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    I'm diagnosed with depression, OCD, dyslexia and ADD. When I was first starting to come to terms with each of my issues I had a lot of questions. I want to help anybody else in the same situation so ask away and I will try to answer as best I can.

    Please try to be respectful (I'm sure you would anyway) and try to keep the questions short as I have difficulty reading loads of content so might have difficulty responding to any questions that are too long.
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    How does it feel to have ADD, I mean do you feel like you have too much energy that you can't focus or do you get a bored feeling and need more stimuli?
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    (Original post by sleepysnooze)
    if I were to finish this question without a question mark, would it annoy you
    Because I have OCD? No. My OCD is only really triggered by things I do. I don't care if you misuse/ don't use punctuation. A lot of OCD doesn't focus on perfection and order. Mine for instance is mostly focused on how things feel.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    How does it feel to have ADD, I mean do you feel like you have too much energy that you can't focus or do you get a bored feeling and need more stimuli?
    Firstly it's worth noting that there is a difference between ADD and ADHD (the H is for hyperactivity and isn't hugely prevalent in ADD if at all). I don't tend to get hyperactive, though I do occasionally get restless, but another person I know with ADHD always has to be doing something and gets bored of things easily.

    It's a bit hard for me to distinguish what is ADD and what is my other issues sometimes since there is some cross over, but mostly its just that I can't focus. A bit like when you're really tired and you try to do something that involves concentration like reading. Your brain just keeps switching off and not taking anything in.
    For me I can hardly ever focus on anything. I find it really difficult to take in information. I can read just fine, but I can't take any information from what I read.

    I find it really hard to start doing anything because I don't have a great concept of time and always either forget to do something or just can't get down to it. It's a bit like my brain just won't let me think about certain things. Sometimes there's a distracting thought, but most of the time my brain just goes empty and I zone out. Sometimes I zone out in the middle of conversations even if I find them really interesting. Being able to re-wind TV is a godsend because I can go back to when I zoned out 5 minuets ago!

    My mind also makes odd links. I often find it hard to stick to a set topic because loads of things trigger me to think of seemingly irrelevant stuff. Like if I smell a certain type or air freshener I remember one of my old friends because that's what her house smelt like. Or if somebody mentions a type of chocolate I may remember an advert for it and that advert may remind me of what I was doing when I watched it. To me those links just happen and I don't always see the chain.

    One thing that may by Dyslexia or ADD or both is not being able to block out noise. Any background noise is really hard for me to ignore and I often get noises muddled up. If the TV is loud and somebody is talking to me I can sometimes think they are shouting because the two sounds mere. It also makes it even harder to concentrate because any little noise (a clock ticking, people talking in class, birds outside, traffic) stays in my head and if it changes it takes my focus.

    Sometimes I get really restless and can't think about anything but how much I need to move. It doesn't happen very often but I guess that may be what ADHD is like sometimes. I also find that doing something with my hands helps me focus (like drawing in lectures). I think that has something to do with both sides of my brain always being active or something (not really sure about why it happens tbh).

    I don't usually need more stimuli- actually I often find that there is too much going on. I can sometimes get really stressed when my neighbours are playing loud music because I basically can't do anything else while it is happening. My brain focuses on the unusual noise too much. Interestingly this doesn't happen with music that I listen to a lot and it often helps me concentrate. I guess it acts as white noise, blocking out all the strange noises and replacing it with something I know inside out. Slightly different versions of songs really bug me because it sounds off to me and all I notice is the parts that are different.


    Sorry that was so long. Basically I can't block out noise, my brain switches off and doesn't let me concentrate and I make links that most people can't follow.
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    (Original post by Little Popcorns)
    How old are you and when were you diagnosed with all the separate conditions?
    I'm 20 now. I was diagnosed with depression and OCD when I was about 17 in my last year of college. I was diagnosed with dyslexia in my first year of uni at about 18 and ADD shortly after.
    I was noticed to have some difficulty with my writing and "working memory" (remembering what instructions I had been given etc) in junior school but nothing ever came of it. In actuality my memory was really good when it came to memory games. I think it was more that I never heard the instructions to start with because I was distracted.
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    How did you find school? Were you in trouble often?
    I never had too much difficulty as I'm actually quite bright despite (or even because of) my conditions and i'm a quiet, sit back and observe type. I got by for basically my whole school life without reading a thing because I was good at covering it up and teachers always let me be because it was easy and they probably didn't see any issues with me.

    I did have one year (year 3?) when my teacher kept telling me off for not putting my pencil down when she said to (I had difficulty writing quickly and I probably just didn't hear her because I was distracted by my work). It ended up with me writing basically nothing for the rest of the year and running away from school every morning.

    I always managed to get away with not doing any homework (until college) because nobody in my class did anyway and I was never a boisterous kid who'd be an issue. I just sat back and daydreamed most of the time. I think I tended to get ignored because I was so quite (on my parent's evening slips I was always called "a lovely girl" which is code for "Who? Oh, that girl".

