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    I'm in my second year of college and I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety or a severe lack of confidence. I have no friends at college and I spend all my breaks in the library. Every morning and evening I am anxious about the next day at college, anxious that I may have to do group work in one of my lessons and I'll be left out, or that a teacher will ask me a question and I'll end up stuttering or saying the wrong answer.

    I've seen a doctor and he referred me to someone on the NHS, who decided I didn't need specialist treatment. Then I went to the YMCA to see if I could use their free counselling service. I was put on a waiting list two months ago and haven't heard anything, even though the waiting time was meant to be 3 weeks.

    I'm planning to go to uni from 2017 and I can't bare three more years of isolation, especially as I may be staying away from home. Please can someone tell me what to do?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm in my second year of college and I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety or a severe lack of confidence. I have no friends at college and I spend all my breaks in the library.

    I'm planning to go to uni from 2017 and I can't bare three more years of isolation, especially as I may be staying away from home. Please can someone tell me what to do?
    You have no friends? well.. since you have social anxiety i'm guessing you cannot go to them first right? How about just smiling at someone you thought you wanted to befriend? (just so they come to you to initiate the conversation?)

    Or try/start with social media if you can. Should be easier as you wouldn't be talking to them face to face and you could feel more comfortable behind the computer.
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    Every morning and evening I am anxious about the next day at college, anxious that I may have to do group work in one of my lessons and I'll be left out, or that a teacher will ask me a question and I'll end up stuttering or saying the wrong answer.
    Also, always bear in mind; most of the things we worry about never even happen

    This has helped me worry less about so many things!

    Hope it helps!
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    I have an idea how you feel! I was quiet and didn't have many friends at school. I'm now at uni and, although I'm still fairly quiet, I'm definitely a lot more confident. To be honest it only really sank in that I was going to move away for uni on results day. I was sure I wasn't going to get in to my first choice but they accepted me with 30 points below my offer so it was totally unexpected ... I was petrified! Now, wherever I go, I seem to spot people I know and we say hi! I've make most of my friends through societies and accommodation. I think you'll find that uni is very different to school in that most people are willing to talk as long as you don't say anything nasty! In the meantime, smile at people and ask them what they got up to in the weekend etc.
 
 
 
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