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    So basically I'm in first year studying Mechanical Engineering and not enjoying life at university at all.

    I find myself getting stressed over various things. I'm living in halls and get along okay with my flatmates, but we don't really socialise together and I hate sharing a kitchen with them because they're so messy. I have made quite a few friends here and have known the city pretty well for years but home is a 3 hour journey away and I do feel homesick a lot of the time.

    I'm finding the course workload pretty tough and get really stressed each time I get told about a deadline and constantly worry about failing, which makes me think is it really going to get better after first year? I've spoken to my year adviser and he says he doesn't think I've got anything to worry about and advised me to get in touch with student counselling, who I've made an appointment with (soonest possible appointment is a month away however).

    The course content itself isn't too bad, and most of it is interesting, but I sometimes wonder if I'm on the right course? I am interested in engineering in general and enjoy the problem solving and problem analysis associated with it, but I don't feel that I'm very good at creating some completely new idea from scratch. I much prefer the idea of improving an already existing system.

    The thought of dropping out has crossed my mind, but I feel like it's maybe too early to make that decision and I want to do my family proud and get a decent job and be successful in life. But at the minute I'm really struggling to cope with life here, so was hoping I'd manage to get some advice? (Sorry for rambling)
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    (Original post by Nogaro)
    So basically I'm in first year studying Mechanical Engineering and not enjoying life at university at all.

    I find myself getting stressed over various things. I'm living in halls and get along okay with my flatmates, but we don't really socialise together and I hate sharing a kitchen with them because they're so messy. I have made quite a few friends here and have known the city pretty well for years but home is a 3 hour journey away and I do feel homesick a lot of the time.

    I'm finding the course workload pretty tough and get really stressed each time I get told about a deadline and constantly worry about failing, which makes me think is it really going to get better after first year? I've spoken to my year adviser and he says he doesn't think I've got anything to worry about and advised me to get in touch with student counselling, who I've made an appointment with (soonest possible appointment is a month away however).

    The course content itself isn't too bad, and most of it is interesting, but I sometimes wonder if I'm on the right course? I am interested in engineering in general and enjoy the problem solving and problem analysis associated with it, but I don't feel that I'm very good at creating some completely new idea from scratch. I much prefer the idea of improving an already existing system.

    The thought of dropping out has crossed my mind, but I feel like it's maybe too early to make that decision and I want to do my family proud and get a decent job and be successful in life. But at the minute I'm really struggling to cope with life here, so was hoping I'd manage to get some advice? (Sorry for rambling)
    Firstly, i suppose you could start with maybe broaching the subject of the mess with your flatmates and see if that helps at all, if not would you be happier in a different accommodation situation (if that's a possibility) ?
    As for worrying about deadlines, I don't know how you've been approaching any assignments but would breaking them down into smaller chunks and planning them out as much as possible help? Maybe seek support from all your module leaders or personal tutor if you're finding the work either difficult or stressful?
    As for worries of the course itself, does your university offer transfers between different branches of engineering? (you could look into that maybe?)
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    Firstly, i suppose you could start with maybe broaching the subject of the mess with your flatmates and see if that helps at all, if not would you be happier in a different accommodation situation (if that's a possibility) ?
    As for worrying about deadlines, I don't know how you've been approaching any assignments but would breaking them down into smaller chunks and planning them out as much as possible help? Maybe seek support from all your module leaders or personal tutor if you're finding the work either difficult or stressful?
    As for worries of the course itself, does your university offer transfers between different branches of engineering? (you could look into that maybe?)
    Thanks for the input first of all! The worst bit is my flatmates seem to know it's messy, but don't appear to do anything about it, I'd rather just put up with it until June than go through the hassle of moving again. Any assignments or tests I've had I have submitted a decent (I think) attempt, with plenty of time to spare. But it's just when I'm hit with lots of deadline announcements I start panicking about things. As I said I spoke to my year adviser which helped a little. I'm not entirely sure what the situation is with transferring to a different engineering course but I'm not sure any others on offer would be better suited to me than the one I am on at the moment.
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    (Original post by Nogaro)
    Thanks for the input first of all! The worst bit is my flatmates seem to know it's messy, but don't appear to do anything about it, I'd rather just put up with it until June than go through the hassle of moving again. Any assignments or tests I've had I have submitted a decent (I think) attempt, with plenty of time to spare. But it's just when I'm hit with lots of deadline announcements I start panicking about things. As I said I spoke to my year adviser which helped a little. I'm not entirely sure what the situation is with transferring to a different engineering course but I'm not sure any others on offer would be better suited to me than the one I am on at the moment.
    Ah i see, i had a similar problem when i lived in halls, do you get flat inspections or anything like that? Remember its your home too and you should be happy there but i agree that moving would be quite a hassle and i guess should be a last resort.
    It can be difficult to do i know but i guess try and keep a positive attitude even in the face of lots of deadlines, you're doing everything right by getting them in on time and doing them well (not everybody has that attitude to work in university so give yourself a pat on the back for that) so dont be so hard on yourself with it and do some little things you enjoy to help you relax when you become anxious about it.

