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    Background: So a few months ago my girlfriend (didn't know her then) was speaking to a boy who we'll call (x) and my girlfriend we will call (z).
    So Z really liked x, though i'm not sure why because he's an absolute ********, but anyway she did. For whatever reason she had come out of the shower whilst on facetime to x, x being a little creep he print screened pictures of her, her breasts were on show at the time.

    Skipping ahead a few months, they stopped speaking and we both met through a friend, myself and z (bearing in mind, x goes to the same college as me and we used to be somewhat friends, more of an acquaintance) and so we were speaking and 2 months after we first met we became boyfriend and girlfriend, now this is where the problems arise. X still had the picture of her on his phone, and for whatever reason he decided on her birthday to send the picture of her to her friend saying 'Wish Z a happy birthday' (since they blocked each other on social media) , i was annoyed at this, but let it brush off.

    Then forwarding to about 6 months into our relationship he had shown one of my best mates along with a few of my other friends, in the social part of our college, furious i spoke to him and told him if he was to do it again something would come of it. Now, z had met another girl from our college who is friends with x, and was saying to z how x had showed her and her friends the pictures (this was 8 months into our relationship which was the wednesday just gone).

    So the whole point in this story is myself looking for guidance on what to do, firstly i could resort to verbally telling him again, but that's soft and considering i'm Alpha and he's Beta i could do alot more, physically. I don't want it to resort to violence for legal reasons though, it's frustrating the fact he thinks he can get away with it. Iv'e considered making him delete them off his phone but how can i really go about that?...

    Sorry it's all abit long winded just needed you to understand the whole situation. Hope someone can help!
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    Anybody else think he should substitute the letters for random names?
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    can't take this seriously after you called yourself alpha :rofl:
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    I would consider asking umm z or x (girlfriend) why she took pictures and send them to this other person, especially when shes dating another person(you). I personally would leave the girl for being moronic and if shes taking pictures and sending them to other people she clearly ain't faithful to you.
    If you want to confront the guy just say that you will take action with the police, don't resort to physical action it will often lead to more disputes and trouble.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Background: So a few months ago my girlfriend (didn't know her then) was speaking to a boy who we'll call (x) and my girlfriend we will call (z). So Z really liked x, though i'm not sure why because he's an absolute ********, but anyway she did. For whatever reason she had come out of the shower whilst on facetime to x, x being a little creep he print screened pictures of her, her breasts were on show at the time. Skipping ahead a few months, they stopped speaking and we both met through a friend, myself and z (bearing in mind, x goes to the same college as me and we used to be somewhat friends, more of an acquaintance) and so we were speaking and 2 months after we first met we became boyfriend and girlfriend, now this is where the problems arise. X still had the picture of her on his phone, and for whatever reason he decided on her birthday to send the picture of her to her friend saying 'Wish Z a happy birthday' (since they blocked each other on social media) , i was annoyed at this, but let it brush off. Then forwarding to about 6 months into our relationship he had shown one of my best mates along with a few of my other friends, in the social part of our college, furious i spoke to him and told him if he was to do it again something would come of it. Now, z had met another girl from our college who is friends with x, and was saying to z how x had showed her and her friends the pictures (this was 8 months into our relationship which was the wednesday just gone). So the whole point in this story is myself looking for guidance on what to do, firstly i could resort to verbally telling him again, but that's soft and considering i'm Alpha and he's Beta i could do alot more, physically. I don't want it to resort to violence for legal reasons though, it's frustrating the fact he thinks he can get away with it. Iv'e considered making him delete them off his phone but how can i really go about that?... Sorry it's all abit long winded just needed you to understand the whole situation. Hope someone can help!
    Man I can't do KS3 algebra... How do you expect me to solve this problem? :unimpressed:
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    u should grab his phone whilst he's on it, quickly delete it and hand it back to him with a smile and walk off
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    this is a difficult maths question
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    "z" needs to contact the police - it is a criminal offence to distribute sexual images of someone without their consent.
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    (Original post by Personinsertname)
    Anybody else think he should substitute the letters for random names?
    Fr, feels like I'm reading an algebra problem. :laugh: It's not that deep m8.
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    Send the little waesel this fact sheet:

    https://www.gov.uk/government/upload...-factsheet.pdf

    And let him know he better stop because you absolutely will be pursuing this with the police.


