Relationships at Aber

I've heard a lot on other threads that are not Aber-specific about attitudes on dating and sex at various universities. One girl said she felt really pressured by her flatmates to bring random men home all the time. I never thought this would be the way it is at Aber, seems like a very accepting place, but what is the general outlook on dating? Of course it depends on the person, but do people mostly swing towards more committed relationships or flings? What should I expect?

Reply 1

BexTait

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Same really, I know of people who are in/have been in long term relationships, likewise the one night/flings. Entirely depends on the people involved and what they want IMHO

Reply 2

Evil-Tuna

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Our floor gets too drunk to notice who takes home who

Reply 3

readyforaberequine07

OP

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Lol. Good. How about around Freshers' Week? Lots of times it seems like the first years, especially the guys, are only after casual sex during that week. True? I've also heard some crazy stories from other universities; do people honestly wear little traffic-light wristbands to Freshers' Week parties to display their love life status?

Reply 4

Evil-Tuna

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readyforaberequine07

Lol. Good. How about around Freshers' Week? Lots of times it seems like the first years, especially the guys, are only after casual sex during that week. True? I've also heard some crazy stories from other universities; do people honestly wear little traffic-light wristbands to Freshers' Week parties to display their love life status?

I deliberatly missed the traffic light party because one of the losers from big brother was there

Reply 5

readyforaberequine07

OP

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I don't know, traffic light parties just seem desperate. The reason I ask is because I'm frightened of doing something stupid and living to regret it.

Reply 6

prefertoremainanonymous

readyforaberequine07

what is the general outlook on dating? Of course it depends on the person, but do people mostly swing towards more committed relationships or flings? What should I expect?

On my corridor in penbryn I have met my girlfriend of 6 months now, two of my other friends have now started dating since the new year, 2 of my other friends were dating but not anymore, and theres probably lots more that I don't know about that has been swept under the rug. People have been known to bring people back and nobody bats an eyelid about it. Some people can even hear other people getting it on in other rooms above you because penbryn is so cr@ppy, and still nobody reeeeally cares about it.

readyforaberequine07

One girl said she felt really pressured by her flatmates to bring random men home all the time.

At the end of it all, if you live with high maintenance, always out to impress, wear the shortest skirt possible girls, then maybe there will be a bit of competition or potentially pressured? If you live with easy going, up for a laugh, there to enjoy yourself people who you call your mates or just happen to get along with, there will be no problems at all? I dont think you can generalise a few peoples attitudes to sex/dating for the whole of aberystwyth as you rightly stated.

readyforaberequine07

I never thought this would be the way it is at Aber, seems like a very accepting place

Aberystwyth is an accepting place, the whole brilliance about aber is that the students all depend upon each other due to its isolation. If people arent accepting of who you genuinly are, then there is no point being friends with them, or even trying to be. The bottom line is you cannot generalise peoples opinions on relationships/sex/dating for the whole of aberystwyth, everybody is different.

readyforaberequine07

Lol. Good. How about around Freshers' Week? Lots of times it seems like the first years, especially the guys, are only after casual sex during that week. True? I've also heard some crazy stories from other universities; do people honestly wear little traffic-light wristbands to Freshers' Week parties to display their love life status?

People do wear the traffic light wristbands, but they are only on themed nights, its not as if you wear them all day every day just incase somebody tries to hit on you etc etc. Those parties are percieved as desperate, but i am pretty sure that everybody there knows that its desperate, I never went to it, but i reckon it would be a good way of meeting people. As for the theory on casual sex in freshers week, I know of nobody that achieved that at aber. Maybe girls are easier/guys are more forward at other unis so its more likely to happen, but most people are too overwhelmed/wasted for it to really be considered i guess.

Reply 7

readyforaberequine07

OP

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Glad you weighed in, thanks. Nah, I didn't think you'd wear a wristband all the time. That would be. . . interesting.

Do all the rezzes have thin walls? It seems to be a tradition at uni- get the cheapest contractor, squeeze as many rooms as possible in.

Reply 8

Kanet

I got into a relationahip at the end of the second year, and during my first i slept with a few people but not like 1 a week or anything like that. I am still in the relationship coming up to the end of my second and plan to stay in it as long as i am around.

I know quite a few people who got into a relationship either in their second year or at the end of the first year and they are nearly all still together.

Reply 9

kyanya

Everyone I know is very accepting on relationship issues (well, on all issues, in fact!). I know people in committed relationships, I know people in less committed relationships, I know people who have one night stands, I know people who aren't doing relationships at all. Everything goes. You do what you want to do, and people are cool with that. Let's face it - you get to Uni and you're at an age where you can decide for yourself what you want, and no-one's going to say 'Well actually, you should...'. And if they do, don't be around them. Don't worry about it though - whatever will happen will happen and you'll have a great time, even if it wasn't what you planned! I went with a bf from home, but split up with him (which to be honest, we'd both seen coming). I always thought that if things went that way, I'd be single, for the first year at least. However, I've now been seeing someone at Uni for six months. Not what I expected, but that's the way it goes. Uni is a good place for meeting people - being far from home, isolated from the outside world in Aber seems to have the effect of making people get quite close. I think this theories right anyway - Aber seems quite a good place to get loved up judging by all the couples I've seen around, and I once read in the newspaper that St. Andrews Uni in Scotland was also a very good place to meet a life partner. I honestly do think it's that remoteness that causes that!

Reply 10

readyforaberequine07

OP

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Wow. I hope I meet a sexy british horseman :smile:

Reply 11

Evil-Tuna

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readyforaberequine07

Wow. I hope I meet a sexy british horseman :smile:

I fail on all 3 accounts there

Reply 12

EKO

I've never seen a bloke on a horse in Aber, apart from the hunters of course.

Reply 13

readyforaberequine07

OP

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Have you been to the ag campus? And hunters, as in people going to kill little foxes?

Reply 14

EKO

Yeah, the fox hunters, quite a few of them around Aber. Obviously not in the town itself.

Reply 15

readyforaberequine07

OP

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That counts as a bloke on a horse. I would like to try drag hunting; no death, and you get to ride over big jumps!

Reply 16

deaneo

readyforaberequine07

One girl said she felt really pressured by her flatmates to bring random men home all the time.

That has to be one of the most beyond-belief things I have read on this site. Almost up there with a 23yo girl going out with a 60yo man on the Relationships forum.

Reply 17

ben!

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I think according to facebook, 40% of students in Aber are in a relationship - I don't know how that compares with anywhere else! Pier is a wee bit notorious for being a good place for people to hook up but it's a good night (usually) whatever you're looking for. I know people who take people back, people in relationships, and everything in between - it's really what you make of it. I can't speak for anyone else but I've never felt any kind of push to be bumping uglies with a new stranger each night. As for traffic light parties - well that's just a bit of an icebreaker, it's not advertised as some sort of coupling event, don't worry!

Reply 18

readyforaberequine07

OP

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deaneo

That has to be one of the most beyond-belief things I have read on this site. Almost up there with a 23yo girl going out with a 60yo man on the Relationships forum.

Okay, that's just WRONG.

Thank you everyone. I am now much calmer. My worries are unfounded! YAY!

Reply 19

prefertoremainanonymous

ben!

Pier is a wee bit notorious for being a good place for people to hook up but it's a good night (usually) whatever you're looking for!

it's also well known for having your drink spiked, if you are into that too...

...whatever floats your boat.

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