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    So I met a really amazing group of people that live in my halls during Freshers. We did almost everything together for the first couple of weeks, but then I had to start taking rain-checks because of the lack of money. I'd always try to meet up with them when I could.

    We have a group chat where we would keep in touch and plan things. But a free weeks into the semester, I noticed they were using it less and less. I also realised that they were planning stuff without me. I had assumed that they weren't asking me because they thought that i didn't have the money, until i went out with hem during Halloween. I don't thing they intended to, but the way they were acting made me feel like an outsider.

    I don't know why I've made such a big deal out of this. I'm not good at socialising anyway, so I felt good when I put myself out there and found these guys. But now I can't sleep because I feel like I've done something, or that they really don't like me.

    Should I try and keep in touch and stay friends with them, or should I just let them go and move on? Keeping in touch is hard when no one uses the group chat any more and I feel awkward about texting them since they started acting this way. Letting go feels hard because I grew really close to them during the first four weeks, and now that i see them hanging out all the time it really hurts that i'm not there...
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    Did you meet them this academic year?
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    hey anon, that sucks ass, but im sure that itll get resolved, why dont you try to keep in touch and if it carries on tell them how you're feeling because they might not realise what they're doing, and us socially awkward people sometimes focus on little things that other people don't notice, like how close up a hand is or whether someone will only chew gum when they're talking to you, (i have literally done both of these two things) and if you dont mention it, it cant get fixed. If you do mention it and nothing changes then its time to move on and find people who will respect you and your feelings, remember people only treat us the way we let them
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Did you meet them this academic year?
    Yeah I did, I met them in my halls and we spent all of Freshers together

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    hey anon, that sucks ass, but im sure that itll get resolved, why dont you try to keep in touch and if it carries on tell them how you're feeling because they might not realise what they're doing, and us socially awkward people sometimes focus on little things that other people don't notice, like how close up a hand is or whether someone will only chew gum when they're talking to you, (i have literally done both of these two things) and if you dont mention it, it cant get fixed. If you do mention it and nothing changes then its time to move on and find people who will respect you and your feelings, remember people only treat us the way we let them
    I think I'll try this. I'm not good at realising what I'm doing wrong, but I'm always up for self improvement. But I don't want to just text someone out of the blue because I feel like that might look weird :/
 
 
 
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