Hey guys, wasn't sure where I should post this! So I opted for here because it's sort of a problem to do with relationships (relationships with my flatmates to be precise), and because it's the only place where I could find the "post as anonymous" tick-box! I hate posting anonymously but I was scared one of my flatmates would come on here and see that I'd posted this.
Basically, we're in our second year of uni, in a flat where me and this guy have the joint smallest rooms (and they are actually rather tiny), and the two other girls have nice sized rooms. We decided to change flats next year so whilst me and the other guy have gone home, the two girls in the nice sized rooms have stayed up at uni looking for potential flats. They found a nice one that they fell in love with, but it has two doubles and two singles. For some reason I automatically assumed me and the other guy would be entitled to the bigger rooms next time round due to the fact we are in the smallest rooms this year. Seems I was being presumptious and demanding because the two other girls want the big doubles. I know, I know. This sounds very very petty, but it really annoys me. Surely it's fair to take turns in who gets the good rooms? The reasons they say I shouldn't get a double are because my boyfriend has a double bed in his bedroom and that I often spend time there, whilst everyone else spends most of their time in our flat. I spend lots of time at my boyfriend's flat because my room is so tiny I really don't have a desk to work at and I find it hard doing any proper work just sitting on my bed. I feel they are ganging up on me in a way, since the two of them are up there and I just imagine them discussing amongst each other how they can make me give in and let them have the good rooms. They are quite close, but I fail to see how they can think it's fair to tell me I should have one of the smallest rooms again because my boyfriend has a double. I'd like to know other people's opinions because if I am being unfair and I can't see why I am, I'd like to know! Whilst talking to my flatmate (the one who doesn't think I should get a big bedroom) over msn last night, she told me that she and the other girl are upset because I'm not even willing to compromise and take a single, and that I am basically demanding a double. To me it just all seems a bit bitchy and I hate it! I am not good in these situations and I think maybe the other girls know that and they are using it to their advantage. I always let people walk all over me but this time I really think I should stand up for myself. I know this sounds like a really petty topic, but it's actually making me pretty upset. Just stressing out over the other two girls ganging up and trying to shove me into another small room, and the fact that I hate confrontation and bad vibes between people! Any suggestions or opinions anyone?