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    I just turned 21. I'm socially awkward. Been listening to depressing music. Reflecting on life and how crap it is. Just been crying. Have had thoughts on killing myself and how I would do it and thought of what would happen if I left this world BUT I just know I would NEVER kill myself it's sad i have these thoughts though... IDK someone talk to me i can't talk to it with my mum because she has her own problems so i'm not going to bother her with mine.
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    hey, :hugs: you can PM me
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    I'm here for you. PM me.
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    hey, :hugs: you can PM me
    not to be rude i don't want to PM sorry thanx though
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    loooooool online rejection :lol: ^
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    not to be rude i don't want to PM sorry thanx though
    it might be better to PM for your safety since anyone can see what you post on here (and some of them would post in a way you wouldn't find pleasing )
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    loooooool online rejection :lol: ^
    don't be mean ...
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    it might be better to PM for your safety since anyone can see what you post on here (and some of them would post in a way you wouldn't find pleasing )
    i'm safe don't worry about it
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    So what kind of things trigger you to feel this way?
    And what problems would you say you face?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just turned 21. I'm socially awkward. Been listening to depressing music. Reflecting on life and how crap it is. Just been crying. Have had thoughts on killing myself and how I would do it and thought of what would happen if I left this world BUT I just know I would NEVER kill myself it's sad i have these thoughts though... IDK someone talk to me i can't talk to it with my mum because she has her own problems so i'm not going to bother her with mine.
    Hey I read your post and I understand exactly how you feel and it's good that you never go through with it because there are so many people out there who love you and will miss you if you go!! I know it's sad to have those thoughts but it's natural when we are really depressed and are going through a rough patch in life, If you want you can PM me if it's really bad and you wanna talk in private btw are u a male or female so I can think what to say next
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So what kind of things trigger you to feel this way?
    And what problems would you say you face?
    I just don't see my future being very bright and i'm thinking to myself is it really all worth it why live life so sad and depressed generally feeling ****ty on most days when I can end that pain by going away. Also i always feel ugly and fat i'm probably exaggerating but i feel that way and it doesn't help I have a low self esteem etc.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just turned 21. I'm socially awkward. Been listening to depressing music. Reflecting on life and how crap it is. Just been crying. Have had thoughts on killing myself and how I would do it and thought of what would happen if I left this world BUT I just know I would NEVER kill myself it's sad i have these thoughts though... IDK someone talk to me i can't talk to it with my mum because she has her own problems so i'm not going to bother her with mine.
    I would have said that you can pm me but...
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    not to be rude i don't want to PM sorry thanx though
    So, I'd just like you to know that I understand how you feel. I have been in the same position as you except I've only very briefly touched on thinking about how I'd kill myself. However, I have come to realise that things do get better but it takes a whole lot of determination, strength and courage. I'm glad you don't think you'll ever kill yourself. I have made several threads aimed at depressed/suicidal people and have a thread for inspirational quotes if you think that might help:http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3687539
    Please feel free to check any of those out.

    I hope that helps. If you have any further questions or would like some more help please don't hesitate to ask because I'd love to help and I'm here for you.
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    (Original post by RBalboa)
    Hey I read your post and I understand exactly how you feel and it's good that you never go through with it because there are so many people out there who love you and will miss you if you go!! I know it's sad to have those thoughts but it's natural when we are really depressed and are going through a rough patch in life, If you want you can PM me if it's really bad and you wanna talk in private btw are u a male or female so I can think what to say next
    Having these thoughts 3 days out of 7 days a week makes it worse i wish it would stop because i want to be a happy and confident person but i just can't see myself going there I have self harmed to but not anymore I wanted to now to but i didn't. they're not deep cuts so it's fine not deadly. I'm female. xx
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    I would have said that you can pm me but...

    So, I'd just like you to know that I understand how you feel. I have been in the same position as you except I've only very briefly touched on thinking about how I'd kill myself. However, I have come to realise that things do get better but it takes a whole lot of determination, strength and courage. I'm glad you don't think you'll ever kill yourself. I have made several threads aimed at depressed/suicidal people and have a thread for inspirational quotes if you think that might help:http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3687539
    Please feel free to check any of those out.

