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    Hello! So, I've got a crush on someone from another department at work. We spoke a few times, not very long conversations and always initiated by her before I added her on Facebook. Now we speak a bit more, with her asking me about stuff I've posed on there, but my issue is it's ALWAYS her who comes up to me. I really, really want to be able to initiate a conversation with her but I get too awkward and shy. It's horrible. Anyone got any tips?
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    Try to think of some openings in advance so you already have a topic you are comfortable with when you see her


    When you feel yourself get shy have a mental word with yourself, remind yourself you are being silly because you are capable of talking to her
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    Ask yourself how you initiate convos with mates, then try the same thing with her. Just have something ready to get the ball rolling.
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    I have same problem. I dont know why but i struggle to think of anything to say when she talks to me. I also act moody sometimes because im shy with her, she must think im really weird. But she is shy it seems and kind of acts the same with me sometimes.
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    What works for me is when I notice small details about a girl. This could be like a new earring/hairstyle/bracelet or other accessory. Compliment it (as long as you actually mean it) and ask where they got it/how they got it. (questions in general are good but don't overdo it) You can then link the conversation to shops/clothing in general and then into fashion/music/films and then anything really. Its might not guarantee a long convo but its better than nothing/weather.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have same problem. I dont know why but i struggle to think of anything to say when she talks to me. I also act moody sometimes because im shy with her, she must think im really weird. But she is shy it seems and kind of acts the same with me sometimes.
    I do the same, put my grumpy face on and pretend I'm really concentrating on whatever I'm doing.
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    Cheers for all the solid advice guys, definitely gonna out it into play if I'm around her later.
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    Update; just heard her speaking to a co-worker about someone she's just started seeing. Do I keep pursuing because they're not exclusive or does that make me a ****?
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