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    Hey,

    I met a guy on Tinder, we got chatting and had a load in common so we decided to go on a date. The date went really well and ended up sleeping together.

    Because it was all such a fast process I never had the chance to check out his social media accounts (it didn't seem like there was any need to), the morning after we slept together he went home and I went onto social media to check him out. His Instagram was full of picture of him and this girl (the last one uploaded of them together was two weeks ago). They definitely had some kind of relationship as there was a picture of them kissing back in June. My heart sank! I started stalking the girl in the pictures and again she has pictures of them together.

    Now if I was to give him the benefit of the doubt - perhaps they've only very recently broken up and maybe tinder was his rebound device.

    Otherwise - I'd be 99% sure that he's cheating.

    What do I do? Part of me wants to contact the girl and just explain what has happened and ask whether they are together. (If I was the girl then I would want to know!)
    Other half of me wants to tell the guy but then he may just **** off and get away with it.

    Advice??
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    Its not cheating unless you've agreed to be in an exclusive relationship.
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    Expecting high morals from someone on tinder was the first mistake.
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    (Original post by Rakas21)
    Its not cheating unless you've agreed to be in an exclusive relationship.
    OP means that they think the boy has a girlfriend and that he is cheating on the girlfriend, not that he is cheating on the OP
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    If you are gonna keep seeing this guy, then maybe ask him about it at a later date. If not, don't do anything. There is no way you can be sure if all you've seen is pictures of them together. They could quite easily have been going out and are now just friends. And if you do want things to go somewhere with this guy and you ask him about this after only one date and it turns out to be nothing - you'll sound like a right weirdo.

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    Ask if you can follow him on Instagram or something. His reaction will be telling, I imagine. Then you can ask about the girl.
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    Well ... this is tinder we're talking about here.
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    (Original post by Precious Illusions)
    Ask if you can follow him on Instagram or something. His reaction will be telling, I imagine. Then you can ask about the girl.
    I don't think it tells you much at such an early stage. I'm not a fan of girls I've just met adding me to Facebook where they can see and communicate with my friends and family, especially in cases where i might have decided it's not going beyond sex.

    This is why instant messaging was my preferred online dating method in the old days of MSN. You could get an addy from Bebo or Myspace without adding them, talk to them on MSN without them involving themselves in your life and then at a later stage, add them to the likes of Facebook. Everything's on Facebook and Instagram nowadays or that Snapchat (not a massive fan).
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    (Original post by Rakas21)
    I don't think it tells you much at such an early stage. I'm not a fan of girls I've just met adding me to Facebook where they can see and communicate with my friends and family, especially in cases where i might have decided it's not going beyond sex.

    This is why instant messaging was my preferred online dating method in the old days of MSN. You could get an addy from Bebo or Myspace without adding them, talk to them on MSN without them involving themselves in your life and then at a later stage, add them to the likes of Facebook. Everything's on Facebook and Instagram nowadays or that Snapchat (not a massive fan).
    Well ultimately he'd probably realise she had already looked him up on Instagram. And if his instagram is open he can hardly be annoyed etc. I agree about not adding people on Facebook etc early on; I don't use anything like Instagram or Snapchat etc personally because, likewise, I'm not a fan. But yeah when a date or someone tries adding me on Facebook I just don't accept it, if it isn't going to go further then there's rarely any need for us to stay in contact.

    And yeah, good ol' MSN days :moon:
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    You slept together on the first date and think this relationship will last long ? Wrong.
 
 
 
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