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    Hey guys

    So I'm looking for some advice really. There's a guy who's a friend who fancies me but I don't fancy him. I have told him this and that I only see him as a friend. Me, him and a few others were on a night out and he wanted to talk to me privately which then I thought ok I'll hear what he says. He was then banging on about how much he likes me and what should he do to get me out of his head. I then gently/firmly told him I only see him as a friend and nothing more, and I wasn't sure what he should about getting me out of his head (I realise I shouldn't of said that last bit now). Anyway a little while later I decided to go home and he still wanted to talk to me which I was then had enough of talking tbf plus I told him how I felt. Now he keeps bringing up that he likes me and it's slowly starting to annoy me as I'm not even sure if he fully understands what I said about me liking him as a friend, and I'm not even sure what to do as I feel like he's kinda harassing me :/

    So what I'm looking for really is advice? Any is welcome thanks
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    Hey, I've been where you are, and its difficult because you don't want to hurt him, yet you want him to listen.. I personally think you need to sit him down and say something like "I understand that you like me, however, my feelings haven't changed, I still don't see you in the way you see me. I like being your friend, but I don't feel anything more than a friendship. Please understand"

    Or something I'm not exactly the best, but I hope it gets sorted A.S.A.P.. Do you go to college or school with him?
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    Heey. I think that perhaps if you were nice to him, get to know him and become friends with him, he might back off as he would completely understand that your not attracted to him. This could work as people always want what they can't have. In your case, the more you resist talking to him and being nice to him, the more resilient he is going to be in wanting to be with you. If becoming friends with him works, you could then try to help him get over you. However, this could easily backfire so if this doesn't work, you could tell his parents, your parents, teachers etc...
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    (Original post by abbie1998xo)
    Hey, I've been where you are, and its difficult because you don't want to hurt him, yet you want him to listen.. I personally think you need to sit him down and say something like "I understand that you like me, however, my feelings haven't changed, I still don't see you in the way you see me. I like being your friend, but I don't feel anything more than a friendship. Please understand"

    Or something I'm not exactly the best, but I hope it gets sorted A.S.A.P.. Do you go to college or school with him?
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    Yeah I'll try and get another moment with him ASAP and attempt to tell him again

    Thanks and I work with him, but I'm only in work 3 days a week due to uni
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    (Original post by SourSkittles178)
    Heey. I think that perhaps if you were nice to him, get to know him and become friends with him, he might back off as he would completely understand that your not attracted to him. This could work as people always want what they can't have. In your case, the more you resist talking to him and being nice to him, the more resilient he is going to be in wanting to be with you. If becoming friends with him works, you could then try to help him get over you. However, this could easily backfire so if this doesn't work, you could tell his parents, your parents, teachers etc...
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    Well I am friends with him, and known him for about a year now and he's made his feelings clear to me over the last few weeks and I did hear him out during a night out but I decided to go home as I was tired/kinda had too much to drink and I had work the next day, so never really spoke to him after the conversation that night as I wanted to go home but I'm just trying to figure out a way to help him get over me....
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    Stop being "friends" with him.
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    Could you ask your boss to move you to a part of the job so you aren't working with him if he gets too bad?
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    (Original post by abbie1998xo)
    Could you ask your boss to move you to a part of the job so you aren't working with him if he gets too bad?
    We're on different departments/floors but even then when I'm working and he comes up for whatever reason he'll come over and try and talk to me when I'm working myself.. :/
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    (Original post by ubisoft)
    Stop being "friends" with him.
    Could try, but if anyone at work realises then they'll be wanting to know why as they're all nosey buggers :/
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Could try, but if anyone at work realises then they'll be wanting to know why as they're all nosey buggers :/
    Stop with all the socialising at work. You go there to get your paycheck and leave. Being friends with coworkers always creates problem. Don't gossip.
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    I personally wouldn't try and befriend him anymore than you already have if he is not getting it. He's either pushing his luck or he's an idiot.

    I mean it's a nice compliment to you that someone likes you that much, but really, no is no.

    There's someone I work with and I let her know my feelings, she politely said thanks but no thanks. That was the end of that, we get on really well as before, we hang out one on one and also in groups. No awkwardness, no nothing.

    If someone told me no, the last thing I'd be doing is what he's doing. I'm not sure how he's not understanding the fact you've said no? Maybe you've said it too nicely? He might think there's room for persuasion. You have to give him a bit of tough love and straight up tell him to respect your boundaries and your decision or you can't be friends with him, simple as. Maybe he'll get the message then?
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    (Original post by ubisoft)
    Stop with all the socialising at work. You go there to get your paycheck and leave. Being friends with coworkers always creates problem. Don't gossip.
    During work hours I only talk to my coworkers about work, but they easily pick up stuff they think that might be worthy of gossip. I try and keep out of hearing gossip as much as I can..
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    (Original post by MaseratiJay)
    I personally wouldn't try and befriend him anymore than you already have if he is not getting it. He's either pushing his luck or he's an idiot.

    I mean it's a nice compliment to you that someone likes you that much, but really, no is no.

    There's someone I work with and I let her know my feelings, she politely said thanks but no thanks. That was the end of that, we get on really well as before, we hang out one on one and also in groups. No awkwardness, no nothing.

    If someone told me no, the last thing I'd be doing is what he's doing. I'm not sure how he's not understanding the fact you've said no? Maybe you've said it too nicely? He might think there's room for persuasion. You have to give him a bit of tough love and straight up tell him to respect your boundaries and your decision or you can't be friends with him, simple as. Maybe he'll get the message then?
    Yeah exactly. I mean don't get me wrong it is a nice compliment, and if I did feel the same way, then something would happen.

    Aw ok. I may have said it too nicely when I thought I was being firm/being clear. Yeah I'll do that, being 100% tough/firm if he does bring it up..

    Thanks
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    Yeah exactly. I mean don't get me wrong it is a nice compliment, and if I did feel the same way, then something would happen.

    Aw ok. I may have said it too nicely when I thought I was being firm/being clear. Yeah I'll do that, being 100% tough/firm if he does bring it up..

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    You're more than welcome
    I hope he gets it the next time you tell him haha. Hopefully he'll just accept it gracefully but obviously some people get all..I don't even know how to describe it but it's almost like they stop talking and start ignoring you etc but let's hope he won't do that. Especially when you work in the same building!

    Firm should always work
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    oh right, to be honest if he's getting bad, you should probably speak to your boss.. If he genuinely won't leave you alone, it could get stressful and affect your work, which I'm sure you don't want.. His/your boss may help you if you feel the way I do about this person
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    (Original post by MaseratiJay)
    You're more than welcome
    I hope he gets it the next time you tell him haha. Hopefully he'll just accept it gracefully but obviously some people get all..I don't even know how to describe it but it's almost like they stop talking and start ignoring you etc but let's hope he won't do that. Especially when you work in the same building!

    Firm should always work
    Yeah exactly
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    (Original post by abbie1998xo)
    oh right, to be honest if he's getting bad, you should probably speak to your boss.. If he genuinely won't leave you alone, it could get stressful and affect your work, which I'm sure you don't want.. His/your boss may help you if you feel the way I do about this person

    Thanks
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    say to him "hey! hey BUDDY...back off BUDDY!"
 
 
 
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