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Gay and not out... how to find a bf? watch

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    Hi all...

    So i am at uni and i am 23yo. I have come to terms with the fact that i am definitely gay but with my background and family i cannot come out (yet). But i have a real urge to meet someone around my age in a similar way and get to know them.

    The LBGT soc at uni are great but they are to open and i am just not ready for that environment. My BFF knows about this all and has told me to go to a gay bar/club and meet people but im too shy and 'i aint got no time for that' lol - i will probably go soon anyway.

    But i wondered what advise does anyone have to meet someone who is gay and similar minded.

    About me:
    i am 23 yo. study in london. mature professional student. not been in relationships much. always getting attracted to straight men (and keep thinking they will turn gay by looking at me the same way... nothings happened yet lol).

    Uhh don't know if I'll be very helpful as I'm a straight female but I'll try my best to help! Obviously don't push yourself if it makes you feel uncomfortable and take small steps if that makes you feel better but I'd really recommend practicing being more open about yourself as well as open to opportunities. It might be a bit daunting at first but try going to a gay bar and hanging out with people from the society bc you don't know where it will lead! If it's too much right now then don't force things but it will probably be really nice to meet new people and maybe even some romance??? Go for it!!
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