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    Terribly sorry if this is the wrong place; am a 21 year old female, studying a foundation degree in early years in England; have Aspergers and Dyspraxia and also am a part time carer for my severely autistic brother who has violent tendencies.Our parents have health problems too so leaving them too it doesn't sit right with me; especially as although I love my brother he's put people in hospital when he was at school and my parents do not want him to go full time; that and care providers say he's too much of a safety risk.

    Anyway; I did a year of a level 3 btec at college 2 years ago; left due to not having the cash to continue on to the full extended diploma. So left to try get a job; one of the worst experiences of my life; my family put a lot of pressure on me; I was at my wits end; and I finally got a job after 3 months; got made to wait 4 months to start and was treated so badly; thrown in with no training in a particularly dangerous situation.

    My dream has always been to work with small children and now am on a course that allows me to achieve this; however it has proven somewhat difficult; since I left college I had recurrent bouts of tonsillitis; so severe and horrible along with ear infections the tonsils came out in August. However am only just getting the referalls to specialists now coming through in the post; have had to take more time off than I would like right now as it hurts to even walk; consistently vomiting; got a constant headache; feel tearful most days. On antidepressants at the moment too for depression and anxiety.

    I have a DSA, but unfortunately student finance are digging in their heels regarding transport for me; as the college *which is the nearest to me* is over an hour and a half away not counting in the half hours walk from the bus stop* Although the lessons are one day a week, the lessons end at 8pm, but by the time I get home, I can hardly move.

    One of my assignments is to do an observation on a child in the setting I am volunteering in, which is unfortunately proven hard as I've been unable to attend placement consistently though have made the days up recently in the half term break which meant of course I haven't been able to properly rest as the days I do have off are filled with other assignments.

    I know the sensible thing would have been to defer, but last year trying to get a job was the worst of my life; it felt utterly hopeless; interview after interview and never getting anywhere That and with the government cuts to grants and funding with my family on a very low income I know I probably wouldn't afford to do the course next year. Regarding the observations too, I have to do a ten minute presentation to my class in two weeks time on my observation findings I just don't know what to do
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    Hi All

    Terribly sorry if this is the wrong place; am a 21 year old female, studying a foundation degree in early years in England; have Aspergers and Dyspraxia and also am a part time carer for my severely autistic brother who has violent tendencies.Our parents have health problems too so leaving them too it doesn't sit right with me; especially as although I love my brother he's put people in hospital when he was at school and my parents do not want him to go full time; that and care providers say he's too much of a safety risk.

    Anyway; I did a year of a level 3 btec at college 2 years ago; left due to not having the cash to continue on to the full extended diploma. So left to try get a job; one of the worst experiences of my life; my family put a lot of pressure on me; I was at my wits end; and I finally got a job after 3 months; got made to wait 4 months to start and was treated so badly; thrown in with no training in a particularly dangerous situation.

    My dream has always been to work with small children and now am on a course that allows me to achieve this; however it has proven somewhat difficult; since I left college I had recurrent bouts of tonsillitis; so severe and horrible along with ear infections the tonsils came out in August. However am only just getting the referalls to specialists now coming through in the post; have had to take more time off than I would like right now as it hurts to even walk; consistently vomiting; got a constant headache; feel tearful most days. On antidepressants at the moment too for depression and anxiety.

    I have a DSA, but unfortunately student finance are digging in their heels regarding transport for me; as the college *which is the nearest to me* is over an hour and a half away not counting in the half hours walk from the bus stop* Although the lessons are one day a week, the lessons end at 8pm, but by the time I get home, I can hardly move.

    One of my assignments is to do an observation on a child in the setting I am volunteering in, which is unfortunately proven hard as I've been unable to attend placement consistently though have made the days up recently in the half term break which meant of course I haven't been able to properly rest as the days I do have off are filled with other assignments.

    I know the sensible thing would have been to defer, but last year trying to get a job was the worst of my life; it felt utterly hopeless; interview after interview and never getting anywhere That and with the government cuts to grants and funding with my family on a very low income I know I probably wouldn't afford to do the course next year. Regarding the observations too, I have to do a ten minute presentation to my class in two weeks time on my observation findings I just don't know what to do
    Have you spoken to uni support services about this to see if there's anything they can offer? Honestly I'm not too sure what they could do in your situation but them knowing some of what's going on can't be a bad thing and there might be something they can do taht makes things a little bit easier. If you need to stop or go part time (this could be an option?) then do so- I know going back to where you were last year is horrible as is not being able continue your course next year but from personal experience, you don't want to be pushed to breaking point and end up a whole lot worse than you would have been otherwise, and possibly still have to drop out and take a lot longer to recover. With the presentations, you might be able to get the deadline for it extended if you ask and explain your situation, it depends on specific uni policies but a lot will do this. I really hope things get better for you either way, sorry to not come up with anything more useful.
 
 
 
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