    Also please in future don't have such a massive block of text. That was not nice to read.
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    i agree with the others, this is putting me off maths A levels...on the other hand you should totes blackmail with the police, that will get him sooooo scared. like if someone tell me ''delete them nudes or i'll tell the popo on you'' i'd be deleting it and then showing that person the prove and errything, cos you dont want to be involved in cyber bullying now a days, it's serious business plz
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    I apologize that i used Z and X but couldn't think of any other way to name them. Any proper advice without going off topic about maths!
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    Okay, lets make this clearer

    Girl=Zara boy=Xavier

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    Background: So a few months ago my girlfriend (didn't know her then) was speaking to a boy who we'll call xavier and my girlfriend we will call Zara. So Zara really liked Xavier, though i'm not sure why because he's an absolute ********, but anyway she did. For whatever reason she had come out of the shower whilst on facetime to Xavier, and Xavier being a little creep he print screened pictures of her, her breasts were on show at the time. Skipping ahead a few months, they stopped speaking and we both met through a friend, myself and zara (bearing in mind, Xavier goes to the same college as me and we used to be somewhat friends, more of an acquaintance) and so we were speaking and 2 months after we first met we became boyfriend and girlfriend, now this is where the problems arise. Xavier still had the picture of her on his phone, and for whatever reason he decided on her birthday to send the picture of her to her friend saying 'Wish Zara a happy birthday' (since they blocked each other on social media) , i was annoyed at this, but let it brush off. Then forwarding to about 6 months into our relationship he had shown one of my best mates along with a few of my other friends, in the social part of our college, furious i spoke to him and told him if he was to do it again something would come of it. Now, Zara had met another girl from our college who is friends with Xavier, and was saying to Zara how Xavier had showed her and her friends the pictures (this was 8 months into our relationship which was the wednesday just gone). So the whole point in this story is myself looking for guidance on what to do, firstly i could resort to verbally telling him again, but that's soft and considering i'm Alpha and he's Beta i could do alot more, physically. I don't want it to resort to violence for legal reasons though, it's frustrating the fact he thinks he can get away with it. Iv'e considered making him delete them off his phone but how can i really go about that?... Sorry it's all abit long winded just needed you to understand the whole situation. Hope someone can help!

    My advice:No don't physically beat him up because your 'alpha', thats completely and utterly stupid. Your gf should speak to him, tell him to delete the photos of his phone or she will get the police involved. He cannot do that.
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    You have two options:

    a) Call the police, pretty sure it's an offence to distribute that sort of stuff (it definitely is if she's under 16).

    b) Assuming you are actually able to beat the **** out of the guy, beat the **** out of the guy, and make it clear to him not to do it again.

    I'd personally go for the second, cause FTP. No, but really, because I wouldn't want to bother going through the cops for something that may or may not be an offence and might even end up incriminating her going by some cases I've come across.
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    (Original post by Personinsertname)
    I would consider asking umm z or x (girlfriend) why she took pictures and send them to this other person, especially when shes dating another person(you). I personally would leave the girl for being moronic and if shes taking pictures and sending them to other people she clearly ain't faithful to you.
    If you want to confront the guy just say that you will take action with the police, don't resort to physical action it will often lead to more disputes and trouble.
    Not sure if it wasn't clear but i didn't state that we weren't together (didn't even know eachother at the time) and also she didn't anything to him, he took them of her)
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    (Original post by guilbert)
    "z" needs to contact the police - it is a criminal offence to distribute sexual images of someone without their consent.
    This.

    There's no point warning him. He's done it three times and been warned off before.

    Have the Old Bill have a word with him and let them teach him just what a nasty, vicious, piece of sh!t he is.
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    (Original post by Personinsertname)
    I would consider asking umm z or x (girlfriend) why she took pictures and send them to this other person, especially when shes dating another person(you). I personally would leave the girl for being moronic and if shes taking pictures and sending them to other people she clearly ain't faithful to you.
    If you want to confront the guy just say that you will take action with the police, don't resort to physical action it will often lead to more disputes and trouble.
    It was before their relationship though and she didn't send nudes he screenshotted from FaceTime. Read the story next time before judging her
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Send the little waesel this fact sheet:

    https://www.gov.uk/government/upload...-factsheet.pdf

    And let him know he better stop because you absolutely will be pursuing this with the police.


    Also please in future don't have such a massive block of text. That was not nice to read.
    Is that currently in force? Says it applies from "spring", but no indication of a year, and from what I've read, it's a pretty recent development.
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    (Original post by Hashim123)
    You have two options:

    a) Call the police, pretty sure it's an offence to distribute that sort of stuff (it definitely is if she's under 16).

    b) Assuming you are actually able to beat the **** out of the guy, beat the **** out of the guy, and make it clear to him not to do it again.

    I'd personally go for the second, cause FTP. No, but really, because I wouldn't want to bother going through the cops for something that may or may not be an offence and might even end up incriminating her going by some cases I've come across.
    If she us under 18 then she could be charged with child porn herself as well if she willingly sent it. However it sounds like it was taken without her knowledge or consent.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    … she didn't anything to him, he took them of her
    Oh, hell.

    Police.

    If he isn't stopped now, he'll become one of those weirdos who puts WiFi cameras in hotel shower extractor fans.
 
 
 
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