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    Hi. I'm in yr13 studying for a-levels and uninterested in relationships at the moment. A guy friend of mine has been sending me blatantly obvious hints that he likes me recently. Now that he has told me he 'wants to tell me something' next week I'm very anxious.
    I feel incredibly uncomfortable whenever something like this happens even if I have had a long friendship with the guy.
    Does anyone else suffer from this extreme anxiety/stress because they know they'll have to deal with more awkward conversations and broken friendships?
    Perhaps it's truly not possible for guys and girls to be friends?
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    if one of them is gay then the boy-girl friendship thing is more likely to happen and does happen (take me for example) and i understand your stress overload from A levels already and i think that although he is being a bit unfair, he's probably finding it hard to control his feelings. it's a difficult situation and maybe, only time will help you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi. I'm in yr13 studying for a-levels and uninterested in relationships at the moment. A guy friend of mine has been sending me blatantly obvious hints that he likes me recently. Now that he has told me he 'wants to tell me something' next week I'm very anxious.
    I feel incredibly uncomfortable whenever something like this happens even if I have had a long friendship with the guy.
    Does anyone else suffer from this extreme anxiety/stress because they know they'll have to deal with more awkward conversations and broken friendships?
    Perhaps it's truly not possible for guys and girls to be friends?
    just pre empt it by reiterating you are only interested in friends
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    I doubt you hate attention from guys, it's just that right now you're not looking for a relationship and thus said attention is unwanted. I bet when you are ready to get out there, you'll be pretty happy with all the attention, as long as the guys can take 'no' for an answer. :lol:
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    Yeah, it's ****ing annoying. I don't even look gay.
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    Be sensitive to him. It takes a lot for some guys to step outside of their comfort zone, get their nerve up and express their true feelings - for fear of rejection. Hear what he has to say and if it is that he likes you more than friends then be honest with him and tell him that you care for him as a friend and don't want to loose that friendship connection but you are focusing only on A levels at this point and are feeling a lot of anxiety. Let him know it is not him personally him but that you are not interested in any relationship at this point and don't want to take on that added stress. Plus you are not interested in getting involved in a relationship that would have to split up relatively soon when you leave for uni.
    Good luck.
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    Gee, you must be fun at clubs.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi. I'm in yr13 studying for a-levels and uninterested in relationships at the moment. A guy friend of mine has been sending me blatantly obvious hints that he likes me recently. Now that he has told me he 'wants to tell me something' next week I'm very anxious.
    I feel incredibly uncomfortable whenever something like this happens even if I have had a long friendship with the guy.
    Does anyone else suffer from this extreme anxiety/stress because they know they'll have to deal with more awkward conversations and broken friendships?
    Perhaps it's truly not possible for guys and girls to be friends?
    Yep. It is possible for men and women to be friends. One of my oldest friends is a guy.

    Tell him that you only want to be friends and you have zero interest in a relationship at the moment. Hopefully he will accept this and move on from it. Don't allow it to break your friendship.


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi. I'm in yr13 studying for a-levels and uninterested in relationships at the moment. A guy friend of mine has been sending me blatantly obvious hints that he likes me recently. Now that he has told me he 'wants to tell me something' next week I'm very anxious.
    I feel incredibly uncomfortable whenever something like this happens even if I have had a long friendship with the guy.
    Does anyone else suffer from this extreme anxiety/stress because they know they'll have to deal with more awkward conversations and broken friendships?
    Perhaps it's truly not possible for guys and girls to be friends?
    Why don't you just grow up and tell him you aren't interested instead of whining about your social anxiety probably diagnosed by Google search engine on TSR.

    This isn't even some strange guy this is a male friend you are moaning about.
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    (Original post by WoodyMKC)
    Yeah, it's ****ing annoying. I don't even look gay.
    Lol, mate... You ever watched gay porn... Erm... Yeah..

    Anyway, watch some gay porn. The guys are hench as fwuuaark. And they look real manly. You probably look just like the guys they jack off to XD
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    Be sensitive to him. It takes a lot for some guys to step outside of their comfort zone, get their nerve up and express their true feelings - for fear of rejection. Hear what he has to say and if it is that he likes you more than friends then be honest with him and tell him that you care for him as a friend and don't want to loose that friendship connection but you are focusing only on A levels at this point and are feeling a lot of anxiety. Let him know it is not him personally him but that you are not interested in any relationship at this point and don't want to take on that added stress. Plus you are not interested in getting involved in a relationship that would have to split up relatively soon when you leave for uni.
    Good luck.
    Thanks for the considerate reply. I will take into account what you said for next week.
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    I only get approached for weed or a lighter, since I look stoned and a bit high
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    (Original post by Mancini)
    Why don't you just grow up and tell him you aren't interested instead of whining about your social anxiety probably diagnosed by Google search engine on TSR.

    This isn't even some strange guy this is a male friend you are moaning about.
    Obviously I intend to turn him down in the most mature way possible - this was a question regarding feeling anxious about compromising a friendship and I did not mention anything clinical about social anxiety. I find this situation much more difficult to consider than responding to 'some strange guy'.
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    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Lol, mate... You ever watched gay porn... Erm... Yeah..

    Anyway, watch some gay porn. The guys are hench as fwuuaark. And they look real manly. You probably look just like the guys they jack off to XD
    Fun fact: A lot of guys that star in gay porn aren't actually gay, it's often either just something they have to do to break into the industry or they just do it because it pays more Google something like "gay porn stars aren't gay" and a whole load of info on it should come up.
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    Gee, you must be fun at clubs.
    Unsurprisingly never been to one!
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    (Original post by WoodyMKC)
    Fun fact: A lot of guys that star in gay porn aren't actually gay, it's often either just something they have to do to break into the industry or they just do it because it pays more Google something like "gay porn stars aren't gay" and a whole load of info on it should come up.
    Oh don't worry Woody, this is stuff I know already. My level of knowledge about porn is similarly to my knowledge about everything I'd say.

    Hardly average :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Danz123)
    I doubt you hate attention from guys, it's just that right now you're not looking for a relationship and thus said attention is unwanted. I bet when you are ready to get out there, you'll be pretty happy with all the attention, as long as the guys can take 'no' for an answer. :lol:
    Hmm... this may be true. I think it bothers me that these guy friends are fully aware that I am not interested in having a relationship at all yet are very direct. I almost feel as if I'm being 'put on the spot' sometimes ...
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    (Original post by WoodyMKC)
    Fun fact: A lot of guys that star in gay porn aren't actually gay, it's often either just something they have to do to break into the industry or they just do it because it pays more Google something like "gay porn stars aren't gay" and a whole load of info on it should come up.
    Yep, "gay for pay" porn stars.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hmm... this may be true. I think it bothers me that these guy friends are fully aware that I am not interested in having a relationship at all yet are very direct. I almost feel as if I'm being 'put on the spot' sometimes ...
    Yeah but come on, as long as they're polite and leave you alone when you say 'no', you must be flattered to some extent right? I mean if I had women constantly asking me out I'd be over the moon, even if I didn't want to date them. XD
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    (Original post by XcitingStuart)
    Yep, "gay for pay" porn stars.
    Aren't alot of lesbians in porn not actually lesbian aswell though? Alot of people will do these things for the right price. :lol:
 
 
 
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