Hi. I'm in yr13 studying for a-levels and uninterested in relationships at the moment. A guy friend of mine has been sending me blatantly obvious hints that he likes me recently. Now that he has told me he 'wants to tell me something' next week I'm very anxious.
I feel incredibly uncomfortable whenever something like this happens even if I have had a long friendship with the guy.
Does anyone else suffer from this extreme anxiety/stress because they know they'll have to deal with more awkward conversations and broken friendships?
Perhaps it's truly not possible for guys and girls to be friends?
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if one of them is gay then the boy-girl friendship thing is more likely to happen and does happen (take me for example) and i understand your stress overload from A levels already and i think that although he is being a bit unfair, he's probably finding it hard to control his feelings. it's a difficult situation and maybe, only time will help you.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi. I'm in yr13 studying for a-levels and uninterested in relationships at the moment. A guy friend of mine has been sending me blatantly obvious hints that he likes me recently. Now that he has told me he 'wants to tell me something' next week I'm very anxious.
I feel incredibly uncomfortable whenever something like this happens even if I have had a long friendship with the guy.
Does anyone else suffer from this extreme anxiety/stress because they know they'll have to deal with more awkward conversations and broken friendships?
Perhaps it's truly not possible for guys and girls to be friends? -
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I doubt you hate attention from guys, it's just that right now you're not looking for a relationship and thus said attention is unwanted. I bet when you are ready to get out there, you'll be pretty happy with all the attention, as long as the guys can take 'no' for an answer.
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Yeah, it's ****ing annoying. I don't even look gay.
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Be sensitive to him. It takes a lot for some guys to step outside of their comfort zone, get their nerve up and express their true feelings - for fear of rejection. Hear what he has to say and if it is that he likes you more than friends then be honest with him and tell him that you care for him as a friend and don't want to loose that friendship connection but you are focusing only on A levels at this point and are feeling a lot of anxiety. Let him know it is not him personally him but that you are not interested in any relationship at this point and don't want to take on that added stress. Plus you are not interested in getting involved in a relationship that would have to split up relatively soon when you leave for uni.
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- 07-11-2015 00:55
Gee, you must be fun at clubs.
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- 07-11-2015 01:00
(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi. I'm in yr13 studying for a-levels and uninterested in relationships at the moment. A guy friend of mine has been sending me blatantly obvious hints that he likes me recently. Now that he has told me he 'wants to tell me something' next week I'm very anxious.
I feel incredibly uncomfortable whenever something like this happens even if I have had a long friendship with the guy.
Does anyone else suffer from this extreme anxiety/stress because they know they'll have to deal with more awkward conversations and broken friendships?
Perhaps it's truly not possible for guys and girls to be friends?
Tell him that you only want to be friends and you have zero interest in a relationship at the moment. Hopefully he will accept this and move on from it. Don't allow it to break your friendship.
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- 07-11-2015 01:01
(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi. I'm in yr13 studying for a-levels and uninterested in relationships at the moment. A guy friend of mine has been sending me blatantly obvious hints that he likes me recently. Now that he has told me he 'wants to tell me something' next week I'm very anxious.
I feel incredibly uncomfortable whenever something like this happens even if I have had a long friendship with the guy.
Does anyone else suffer from this extreme anxiety/stress because they know they'll have to deal with more awkward conversations and broken friendships?
Perhaps it's truly not possible for guys and girls to be friends?
This isn't even some strange guy this is a male friend you are moaning about.Last edited by Mancini; 07-11-2015 at 01:04. -
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- 07-11-2015 01:01
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Yeah, it's ****ing annoying. I don't even look gay.
Anyway, watch some gay porn. The guys are hench as fwuuaark. And they look real manly. You probably look just like the guys they jack off to XD -
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(Original post by hopeforthebest1)
Be sensitive to him. It takes a lot for some guys to step outside of their comfort zone, get their nerve up and express their true feelings - for fear of rejection. Hear what he has to say and if it is that he likes you more than friends then be honest with him and tell him that you care for him as a friend and don't want to loose that friendship connection but you are focusing only on A levels at this point and are feeling a lot of anxiety. Let him know it is not him personally him but that you are not interested in any relationship at this point and don't want to take on that added stress. Plus you are not interested in getting involved in a relationship that would have to split up relatively soon when you leave for uni.
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- 07-11-2015 01:11
I only get approached for weed or a lighter, since I look stoned and a bit high
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(Original post by Mancini)
Why don't you just grow up and tell him you aren't interested instead of whining about your social anxiety probably diagnosed by Google search engine on TSR.
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(Original post by TorpidPhil)
Lol, mate... You ever watched gay porn... Erm... Yeah..
Anyway, watch some gay porn. The guys are hench as fwuuaark. And they look real manly. You probably look just like the guys they jack off to XDGoogle something like "gay porn stars aren't gay" and a whole load of info on it should come up.
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- 07-11-2015 01:19
(Original post by WoodyMKC)
Fun fact: A lot of guys that star in gay porn aren't actually gay, it's often either just something they have to do to break into the industry or they just do it because it pays moreGoogle something like "gay porn stars aren't gay" and a whole load of info on it should come up.
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- 07-11-2015 01:24
(Original post by Danz123)
I doubt you hate attention from guys, it's just that right now you're not looking for a relationship and thus said attention is unwanted. I bet when you are ready to get out there, you'll be pretty happy with all the attention, as long as the guys can take 'no' for an answer. -
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(Original post by WoodyMKC)
Fun fact: A lot of guys that star in gay porn aren't actually gay, it's often either just something they have to do to break into the industry or they just do it because it pays moreGoogle something like "gay porn stars aren't gay" and a whole load of info on it should come up.
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- 07-11-2015 01:35
(Original post by Anonymous)
Hmm... this may be true. I think it bothers me that these guy friends are fully aware that I am not interested in having a relationship at all yet are very direct. I almost feel as if I'm being 'put on the spot' sometimes ... -
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