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    I've had bad past experiences with relationships and 'seeing' people.. In the past, people have gradually stopped speaking to me 2/3 weeks in, or kept me in a 'not a relationship' relationship. I haven't had an actual relationship in over 3 years.

    I've just started seeing someone, we're 2 weeks in. I like him a lot and I've made it clear from the start I'm not looking for anything casual, I'm not looking to mess around. He knows that communication is important, as we live in different cities.
    Dates have gone well, he's affectionate with me and until today, we'd spoken every day.. However it's always me speaking first..
    That's what's making me worry, I always start the conversation. This could mean nothing; he could just rely on me to start it, but at the same time I'm paranoid because of past experiences that I might be annoying him or that he doesn't want to speak to me.
    I've kept conversation light, non-repetitive and only a few messages per conversation or a short text (as it's early days and there's no need to overload him everyday, we're both busy with uni/work)

    I haven't messaged him at all today, and he's made no attempt to speak to me.. my head's going crazy about it and I'm probably just overthinking, but I'd like some advice..
    How can I keep his interest, have him speak to me first sometimes, and make sure I'm not coming across as clingy or annoying?
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    What's the distance between the two cities? Could be that it's too far a distance for him to want to fully commit to you.
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    What's the distance between the two cities? Could be that it's too far a distance for him to want to fully commit to you.
    30 min drive or 50 min on the train, not far and we could see each other at least once a week
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    I think your reading too much into the whole thing to be honest with you.. I am a guy and I don't usually start the conversation with people I used to date (I am in a long term relationship now) it isn't because I don't like the other person it's just I don't want to bombard them with messages all the time..!

    Are you cautious because of the past relationships you have been in? I'm sure he likes you so just go with the flow!
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    Thanks, I am overthinking it.
    I gave in a messaged him first, but only because I had a strong feeling it would be 2 days in a row with no communication if I didn't speak first..
 
 
 
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