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    Just looking for some advice as for the past few weeks I seem to be feeling more and more down about myself and it's starting to affect my life.

    For the past couple of years I've spent a lot of time focussing on myself and have been generally very happy. I'm 25 and single but have found that this hasn't really bothered me until now.

    My housemate recently got into a relationship leaving me the only person in the house who isn't coupled up. On top of this my two closest friends have both got engaged and so have my siblings... All in the past few months.

    My housemate seemed to be the breaking point as now I feel like I have no one to relate to who was in the same position as me. I know it's silly but it's making me feel pretty self-pitying and wondering if there's something wrong with me. I've had a bit of bad luck with guys this year at times when I felt confident things were really good.

    The worst part is I've noticed I'm starting to distance myself from people to try and shield myself from it - I'm finding it especially hard to be happy for my housemate as I feel so sad whenever she mentions her new boyfriend and I'm not taking any interest in how things are going.

    It's been ages since I've really gotten upset over anything but now I'm just tearing up at random times. I don't really know how to make myself feel better and be a better friend.
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    Just looking for some advice as for the past few weeks I seem to be feeling more and more down about myself and it's starting to affect my life.

    For the past couple of years I've spent a lot of time focussing on myself and have been generally very happy. I'm 25 and single but have found that this hasn't really bothered me until now.

    My housemate recently got into a relationship leaving me the only person in the house who isn't coupled up. On top of this my two closest friends have both got engaged and so have my siblings... All in the past few months.

    My housemate seemed to be the breaking point as now I feel like I have no one to relate to who was in the same position as me. I know it's silly but it's making me feel pretty self-pitying and wondering if there's something wrong with me. I've had a bit of bad luck with guys this year at times when I felt confident things were really good.

    The worst part is I've noticed I'm starting to distance myself from people to try and shield myself from it - I'm finding it especially hard to be happy for my housemate as I feel so sad whenever she mentions her new boyfriend and I'm not taking any interest in how things are going.

    It's been ages since I've really gotten upset over anything but now I'm just tearing up at random times. I don't really know how to make myself feel better and be a better friend.
    First off you can't force yourself to be happy for them, but you can act civil or at least feign joy or happiness for the times you have to socialise with them (that's what I do in these sorta situations). Is there no on at all you can talk to, say a parent or counselor if you are feeling really depressed about this?

    Also, I know it's a common phrase to say but try be happy with yourself first. Maybe you could attend sports clubs or gym classes, you could also join some societies to expand you network?...although I'm not sure if that part is relevant to you if you aren't in university anymore. Hope you feel better though
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    It's so easy for outsiders to say, but it's so true, you need to be happy on your own first, before you can be happy with someone else.
    We all get days where we wish we were in a relationship and when in a relationship we all have days we crave to be single.
    Everybody wants what they don't have at some point or another.
    Just because your friends are in relationships, doesn't mean you need to be. Plus things always look better from the outside, you're looking at their lives through rose coloured glass.
    I bet they have arguments or trust issues which they may not discuss and could even envy your independence and single life!

    Be happy on your own and then find someone to share your happiness with. Never find someone to make you happy, because if you then lose that person, you'll feel far more alone than you ever have.
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    Thanks for both your replies...

    You're right - I'm definitely having a case of 'the grass is greener'. I think I'm just finding it tough to be constantly surrounded by happy couples at a time when I'm feeling a bit rejected and lonely.

    I'll make an effort to get out a bit more and meet new people, and not go seeking a relationship without if coming naturally.
 
 
 
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