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    So me and my ex-girlfriend broke up just over a month ago now. We had been together for 2 years.
    She broke up with me saying that her feelings didn't feel the same anymore.

    We've had no contact since the day she broke up with me and in that time I've changed a lot about myself mentally and physically. I've also accepted that fact that we may never be together again.
    However, I can't lie that deep down I'm still madly in love with her, I love being around her. For this reason I want to try and give it one last shot.

    I feel like we've had a long enough time period and space without contact and that I am ready to get back in touch.

    What shall I say to her? I have no idea how to get back in touch with her and make her want to go out for a drink or something. I don't want to seem eager and I don't want her to think I'm not over her.

    You could just message her to say hi. Don't get your hopes up though just because you still love her doesn't mean her feelings have changed.
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    I wouldn't do it if I were you, I know that you want to and totally get where you're coming from but if you're "madly in love" with her then you're not really able to make the best decisions. I would suggest giving it some time until you're more over her, but still interested, before trying anything. You're at the bargaining stage of the 5 stages of grief.

    It's possible that she'll go through a stage where she wants to get back together with you and create contact, maybe she won't. But if she's done it properly now then you probably won't get a response.

    Dealing with exes can be a world of pain, and sometimes it's best to just move on completely. Even if it feels like completely the right decision to make now and that there won't be anyone like her ever again, you may look back and think 'ahh what was I doing then'.

    I had exactly the same idea a month after our break up, but soon after I realised it would be a stupid idea.

    It was a pretty mutual ending, and I became aware that it simply wasn't worth it and that I could easily find a better girl to be with.

    A month is not long at all, you'll come back in a few months telling us how you've moved on to bigger things.

    I was with my ex for a year, met at uni, I dropped out March had struggle finding a decent job and decided to split up mutually because there just didn't seem to be anything there anymore. Was in regular contact both discussed how we felt and decided to get back together (I thought it'd be a mistake) and it has proved to be just that, nothing there sexually or emotionally and we just went through the motions really I suppose (I also ended it by text the second time so that's why she probably now hates me).

    Have now realised there's plenty more out there so judging by my own experience I would say don't bother, just cut contact and live your life .
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    Honestly, don't do it to yourself. I thought the same with my ex and we just ended up sleeping together occasionally because I was still in love with him... However, he was sleeping with other people at the time (I wasn't aware) and he ended up giving me an STI. So yah, just move on ahaha

    I'm best man at someone's wedding next year - they split for a year. Realised they missed each other, they kept in touch and decided to have another go now engaged have a house...

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