    My main struggle was that I had no friends. I find social interactions rather difficult because I get distracted in conversations and I think I have trouble reading social cues. I only really had friends once I reached GCSEs and even then I only really managed to socialise with those few friends.
    I'm never sure if I was bullied or if I just read it that way and even now I struggle with socialising and following a conversation with multiple people.

    Once I got into college I started having more difficulty. I had depression by that point so was always late to my first class of the day and teachers finally picked up that I never did any homework. I made it through, but only just and I did not meet most of my targets. Had to drop out of my first year of uni because of a combination of depression and too much reading for the course I was on. I left before Christmas. I don't think I left my building almost the whole time I was there and I always made dinner at gone 2am to avoid running into my flat mates.
    I'm at a different uni now and on a different course which is going better but is still very much a challenge and I am considering taking time out. I find that I can never get around to doing anything and i'm physically and mentally exhausted after a day of working to the extent that I often have to go to bed as soon as I get back and only wake up to have dinner (which my bf has to prepare for me). I get a lot worse after being ill and tend to get ill leading up to assignments. I have various support through DSA, but none of it can help with the fact I just don't have the time, energy or focus to do anything.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I never had too much difficulty as I'm actually quite bright despite (or even because of) my conditions and i'm a quiet, sit back and observe type. I got by for basically my whole school life without reading a thing because I was good at covering it up and teachers always let me be because it was easy and they probably didn't see any issues with me.

    I did have one year (year 3?) when my teacher kept telling me off for not putting my pencil down when she said to (I had difficulty writing quickly and I probably just didn't hear her because I was distracted by my work). It ended up with me writing basically nothing for the rest of the year and running away from school every morning.

    I always managed to get away with not doing any homework (until college) because nobody in my class did anyway and I was never a boisterous kid who'd be an issue. I just sat back and daydreamed most of the time. I think I tended to get ignored because I was so quite (on my parent's evening slips I was always called "a lovely girl" which is code for "Who? Oh, that girl".

    My main struggle was that I had no friends. I find social interactions rather difficult because I get distracted in conversations and I think I have trouble reading social cues. I only really had friends once I reached GCSEs and even then I only really managed to socialise with those few friends.
    I'm never sure if I was bullied or if I just read it that way and even now I struggle with socialising and following a conversation with multiple people.

    Once I got into college I started having more difficulty. I had depression by that point so was always late to my first class of the day and teachers finally picked up that I never did any homework. I made it through, but only just and I did not meet most of my targets. Had to drop out of my first year of uni because of a combination of depression and too much reading for the course I was on. I left before Christmas. I don't think I left my building almost the whole time I was there and I always made dinner at gone 2am to avoid running into my flat mates.
    I'm at a different uni now and on a different course which is going better but is still very much a challenge and I am considering taking time out. I find that I can never get around to doing anything and i'm physically and mentally exhausted after a day of working to the extent that I often have to go to bed as soon as I get back and only wake up to have dinner (which my bf has to prepare for me). I get a lot worse after being ill and tend to get ill leading up to assignments. I have various support through DSA, but none of it can help with the fact I just don't have the time, energy or focus to do anything.
    Well you must have improved a lot socially, since you've done enough to get yourself a partner
    When I was at school and university I did do homework and assignments most of the time it was given out; how much effort I put in depended on whether I liked the subject or module at the time. So yeah, I remember getting told off for doing "unacceptable" work rather than not doing it at all.
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    Well you must have improved a lot socially, since you've done enough to get yourself a partner
    When I was at school and university I did do homework and assignments most of the time it was given out; how much effort I put in depended on whether I liked the subject or module at the time. So yeah, I remember getting told off for doing "unacceptable" work rather than not doing it at all.
    Yeah I guess I have improved. I read somewhere that people with ADD/ ADHD are 3 years behind socially. Not sure I agree totally, but I can definitely see that I'm not on the exact same level as everybody else.
    I tend to do better in quieter conditions and with fewer people. I made my friend because I shared classes with them and we made friends in class. It's a quieter situation and because you're in seating and having to hide talking it means it's fewer people in the conversation. If there are too many people I find it hard to follow and either get confused or end up interrupting a lot because I can't tell if people are talking/ about to talk.

    I think I would have been noticed sooner if my teachers pegged that I don't do as well in some topics. My teachers never really bothered with me though because I was at the top of the sets I was in and always did better than others in my class even if it wasn't to my targets/ expectations. It's only in college teachers started to tell me off for not bothering or not having the right quality.
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    Do you have any problems with your long-term memory??
    Often I feel like I read an article and understand it, but then I couldn't tell you much detail about it in a couple of days...
    I have depression and dyslexia. More recently I've been finding it hard to concentrate and stay on track when I am studying- before I realise it I'm on Facebook or my mind has drifted. I'm accusing my depression and anxiety but I'm wondering if I could had ADD ??
 
 
 
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