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    I've been aware that over the last 2 years particularly I've gotten into the habit of talking to myself. But it's not like muttering under my breath, it's more having a conversation with myself pretending to be another person that I know. They're usually different people each time and I put myself in a different scenario.
    Sometimes I do it when I'm upset or angry about something so that it feels like I'm almost listening to my own problems? But I put myself in the mind of the other person. I don't know whether this is some kind of coping mechanism or if it's abnormal behaviour, but I find myself doing it several times a day.

    Does anyone else do the same thing? Is it normal?

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    I don't do this, but I kinda understand what you mean. I don't think it's "abnormal" in the sense you need to go seek professional help, it's just unusual, yeah probably a coping mechanism. But if you are really worried then see someone if it makes you feel better.
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    Omg i do this! Usually ive im practicing what i have to say to someone but also to talk out my problems with myself is that weird?
    (Original post by anonymous)
    i've been aware that over the last 2 years particularly i've gotten into the habit of talking to myself. But it's not like muttering under my breath, it's more having a conversation with myself pretending to be another person that i know. They're usually different people each time and i put myself in a different scenario.
    Sometimes i do it when i'm upset or angry about something so that it feels like i'm almost listening to my own problems? But i put myself in the mind of the other person. I don't know whether this is some kind of coping mechanism or if it's abnormal behaviour, but i find myself doing it several times a day.

    Does anyone else do the same thing? Is it normal?

    Thanks
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    (Original post by missytwinpeaks)
    Omg i do this! Usually ive im practicing what i have to say to someone but also to talk out my problems with myself is that weird?
    That's what I do, but I just put myself in the position of the other person. I think it gets more prominent when I'm feeling anxious or upset
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's what I do, but I just put myself in the position of the other person. I think it gets more prominent when I'm feeling anxious or upset
    we must be okat if its both of us right? XD
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    hey are you saying you put yourself in the position of another person whilst imagining talking to you?

    interesting, I suffer from a similar problem but I never imagine myself in the scenario
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    (Original post by missytwinpeaks)
    we must be okat if its both of us right? XD
    I do this as well. But I tend to do it as a coping mechanism as I grew up pretty much alone and didn't have anyone to talk to.
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    .......were normal....yeah?(:/)
    (Original post by saule1116)
    I do this as well. But I tend to do it as a coping mechanism as I grew up pretty much alone and didn't have anyone to talk to.
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    I do it ALLL the time. Sometimes speaking to myself out loud allows me to focus better on what I'm thinking about.
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    (Original post by missytwinpeaks)
    .......were normal....yeah?(:/)
    We probably just need to find normal people to talk to (like to the extent where we can rant and they won't mind ).
    I also tend to explain the topic that I am learning to myself out loud in order to remember it... So I do talk to myself a lot, but, on the bright side, my communication skills seem to be damn good
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    Haha that's what I do ALL the time! I hope it's normal...
    The fact is, I have a lot of siblings, but being the only girl, I guess it's still a kind of coping mechanism. Often, I'll pretend I'm one of my friends, and I'll be telling her all about something that's just happened recently, only in a more private way than how I would usually speak to her. Sometimes, I just talk to myself, without a "second person"; I find it so enjoyable (Uh-oh) that I could spend hours doing it, which is why my parents go nuts over my "hour-showers", even though the water is turned off most of the time. I don't know if that's even vaguely normal, and your post has comforted me SO MUCH - I thought I might be getting schizophrenic, or something else worrying
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    (Original post by MJlover)
    hey are you saying you put yourself in the position of another person whilst imagining talking to you?

    interesting, I suffer from a similar problem but I never imagine myself in the scenario
    Yeah. I talk to myself as the other person, and answer as myself. But I imagine BEING that other person and talking through something or events with myself.
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    (Original post by Tom Jickleson)
    I do it ALLL the time. Sometimes speaking to myself out loud allows me to focus better on what I'm thinking about.
    Yes I think many people do that. I have to talk about a topic to myself as a way to revise for exams, but that's not what I was referring to when I mentioned talking to myself. I was more specifically talking about holding conversations with myself as another persona.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes I think many people do that. I have to talk about a topic to myself as a way to revise for exams, but that's not what I was referring to when I mentioned talking to myself. I was more specifically talking about holding conversations with myself as another persona.
    So you'll take on two different characters during a conversation?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Haha that's what I do ALL the time! I hope it's normal...
    The fact is, I have a lot of siblings, but being the only girl, I guess it's still a kind of coping mechanism. Often, I'll pretend I'm one of my friends, and I'll be telling her all about something that's just happened recently, only in a more private way than how I would usually speak to her. Sometimes, I just talk to myself, without a "second person"; I find it so enjoyable (Uh-oh) that I could spend hours doing it, which is why my parents go nuts over my "hour-showers", even though the water is turned off most of the time. I don't know if that's even vaguely normal, and your post has comforted me SO MUCH - I thought I might be getting schizophrenic, or something else worrying
    It's crazy how similar we are! I'm the only girl in my family too and get lonely, and often distressed because we have a poor relationship with each other. I'm comforted by your reply and I know I'm not the only person who does this I was worried it might have been something sinister, as I already suffer from depression and GAD.
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    (Original post by Tom Jickleson)
    So you'll take on two different characters during a conversation?
    Yes.
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    Yes.
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    hey, i am quite introverted and focus inwards rather than outwards. this means i have lots of internal dialouge and yes i totally understand what you mean when you say you think of scenarious, i do this as well. Like i will think what if this happened, what would i say and end up talking to myself internaly. Iw ouldn't say it is abnormal for you to do it allowed, just that you are a very self aware person who prefers their own company
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    (Original post by Tom Jickleson)
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    I'm not sure, it's so involuntary that it only hit me this morning that what I was doing couldn't have been normal. And the irony is that I was imagining talking to someone else about it being abnormal! I'm not sure whether it's down to wanting to socialise but having no-one to socialise with to the extent that I'm taking on the roles of 2 people, or whether it's because at times I need someone to vent to or cry to but don't want to burden anyone with having to listen to my problems. So it's kind of like a coping mechanism as it's like I'm talking it through with someone, but in actual fact I'm not.
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    (Original post by CoolCavy)
    hey, i am quite introverted and focus inwards rather than outwards. this means i have lots of internal dialouge and yes i totally understand what you mean when you say you think of scenarious, i do this as well. Like i will think what if this happened, what would i say and end up talking to myself internaly. Iw ouldn't say it is abnormal for you to do it allowed, just that you are a very self aware person who prefers their own company
    Thank you, that's really reassuring.
 
 
 
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