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    I wish I was never born, I hate every minute of everyday as it feels like my youth has been taken away from me in a matter or months. I already have some anxiety issues, but how on earth am I going to socialise and get a girlfriend when I am already considerably bald. At the moment I feel like such a loser and that nobody will ever love me, now this may sound rather petty however. it is very hard to understand unless you have been in the awfully degrading and humiliating situation of losing your hair before you even reach 20. What should I do, at the moment I just want to hide away and never come out, I am also starting to hold a grudge against my parents for bringing me into this world, knowing that premature baldness runs in my mothers side of the family. Any advice on what I should do? Please don't try to be to hard on me I am really struggling at the moment.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I wish I was never born, I hate every minute of everyday as it feels like my youth has been taken away from me in a matter or months. I already have some anxiety issues, but how on earth am I going to socialise and get a girlfriend when I am already considerably bald. At the moment I feel like such a loser and that nobody will ever love me, now this may sound rather petty however. it is very hard to understand unless you have been in the awfully degrading and humiliating situation of losing your hair before you even reach 20. What should I do, at the moment I just want to hide away and never come out, I am also starting to hold a grudge against my parents for bringing me into this world, knowing that premature baldness runs in my mothers side of the family. Any advice on what I should do? Please don't try to be to hard on me I am really struggling at the moment.
    Go to work and get a hair transplant?
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    One of my friends was completely bald by the age of nineteen (he's now 21) and he's had a girlfriend for three years. Being bald really doesn't matter, people will still like you no matter what. Just be yourself and you'll find someone who loves you
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    It might not seem like it to you, but losing your hair really isn't that musch of an issue at all to other people. I highly highly doubt its going to be a dealbreaker in any kind of relationship. Just embrace yourself and move on to more important things
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    Really sorry if this doesn't help at all. I knew a couple of people that were fairly bald before they were 20. They just got on with it shaved their head, didn't attempt to try and make out they still had a full head of hair and just sort of owned it. Yeah it's probably not ideal, but the vast majority of people out there could not care less if you have hair or not and the people that it does bother - screw them, you don't want those people in your life anyway.
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    Lots of bald people have girlfriends, I don't understand why you think lack of head hair will equal a lonely life
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    dude, *my* hairline has looked like a 50 year old man's hairline since I was a child. I have a fringe over my forehead to cover it. I know how it feels.
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    I'm basically in the same situation but it really doesn't bother me at all!
    Drop me a private message and we can have a chat about options.
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    How bad is it? Either way, being bald isn't the end of the world. Bald guys still get girls and live a pretty good and social life, you just need to accept things as they are and embrace it. I promise you, you'll start to feel better. If you let it affect your confidence and self esteem, then you'll only make things worse.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I wish I was never born, I hate every minute of everyday as it feels like my youth has been taken away from me in a matter or months. I already have some anxiety issues, but how on earth am I going to socialise and get a girlfriend when I am already considerably bald. At the moment I feel like such a loser and that nobody will ever love me, now this may sound rather petty however. it is very hard to understand unless you have been in the awfully degrading and humiliating situation of losing your hair before you even reach 20. What should I do, at the moment I just want to hide away and never come out, I am also starting to hold a grudge against my parents for bringing me into this world, knowing that premature baldness runs in my mothers side of the family. Any advice on what I should do? Please don't try to be to hard on me I am really struggling at the moment.
    To be honest, all the girls saying it isn't a problem are lying. Would they date you? The problem is that they say people would, you are a nice guy, but girls will just keep saying you would make a good girlfriend...for someone else. They will all say you will find a girl-but them personally? No thanks.

    Think about it; are they going to want to introduce you to their friends if you are bald and they are early 20's? No. Their family? No. If you are in your thirties I guess it is ok, but twenties or younger no way.

    I know what I am saying is harsh some will say, but lying does not ever help. You are, unfortunately, going to have to accept that it is a difficulty in life. So while you hate it now, that is fine, eventually you will start to get over it. Losing hair sucks at a young age, sure, but you will get over it. Of that I am certain. Being upset is normal, it is understandable 100%, but eventually you will start to move on.

    I mean the people in Alton Towers lost limbs; they will start to move on. Some people have lost their parents at a young age-they move on. Everyone moves on eventually and you will do to. This is a problem for you but who on life never faces any problems?
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    I am so sorry you're going through this I absolutely understand how traumatizing it is to lose your hair. I had alopecia as a child and while it did not bother me as a child it did return during my time at university and it was a nightmare. Hair loss can affect one's self-esteem and confidence but I'd like to tell you that it's not the end the world and people that love you and care about you will not treat you or see you differently. You can still live a very happy and fulfilling life - you're not alone and will find the love of your life.
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    you are beautiful:3
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I wish I was never born, I hate every minute of everyday as it feels like my youth has been taken away from me in a matter or months. I already have some anxiety issues, but how on earth am I going to socialise and get a girlfriend when I am already considerably bald. At the moment I feel like such a loser and that nobody will ever love me, now this may sound rather petty however. it is very hard to understand unless you have been in the awfully degrading and humiliating situation of losing your hair before you even reach 20. What should I do, at the moment I just want to hide away and never come out, I am also starting to hold a grudge against my parents for bringing me into this world, knowing that premature baldness runs in my mothers side of the family. Any advice on what I should do? Please don't try to be to hard on me I am really struggling at the moment.
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    (Original post by i<3milkshake)
    To be honest, all the girls saying it isn't a problem are lying. Would they date you? The problem is that they say people would, you are a nice guy, but girls will just keep saying you would make a good girlfriend...for someone else. They will all say you will find a girl-but them personally? No thanks.

    Think about it; are they going to want to introduce you to their friends if you are bald and they are early 20's? No. Their family? No. If you are in your thirties I guess it is ok, but twenties or younger no way.

    I know what I am saying is harsh some will say, but lying does not ever help. You are, unfortunately, going to have to accept that it is a difficulty in life. So while you hate it now, that is fine, eventually you will start to get over it. Losing hair sucks at a young age, sure, but you will get over it. Of that I am certain. Being upset is normal, it is understandable 100%, but eventually you will start to move on.

    I mean the people in Alton Towers lost limbs; they will start to move on. Some people have lost their parents at a young age-they move on. Everyone moves on eventually and you will do to. This is a problem for you but who on life never faces any problems?
    Eeeeeeeeeeeee....
 
 
 
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