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My mum says some silly things.....
my mum and i have had another fall out because she said something really silly and I wasn't happy with it, so told her so.
Basically, my little brother (aged four) has ADHD which means he is hyperactive and can't sit still without getting distracted. He is badly behaved at times and my mum is constantly moaning to me about him on msn. I said to her, hes a little boy, he wants things to do, he gets bored, therefore suggested that she maybe takes him swimming once a week.
Her response? "he's not disabled you know."
My response to this was that not all kids that go swimming with their parents are disabled, he needs things to do, he's at the hospital three days a week being "tested" on by all these behaviour experts and its not fair on him to miss out on stuff.
I thought her comment was very stupid, she said I didn't know what I was talking about so after that I suggested we stop talking on msn. I don't know why Im posting this other than I am so annoyed with her being like this.
Basically, my little brother (aged four) has ADHD which means he is hyperactive and can't sit still without getting distracted. He is badly behaved at times and my mum is constantly moaning to me about him on msn. I said to her, hes a little boy, he wants things to do, he gets bored, therefore suggested that she maybe takes him swimming once a week.
Her response? "he's not disabled you know."
My response to this was that not all kids that go swimming with their parents are disabled, he needs things to do, he's at the hospital three days a week being "tested" on by all these behaviour experts and its not fair on him to miss out on stuff.
I thought her comment was very stupid, she said I didn't know what I was talking about so after that I suggested we stop talking on msn. I don't know why Im posting this other than I am so annoyed with her being like this.
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ha, you can even find her on myspace, where she has practically cut and paste all my music/films into her own profile. Embarrassment.
i don't want to be anon anymore its boring.
She also gets annoyed with me when I'm chatting to someone else on msn, if I don't reply to her within three seconds she says "well if your busy with other people then fine, i get the message."
No wonder my little brother is all messed up. I feel really bad for him.
i don't want to be anon anymore its boring.
She also gets annoyed with me when I'm chatting to someone else on msn, if I don't reply to her within three seconds she says "well if your busy with other people then fine, i get the message."
No wonder my little brother is all messed up. I feel really bad for him.
well, i agree with ur mum. Stop being such a drama queen
I'm just amazed that your mum uses msn and myspace, lol.
In the meantime... I dunno, we don't always agree with our parents. And what with them having raised us n' all they get the feeling that they know best. I believe in respecting your parents [this rule goes out with abuse] but they need to take account for their actions as well. Hm... I think what's most important here is your lil bro. Is there any way you can take him swimming? Maybe any positive effects will be seen by your mum and she'll take it on board. Tangible evidence is always good.
In the meantime... I dunno, we don't always agree with our parents. And what with them having raised us n' all they get the feeling that they know best. I believe in respecting your parents [this rule goes out with abuse] but they need to take account for their actions as well. Hm... I think what's most important here is your lil bro. Is there any way you can take him swimming? Maybe any positive effects will be seen by your mum and she'll take it on board. Tangible evidence is always good.
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well, i agree with ur mum. Stop being such a drama queen
jeez I hope this person gets negged as I have!!!
Don't listen to this person Shockley. You have every reason to feel the way you do.
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I'm just amazed that your mum uses msn and myspace, lol.
In the meantime... I dunno, we don't always agree with our parents. And what with them having raised us n' all they get the feeling that they know best. I believe in respecting your parents [this rule goes out with abuse] but they need to take account for their actions as well. Hm... I think what's most important here is your lil bro. Is there any way you can take him swimming? Maybe any positive effects will be seen by your mum and she'll take it on board. Tangible evidence is always good.
In the meantime... I dunno, we don't always agree with our parents. And what with them having raised us n' all they get the feeling that they know best. I believe in respecting your parents [this rule goes out with abuse] but they need to take account for their actions as well. Hm... I think what's most important here is your lil bro. Is there any way you can take him swimming? Maybe any positive effects will be seen by your mum and she'll take it on board. Tangible evidence is always good.
