In July a guy friend admitted he had feelings for me. The penny dropped that everything he was doing for me was to get me to like him. I asked him many times if he was interested and he said no. I turned him down, as much I really liked his company and we got on very well there no spark. I tried in my head to like him romantically but it wouldn't happen.
Since then I have not heard off him. He messaged once but I had a very stressful time at work and he took that as rejecting him. Whenever we have a group gathering with mutual friends he drops out when I put my name down and then turns up after I have left the venue. I just feel a bit sad how we had this friendship (or so I thought) and he is avoiding me. Why would he avoid me?
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georgiaswift
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- 08-11-2015 19:29
Because, as you said in the OP, he was only nice to you to get you to like him. Plus he's probably embarrassed. Just leave him to it
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- 08-11-2015 19:44
I would message him to let him know that he shouldnt be embarassed or whatever, and that you weren't interested in any relationships at the moment because of your work so that it doesn't come across as something personal to him
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- 08-11-2015 19:48
He's not coping well with you rejecting him, but that's his problem. Don't blame yourself for not feeling the same, you can't help who you are and aren't attracted to! If he was only being nice to you to try to get into your pants, then he sounds like a scumbag you're better off without anyway.
He can't mope about and avoid you forever, so either he'll eventually try to rekindle your friendship or call it time. It's up to you to decide how to deal with either of these situations, but please don't convince yourself that you owe him anything. Follow your gut instinct and you'll probably make the right choice. -
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- 08-11-2015 19:52
He's getting over you
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Tom Jickleson
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- 08-11-2015 19:55
Because once a guy likes a girl in a romantic sense, he can't just 'flip the switch' and become her friend if she doesn't like him back. It doesn't work like that.
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- 08-11-2015 19:56
(Original post by ihatePE)
I would message him to let him know that he shouldnt be embarassed or whatever, and that you weren't interested in any relationships at the moment because of your work so that it doesn't come across as something personal to him -
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- 08-11-2015 20:04
(Original post by Tom Jickleson)
Completely disagree. Because saying that would imply that she might consider a relationship with him in the future, which would **** with his head.
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