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    I'm currently feeling like I'm drifting through life, I'm 22 work full time but go to university at night to get a degree that will benefit my job. In my free time I go to the gym and go watching the football and rugby however when I see people who I want to school with moving in with their partners and having children it makes me question what am I doing with my life. I really feel like I'm just drifting through life and not achieving anything because I'm not in a relationship, buying a house or becoming a parent and at the moment I feel like the only way I can truly be happy is to find someone to start a relationship with even though deep down I know that a relationship will not always make you happy.

    Can anyone offer any advice?
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    That all sounds like grown up stuff...i.e scary
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    I feel like I'm ready for all that grown up stuff though.
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    (Original post by MikePL)
    I'm currently feeling like I'm drifting through life, I'm 22 work full time but go to university at night to get a degree that will benefit my job. In my free time I go to the gym and go watching the football and rugby however when I see people who I want to school with moving in with their partners and having children it makes me question what am I doing with my life. I really feel like I'm just drifting through life and not achieving anything because I'm not in a relationship, buying a house or becoming a parent and at the moment I feel like the only way I can truly be happy is to find someone to start a relationship with even though deep down I know that a relationship will not always make you happy.

    Can anyone offer any advice?
    Lad, I think you need to netflix and chill!
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    (Original post by MikePL)
    deep down I know that a relationship will not always make you happy.
    Maybe you could try having one. Maybe it makes you happy.
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    (Original post by MikePL)
    I'm currently feeling like I'm drifting through life, I'm 22 work full time but go to university at night to get a degree that will benefit my job. In my free time I go to the gym and go watching the football and rugby however when I see people who I want to school with moving in with their partners and having children it makes me question what am I doing with my life. I really feel like I'm just drifting through life and not achieving anything because I'm not in a relationship, buying a house or becoming a parent and at the moment I feel like the only way I can truly be happy is to find someone to start a relationship with even though deep down I know that a relationship will not always make you happy.
    Can anyone offer any advice?
    is too youtrust me! 22 is too young for a serious relationship these days, wait till your 30, attractive as hell, hella of a lot of money and a great personality and girls will be at your feet.just chill dude
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    (Original post by waqasabbasi)
    Maybe you could try having one. Maybe it makes you happy.
    I have tried to get into a relationship but I have had no luck, I'm sort of in a vicious cycle at the minute.
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    (Original post by MikePL)
    I have tried to get into a relationship but I have had no luck, I'm sort of in a vicious cycle at the minute.
    I agree with sebe0062 that 22 is too young to get married and have children. Just because your schoolmates are doing that, it doesn't mean you should too. Explore life and find things that YOU enjoy
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    be glad, kids piss me off so much, even my own niece.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I agree with sebe0062 that 22 is too young to get married and have children. Just because your schoolmates are doing that, it doesn't mean you should too. Explore life and find things that YOU enjoy
    I currently am doing things that I enjoy the problem is I'm starting to think I would like someone to do them with.
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    No need to keep comparing yourself with others. You're not really drifting when you've got a stable job and university qualification on the way. I'm around the same age as you and don't know anyone whose even considering settling down (i.e. marriage, kids) yet. As for buying a house, that may be something to start thinking about for the future but likewise, there aren't any 22 year olds I know who are close to getting their foot on the property ladder.
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    (Original post by frozen_fire)
    No need to keep comparing yourself with others. You're not really drifting when you've got a stable job and university qualification on the way. I'm around the same age as you and don't know anyone whose even considering settling down (i.e. marriage, kids) yet. As for buying a house, that may be something to start thinking about for the future but likewise, there aren't any 22 year olds I know who are close to getting their foot on the property ladder.
    Thanks that makes a lot of sense being able to see things from a different point of view.
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    Serious relationship and a house at 22? No thanks. Enjoy life with little responsibility while you can bro.
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    (Original post by MikePL)
    I'm currently feeling like I'm drifting through life, I'm 22 work full time but go to university at night to get a degree that will benefit my job. In my free time I go to the gym and go watching the football and rugby however when I see people who I want to school with moving in with their partners and having children it makes me question what am I doing with my life. I really feel like I'm just drifting through life and not achieving anything because I'm not in a relationship, buying a house or becoming a parent and at the moment I feel like the only way I can truly be happy is to find someone to start a relationship with even though deep down I know that a relationship will not always make you happy.

    Can anyone offer any advice?
    For once someone of your age who wants to grab life by the balls! My advice would be: take baby steps and set realistic goals to feel like you are progressing in life, e.g.:

    1. Plan on how you want to further your career upon completing your degree
    2. Start saving for a mortgage or for a rainy day
    3. Start going out and meeting people
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    Your 22 though. 'becoming a parent'?!?! lol Whattt?

    You're doing great tbh, you're working, getting an education, enjoying your hobbies and you go to the gym so you're being healthy. The whole package there really, you're doing great for 22 imo!
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    My advice; I wouldn't worry about serious relationships just yet, but rather would focus on having some fun. 22 is an age when you can drift a little and that's aright. As for the empty feeling, I reckon you mightn't have as much of a life as you think. You could try doing more stuff outside of The Career and if you don't have any close friends, then you could try and find some among people who like things you do. There are tons of things that are super interesting (or seemingly so) that people never get round to trying like surfing, hang-gliding, opera, karaoke, rock concerts, cooking etc. Literally Thousands, though not just 6. Trying this stuff while you have youth might do you good.Or don't do any of this stuff and don't worry about it, I won't tell you what to do.
 
 
 
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