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    Hi all now I'm 25 I left school some 10 years ago and, as you can guess from the title - realized throughout my secondary education that I was attracted to some of my classmates. At the time I brushed this off as admiration and curiosity rather than attraction and the fact it was an all boys school - there was nothing else on offer so thought it was natural I would have some fond thoughts of my classmates.

    However having had relationships with boys and girls there is no doubt in my mind I swing both ways depending on my mood and maybe time of the month

    Also going to a Catholic school with many homophobic teachers and pupils it was a pretty terrifying thought that people would find out. I've never "out" so to speak - if people ask I'll be honest and I will always introduce my partner be it male or female as my partner so people can put 2 and 2 together.

    "Gay" was used as an insult in school and rumors went round and the butt of those rumors often had a pretty upsetting and tortuous time. My turn was thankfully short and although close mates probably guessed. I was never "outed"

    I understand that in the last 10 years there has been a drive to re-educate teachers and pupils on this issue and apparently levels of tolerance and acceptance have never been higher...

    I was wondering if anyone wanted to share their experience of this tolerance and acceptance - if you came out at school, were you advised to etc.

    If you were also on the other side - did you use gay as an insult - did you bully your classmates if you thought they were gay - I will freely admit I did tease one or two myself to deflect the attention off me (as did judging by facebook 10 years on serveral others did as well!).

    Very interested to hear from anyone's experience as I'm interested to know how attitudes and how its dealt with at school has changed through the times.
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    (Original post by Daftpunker)
    Hi all now I'm 25 I left school some 10 years ago and, as you can guess from the title - realized throughout my secondary education that I was attracted to some of my classmates. At the time I brushed this off as admiration and curiosity rather than attraction and the fact it was an all boys school - there was nothing else on offer so thought it was natural I would have some fond thoughts of my classmates.

    However having had relationships with boys and girls there is no doubt in my mind I swing both ways depending on my mood and maybe time of the month

    Also going to a Catholic school with many homophobic teachers and pupils it was a pretty terrifying thought that people would find out. I've never "out" so to speak - if people ask I'll be honest and I will always introduce my partner be it male or female as my partner so people can put 2 and 2 together.

    "Gay" was used as an insult in school and rumors went round and the butt of those rumors often had a pretty upsetting and tortuous time. My turn was thankfully short and although close mates probably guessed. I was never "outed"

    I understand that in the last 10 years there has been a drive to re-educate teachers and pupils on this issue and apparently levels of tolerance and acceptance have never been higher...

    I was wondering if anyone wanted to share their experience of this tolerance and acceptance - if you came out at school, were you advised to etc.

    If you were also on the other side - did you use gay as an insult - did you bully your classmates if you thought they were gay - I will freely admit I did tease one or two myself to deflect the attention off me (as did judging by facebook 10 years on serveral others did as well!).

    Very interested to hear from anyone's experience as I'm interested to know how attitudes and how its dealt with at school has changed through the times.
    Anyone?!?!?!?!
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    I have always been out and there had never been a problem. Went to three catholic schools, one of them all boys, then a secular sixth form, then four universities.
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    "Gay" was routinely used as an insult in my school (it was also an all boys school)

    Batty boy, bender, queer, fag, Cadbury's merchant, shirtlifter, bummer - (so many more) but these were all popular favourites. Mind you, in fairness, they weren't directed exclusively at people who may have been thought to be gay - they were used against everybody and anybody all the time. It didn't have a lot of meaning. If it wasn't an insult based on sexuality it was based on being handicapped - you ****in "flid", spazza, joey, etc.

    Just kids being kids before everybody started getting all worked up about it.
 
 
 
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