A month ago, my father had a sudden heart attack (the doctors rated it a 2/10) and it shook my, and my mother's, world. My dad was always difficult, has severe OCD, paranoia and hypochondria and we spend most our lives tiptoeing around him yet our feelings go ignored. One thing that would bother him is meant to be dealt with immediately whereas he tells us to get over our own issues.
Since his heart attack, he's gotten a lot worse, become infinitely more demanding and causes arguments on a daily basis (my mum has a job and he demands she cooks for him when she walks through the door). Today for instance, he made me sit in the dark and turned off all the lights even though he wasn't in the room, just because he claims I'm using electricity wastefully - yet he has 3+ showers a day because of his OCD. He turns the TV over while I'm watching it and whenever I complain he uses his heart attack as an excuse and demands I be more compromising, which my mum strangely supports.
Am I being insensitive to his needs or is his behaviour unreasonable? He refuses to change and I'm unsure about how to go about this. I gave up a new job I got in London to stay nearer to home to help my mum out with my dad's needs (following his heart attack) but it just feels he's taking advantage of my generosity. Any advice?
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