    I m not sure all universities have them but you might have a department that deals with course transfers who might be able to help or not sure they d be much help but maybe a careers advisor or your personal tutor could help you figure out what you want to do.
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    Ah i see, i had a similar problem when i lived in halls, do you get flat inspections or anything like that? Remember its your home too and you should be happy there but i agree that moving would be quite a hassle and i guess should be a last resort.
    It can be difficult to do i know but i guess try and keep a positive attitude even in the face of lots of deadlines, you're doing everything right by getting them in on time and doing them well (not everybody has that attitude to work in university so give yourself a pat on the back for that) so dont be so hard on yourself with it and do some little things you enjoy to help you relax when you become anxious about it.

    I m not sure all universities have them but you might have a department that deals with course transfers who might be able to help or not sure they d be much help but maybe a careers advisor or your personal tutor could help you figure out what you want to do.
    Yeah I think we do get inspections at some point so hopefully they get their act together by then. I don't think I'd like to transfer course as I reckon it would just mean starting from first year and at the moment I'm hoping these 4 or 5 years go as quick as possible.

    Thanks again
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    I'm in a pretty similar situation to you and I'm doing chemical engineering.

    In regards to your accommodation, unless it's absolutely unbearable and affecting your work or general wellbeing I'd say just put up with it. It's almost halfway through the year, 1st semester is almost over and you really don't want the hassle of moving at this point. Also, even if you do move, there is the potential you'd just be getting yourself into a similar situation or even worse than where you're at now - these are student halls after all and they will always be noisy and messy no matter which one you're at. The way I think of it is: it's better the devil you know than the one you don't.

    The workload in engineering is a lot and that's something you'll just have to deal with. I found it really overwhelming the first month and I think just coming to terms with the fact that it's a bloody difficult degree and so much work has helped. Organising yourself and compartmentalising your work helps so much because it'll allow you to focus on certain areas without you getting too stuck on them if that makes sense. I used to waste too much time trying to understand something for one module instead of setting a time for it and then moving on to the next. Finding a balance for your modules is key. But you also need to have the motivation to stick to it and that in itself can be a struggle. You need to make sure you want this and remind yourself why when things get tough because that is what will help you push through it.


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    (Original post by goodwinning)
    I'm in a pretty similar situation to you and I'm doing chemical engineering.

    In regards to your accommodation, unless it's absolutely unbearable and affecting your work or general wellbeing I'd say just put up with it. It's almost halfway through the year, 1st semester is almost over and you really don't want the hassle of moving at this point. Also, even if you do move, there is the potential you'd just be getting yourself into a similar situation or even worse than where you're at now - these are student halls after all and they will always be noisy and messy no matter which one you're at. The way I think of it is: it's better the devil you know than the one you don't.

    The workload in engineering is a lot and that's something you'll just have to deal with. I found it really overwhelming the first month and I think just coming to terms with the fact that it's a bloody difficult degree and so much work has helped. Organising yourself and compartmentalising your work helps so much because it'll allow you to focus on certain areas without you getting too stuck on them if that makes sense. I used to waste too much time trying to understand something for one module instead of setting a time for it and then moving on to the next. Finding a balance for your modules is key. But you also need to have the motivation to stick to it and that in itself can be a struggle. You need to make sure you want this and remind yourself why when things get tough because that is what will help you push through it.


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    Thanks a lot, nice to hear from someone experiencing the same sort of thing
 
 
 
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