    I hope that helps. If you have any further questions or would like some more help please don't hesitate to ask because I'd love to help and I'm here for you.
    Thanx man It's nice to know people out there are willing to help
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Having these thoughts 3 days out of 7 days a week makes it worse i wish it would stop because i want to be a happy and confident person but i just can't see myself going there I have self harmed to but not anymore I wanted to now to but i didn't. they're not deep cuts so it's fine not deadly. I'm female. xx
    Well 3 days isn't as much as let's say 5 but day by day try and think of things that give u positive thoughts so that the thought you are having lessen each day... I get you want to be a happy and confident person so in order to do that you need to go out there and show people you are this person, try and make friends with new people try and socialise if you do this your confidence will boost but also you will be happy because you have made friends that you can talk to. One thing you shouldn't. Ever do is self harm its good that you have stopped it now but you should never let your beautiful innocent skin suffer just because your upset it should remain scarless, if you get the need to self harm again then PM me or someone you trust so that they can talk you out of it xx
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    Don't worry I don't think anythings wrong with you
    Maybe you're feeling down right now so try and think positive! Ok so you might be socially awkward (I feel you on that one - with people I know I'm like the most outgoing loud weird person but in social events I'm rude and make myself look awkward 🙈) but hey that's not such a terrible thing and too be honest I kind of understand your feelings about your mum - my mum suffered from depression and I felt like she was pouring it out on me so I would write myself notes I called them positivity notes - stuff like : You are loved - You will be loved - I love me (cheesy right ? But so damn helpful) and I would cry my eyes out for nothing. I'd listen to the most depressing songs and sing my heart out (off tune yes) and cry and you know what it felt good!
    So I would say, give yourself a chance, don't be too hard on yourself it's ok to cry - I'd say it's healthier to cry than not to Think about how lucky you are to be able to live a life where you can cry so cheer up - and even when it feels like nothing is right and nothing feels good well then cry your heart, sing, cook and do what makes you feel good and be honest with yourself ! It might be hard but not giving up on yourself is worth it and honestly who gives a damn about being socially awkward some people are born to be social butterflies others aren't if it worries you that much then breathe in breathe out and go see the world because for every person that will hurt you there is someone that will help plus I bet you're great so be confident

    This ended up being a long message about positivity and singing ~~ I tried to cheer you up - apologies if this didn't help 😱 and if it didn't here's a joke : Why are there only dead people in cemeteries? ( I know even my jokes suck 😭)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just turned 21. I'm socially awkward. Been listening to depressing music. Reflecting on life and how crap it is. Just been crying. Have had thoughts on killing myself and how I would do it and thought of what would happen if I left this world BUT I just know I would NEVER kill myself it's sad i have these thoughts though... IDK someone talk to me i can't talk to it with my mum because she has her own problems so i'm not going to bother her with mine.
    Hey man, I know how you feel. I am 19 and I have been quite ant-social for most of life. I kind of suffer from social anxiety and is literally killing my social life. I often think the same thing "What is wrong with me?". I see everybody having a great time with their friends in the club and everything whilst I am just stuck at home. I always wish that I could be normal like everybody else in terms of socialising and so I have been trying my best to change. Just don't give up man, you are still young and have great future ahead of you. Stop telling yourself you there is something wrong with you because there is nothing wrong with you. You are amazing!!! Just don't lose hope, you can still become the person you want to be. Are you at college/Uni?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanx man It's nice to know people out there are willing to help
    Any time - no worries. I just hope you know that you can PM me or tag me into a post to ask me anything whenever you need to - no matter how small or insignificant your problems may seem.
    Is there anything (like various hobbies) that you do that helps you to express your emotions?
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    Don't worry I don't think anythings wrong with you
    Maybe you're feeling down right now so try and think positive! Ok so you might be socially awkward (I feel you on that one - with people I know I'm like the most outgoing loud weird person but in social events I'm rude and make myself look awkward 🙈) but hey that's not such a terrible thing and too be honest I kind of understand your feelings about your mum - my mum suffered from depression and I felt like she was pouring it out on me so I would write myself notes I called them positivity notes - stuff like : You are loved - You will be loved - I love me (cheesy right ? But so damn helpful) and I would cry my eyes out for nothing. I'd listen to the most depressing songs and sing my heart out (off tune yes) and cry and you know what it felt good!
    So I would say, give yourself a chance, don't be too hard on yourself it's ok to cry - I'd say it's healthier to cry than not to Think about how lucky you are to be able to live a life where you can cry so cheer up - and even when it feels like nothing is right and nothing feels good well then cry your heart, sing, cook and do what makes you feel good and be honest with yourself ! It might be hard but not giving up on yourself is worth it and honestly who gives a damn about being socially awkward some people are born to be social butterflies others aren't if it worries you that much then breathe in breathe out and go see the world because for every person that will hurt you there is someone that will help plus I bet you're great so be confident

    This ended up being a long message about positivity and singing ~~ I tried to cheer you up - apologies if this didn't help 😱 and if it didn't here's a joke : Why are there only dead people in cemeteries? ( I know even my jokes suck 😭)
    LOL this made me laugh thank you great advice
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey man, I know how you feel. I am 19 and I have been quite ant-social for most of life. I kind of suffer from social anxiety and is literally killing my social life. I often think the same thing "What is wrong with me?". I see everybody having a great time with their friends in the club and everything whilst I am just stuck at home. I always wish that I could be normal like everybody else in terms of socialising and so I have been trying my best to change. Just don't give up man, you are still young and have great future ahead of you. Stop telling yourself you there is something wrong with you because there is nothing wrong with you. You are amazing!!! Just don't lose hope, you can still become the person you want to be. Are you at college/Uni?
    Thanx yeah i'm at uni
 
 
 
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