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    So, I've been friends with a friend of mine for quite a while now. She and I have all the same interests and she's starting to get into my music taste. We have a prom next year for us year 11s and I decided I better ask someone to come. I decided to ask her as we're such good friends and she said yes. But then I went on holiday and we've spoken one since going back to school. It's kinda got a little awkward and I'm scared for what's going to happen. I'm kinda scared to talk to her but she seems to be straying away from me a little as well. I just want to become better friends and make sure we maintain a decent relationship for prom. Can anyone help me work out what to do in this situation?
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    Try to compare how you acted before and how you're acting now. Often, we shift our behavior. Let things stay mellow. I would try hanging out in person rather than online, so you can read how she's feeling a bit more. Sometimes girls (speaking from experience!!) get a little nervous when there seems to be a relationship starting. It's a bit scary! Just be honest and make sure she knows you're there, but absolutely do not bug her all the time!
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    girls wont get you the 10A* you need for your GCSES. Focus on your studies as the grades will be with you forever not the chickaaa
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    (Original post by Ripper Phoenix)
    girls wont get you the 10A* you need for your GCSES. Focus on your studies as the grades will be with you forever not the chickaaa
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    I focused just on grades and studying at that age and not socialising + girls and now I regret it because if Id tryed harder and done a few things different I could have maybe spejt the last 1-2 years with a girlfriend and would have been able to hold her hand walking to school and kiss her gently and run my hands through her hair and hear her beautiful voice ringing through my ears like a lullaby from heaven
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    (Original post by sjohnson98)
    Try to compare how you acted before and how you're acting now. Often, we shift our behavior. Let things stay mellow. I would try hanging out in person rather than online, so you can read how she's feeling a bit more. Sometimes girls (speaking from experience!!) get a little nervous when there seems to be a relationship starting. It's a bit scary! Just be honest and make sure she knows you're there, but absolutely do not bug her all the time!
    Ok, good idea. I speak to her a lot on skype and texting etc. However, at school she's got quite a few people around her and I'm a little scared. I'll try and edge a bit closer and speak to her.
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    (Original post by Forumaddict)
    I focused just on grades and studying at that age and not socialising + girls and now I regret it because if Id tryed harder and done a few things different I could have maybe spejt the last 1-2 years with a girlfriend and would have been able to hold her hand walking to school and kiss her gently and run my hands through her hair and hear her beautiful voice ringing through my ears like a lullaby from heaven
    That description at the end was amazing. I wish you luck with finding a girl. I've got all these ideas in my head but I'm just waiting to find the right girl. Autumn walks, Ben and Jerrys and movies, star gazing. Just gotta find the right one Good luck
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    (Original post by Roryd673)
    Ok, good idea. I speak to her a lot on skype and texting etc. However, at school she's got quite a few people around her and I'm a little scared. I'll try and edge a bit closer and speak to her.
    Yeah absolutely! But keep in mind that if there is a relationship budding, relationships aren't perfect. There's peer pressure and so many things can go wrong. Don't expect heaven, but strive for it and things should go well.
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    (Original post by sjohnson98)
    Yeah absolutely! But keep in mind that if there is a relationship budding, relationships aren't perfect. There's peer pressure and so many things can go wrong. Don't expect heaven, but strive for it and things should go well.
    I'd like to be in a relationship with her as we get on so well but if I go out with her and it doesn't work out well then I won't have a date for prom and then I'll be really down. I think if it works then I'll ask her out close to prom so that there's a chance for things to happen.
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    (Original post by Roryd673)
    I'd like to be in a relationship with her as we get on so well but if I go out with her and it doesn't work out well then I won't have a date for prom and then I'll be really down. I think if it works then I'll ask her out close to prom so that there's a chance for things to happen.
    There's definitely a danger in asking people to prom too early! But do what's natural
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    (Original post by sjohnson98)
    There's definitely a danger in asking people to prom too early! But do what's natural
    I needed to ask her because I think there's a couple of people who like her and I didn't want her to become unavailable so I needed to ask otherwise I'd never forgive myself if she went with someone else :/
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    Are there anomalies in the data or are you struggling with the calculations? I suggest you ask the members in the maths section of TSR.
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    (Original post by Roryd673)
    That description at the end was amazing. I wish you luck with finding a girl. I've got all these ideas in my head but I'm just waiting to find the right girl. Autumn walks, Ben and Jerrys and movies, star gazing. Just gotta find the right one Good luck
    I wish more than anything to have a gf
 
 
 
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