and make out he bought them so he didn't look bad to my family. My parents are not a fan of his as you can imagine but I'm so lost and confused about what to do. I dont want to break up our family, I love him and bonding/playing wise he's great with our son but as a provider he's useless and he can't look after us or help to provide for us. What would u do in my situation please? Help! 😥

    thought you posted this already

    Tell him straight out how you feel, dont bottle in your emotions, try to negotiate, youre really brave to have held up four years tbh - and tell him to get lost if hes not willing to shift then. its either in or out, lifes too short to waste it on a lost cause, besides you have to think for your child's future too
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