When I spend time with my little brother maybe every two weeks if I get time to visit home, he is well behaved because I take him for walks with the dog and I listen to him chatter away. He likes being with me because I take an interest. Whereas, my mum gets "stressed" with him which is understandable but all they do to make him be quiet is give him food or put a dvd on. No interaction whatsoever. i feel sorry for the poor lad.
Shockley
When I spend time with my little brother maybe every two weeks if I get time to visit home, he is well behaved because I take him for walks with the dog and I listen to him chatter away. He likes being with me because I take an interest. Whereas, my mum gets "stressed" with him which is understandable but all they do to make him be quiet is give him food or put a dvd on. No interaction whatsoever. i feel sorry for the poor lad.
Ahhh, I assumed you were at home for some reason, which explains msn more...
Hm. I can't personally give any advice but best of luck to you; your mum needs to realise your lil bro's needs.
Shockley
ha, you can even find her on myspace, where she has practically cut and paste all my music/films into her own profile. Embarrassment.
i don't want to be anon anymore its boring.
She also gets annoyed with me when I'm chatting to someone else on msn, if I don't reply to her within three seconds she says "well if your busy with other people then fine, i get the message."
No wonder my little brother is all messed up. I feel really bad for him.
i don't want to be anon anymore its boring.
She also gets annoyed with me when I'm chatting to someone else on msn, if I don't reply to her within three seconds she says "well if your busy with other people then fine, i get the message."
No wonder my little brother is all messed up. I feel really bad for him.
That is so embarrasing! You poor girl *consoles* 
Seriously that's not too bad, at least yours, urgh, didn't do half the things mine did (did I mention she stole from me about a month ago)
:/Overall I agree with Blackswan though on this (aw thanks mate, save the day
).PS. How did other matter go??Shockley
When I spend time with my little brother maybe every two weeks if I get time to visit home, he is well behaved because I take him for walks with the dog and I listen to him chatter away. He likes being with me because I take an interest. Whereas, my mum gets "stressed" with him which is understandable but all they do to make him be quiet is give him food or put a dvd on. No interaction whatsoever. i feel sorry for the poor lad.
As you've already come to find parents don't necessarily always know/do what's best.
My response to this was that not all kids that go swimming with their parents are disabled, he needs things to do, he's at the hospital three days a week being "tested" on by all these behaviour experts and its not fair on him to miss out on stuff.
My brother is disabled in many way- not physically but speech, communication and behaviour problems so he goes to a special needs school because of this. Swimming for your brother sounds like a brillant suggestion as this will give him a chance to enjoy something. My mum takes my brother to karate and football every week for years now. He enjoys it so much and as well as being made striker for The Able To United football team and been made a black belt, he has also made many friends. Therefore suggesting swimming is a brillant idea to your mum as your brother would have something to look foward to and also make new friends. I would also recommend suggesting karate lessons to your mum as it would teach your brother self discipline as it has taught my brother and give him something to look foward to- perhaps make new friends as well
My brother is disabled in many way- not physically but speech, communication and behaviour problems so he goes to a special needs school because of this. Swimming for your brother sounds like a brillant suggestion as this will give him a chance to enjoy something. My mum takes my brother to karate and football every week for years now. He enjoys it so much and as well as being made striker for The Able To United football team and been made a black belt, he has also made many friends. Therefore suggesting swimming is a brillant idea to your mum as your brother would have something to look foward to and also make new friends. I would also recommend suggesting karate lessons to your mum as it would teach your brother self discipline as it has taught my brother and give him something to look foward to- perhaps make new friends as well
Just a random thought, but maybe your mum sees him as having some sort of disability. I mean, obviously that's not the case, but as he's been given a "label" and has to have all these tests and whatnot, she might see him as being different. Her yelling at you for what she might see as giving him special treatment might just reflect that she's confused about how to do what's best for him without feeling like she's treating him differently.
Does that make any sense at all??
Does that make any sense at all??
TBH, it sounds like your mum cant cope with your son, even though ADHD is not as severe as many other disabilities. In which case its not really her fault. She may need parent support in the form of someone to talk to who's qualified to talk about this sort of thing. Has she tried this?
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