University isn't good for an Autistic person

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I can't take uni anymore. It isn't working.

When someone has this dreaded horrific disorder, your life is 1,000,000 times difficult. I'm a closet autistic meaning i keep it a secret and i make sure no one knows i have this distraught disorder.

I can see why people would make fun of autism, i mean look at us . I thought going to uni will end my anxiety and depression and to supress the autism, instead it has made me severely depressed and made me hate this disorder more and more.

Moral of the story, don't go to uni if you have autism.
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I'm really sorry to hear you're having such a rough time. I know that you want to keep it a secret, but have you considered informing the student support department at your university about your autism? They will be able to help you and provide you with the support you need
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Anonymous #1
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(Original post by Leviathan1741)
I'm really sorry to hear you're having such a rough time. I know that you want to keep it a secret, but have you considered informing the student support department at your university about your autism? They will be able to help you and provide you with the support you need
Of course they know of my disorder.

My complaint is my self hatred. I hate it so much that i want an exorcism service to remove this stupid disorder. It has ruined my life for 10 years and my family's life as well (they also blame me for passing the disorder to my younger brother which i do agree 'its my fault')
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Of course they know of my disorder.

My complaint is my self hatred. I hate it so much that i want an exorcism service to remove this stupid disorder. It has ruined my life for 10 years and my family's life as well (they also blame me for passing the disorder to my younger brother which i do agree 'its my fault'
I understand that having autism is hard, I have a form of it myself. As you know, there isn't a way to get rid of it, so it's important to start thinking about things more positively. Autism can be managed with the right support, so please don't think that things will always have to be this difficult.

It's also definitely not your fault that your younger brother also has autism, so please don't blame yourself, or allow your parents to blame you. Your parents need to be supportive of you both, not upset at you for having a condition which is beyond your control.
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I am an aspie/autist too. Surely University is worth it for the learning, but I am finding the social aspect a little difficult and depressing. Fortunately I commute on the train so I don't have flatmates who I may/may not connect with. It often feels lonelier to be surrounded by people I fail to connect with, than to be alone.

I do TRY to be friendly and interact with people, but they often seem unfriendly and uninterested. I have perhaps two reasonable friends who I talk to when I see them. It is however hard to see them in a lecture of 200+ people, so I often sit alone or with unfriendly strangers. I don't tell people about my autism either, I feel they won't understand.

I do hate the autism, it feels like a curse impeding my chances at social success. However, your family should not blame you for having it. They are in the wrong there.
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Just because you are Autistic doesn't mean you are unintelligent.
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Just because you are Autistic doesn't mean you are unintelligent.
He's probably stressed about the social aspects, though...
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He's probably stressed about the social aspects, though...
I sympathise with anyone will feels like that to be fair.
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Which uni are you at? Do you live out or at home?

Your parents def shouldn't blame you. Is there another friend or family member you can talk to? If not don't bottle it up. You can always talk here.


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(Original post by Rock Fan)
Just because you are Autistic doesn't mean you are unintelligent.
What do you mean by intelligence, is that a single defining characterisitic? Autism might mean someone is socially unintelligent, even if they are good at other things.
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(Original post by King Mal)
He's probably stressed about the social aspects, though...
Yes i am. It seems im allergic to people. I thought my flatmates where my friends but nah, it was fake. THEY ****ING AVOID ME IN THE KITCHEN FOR CHRIST SAKE.

No one talks to me in my course. I've had it :cry:
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Huh? I graduated with a First and I have high-functioning autism :confused:

Autism has nothing to do with your chances of succeeding at uni; your social interactions can be as minimal as you wish, as long as you understand what you're learning. Of course, making the effort to do more than what you're capable of socially brings you better chances of finding a job after you graduate, if only I had learned THAT :sigh:
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(Original post by DMaster1)
Which uni are you at? Do you live out or at home?

Your parents def shouldn't blame you. Is there another friend or family member you can talk to? If not don't bottle it up. You can always talk here.


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I go to Northampton University. It just doesn't work anymore.

I'm planning to live alone next year in order to stop this painful feeling inside me.
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Yes i am. It seems im allergic to people. I thought my flatmates where my friends but nah, it was fake. THEY ****ING AVOID ME IN THE KITCHEN FOR CHRIST SAKE.

No one talks to me in my course. I've had it :cry:
I honestly do not know what to tell you because Idk you personally and I haven't seen you socialise with people. But it doesn't hurt to tell someone that it'll get better in time. Idk what you want to do. You can't drop out because of them.
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Huh? I graduated with a First and I have high-functioning autism :confused:

Autism has nothing to do with your chances of succeeding at uni; your social interactions can be as minimal as you wish, as long as you understand what you're learning. Of course, making the effort to do more than what you're capable of socially brings you better chances of finding a job after you graduate, if only I had learned THAT :sigh:
How do you think the future is going to be for you SOCIALLY?

:sigh: Why did God create this awful disorder
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uni isnt good for any person lol
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(Original post by Anonymous)
How do you think the future is going to be for you SOCIALLY?

:sigh: Why did God create this awful disorder
Me? I'm trying as hard as I can to make sure my degree doesn't go to waste but it's been almost half a year since my last exam... nothing
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Sorry to hear about your situation, you should ideally let your tutors know about your autism. Just because you have this disorder, you shouldn't feel isolated, or any different from other people. You are capable of anything if you put your mind to it . Please tell someone about it - you will get a lot of support and help!!
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(Original post by shawn_o1)
Huh? I graduated with a First and I have high-functioning autism :confused:

Autism has nothing to do with your chances of succeeding at uni; your social interactions can be as minimal as you wish, as long as you understand what you're learning. Of course, making the effort to do more than what you're capable of socially brings you better chances of finding a job after you graduate, if only I had learned THAT :sigh:
I think your post misses the point. Topic creator (and I) aren't concerned about academic potential, just the social. Getting a first is nice, making lots of money too. It's still a miserable time though if you are lonely, with very few friends and no romances.

On a side note: I recognise that forming social connections is valuable for career potential, but how do you go about this and who should the connections be formed with? Lecturers? Tutors? Highly intelligent students?
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I thought going to uni will end my anxiety and depression and to supress the autism.
what on earth made you think that?

to me the moral of the story is more like 'don't have unrealistic expectations and make sure that you take advantage of all the support available to you'
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