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How social (or unsocial) are your flatmates?

On saturday my parents sent me all the the way to Manchester to pick my sister up from uni (she couldnt come from train because she decided she wanted to bring like 10 bags back with her just for the holidays!! so someone had to pick her up), and i walked into her corridor and it was like walking into the cancer ward of my local hospital. All the douchebags had locked themselves up in there rooms, i wanted to shoot myself as soon as i entered that god forsaken place.

luckily my sisters there with 2 of her best friends from school so she always hanging around with them :biggrin: but comee on!

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Erm, so you were there for what, ten minutes, and because her flatmates were in their rooms, they must be antisocial? :confused: What were you expecting, a party?
they probably felt uncomfortable because a "stranger" had come into their flat.

When my flatmates cousins came over for the day I hid in my room. But when her Uni friends are over i speak to em
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more adventurous
Erm, so you were there for what, ten minutes, and because her flatmates were in their rooms, they must be antisocial? :confused: What were you expecting, a party?

got a point...:rolleyes:
Reply 4
waji
On saturday

Okay, I'm going to sterotype here, based on the fact that I have friends in about 10 unis and they say the same, so it must be the same everyone, right :p: . University is about the weekdays!.

I guess it depends when you went to pick her up. But if you went early (by which I mean student early, before or around 1pm) then they could have been asleep from the night before!

Clubs/Bars usually increase prices at the weekend as this is when the none students can usually always go out, so students make the most of the weekdays (which is when a lot of 'student nights' are). That, plus lectures/work and staying up late = the weekend to recover!!

My parents always visit me on weekends when they come up. They come early, 11am-12ish, we go somewhere usually for a meal etc, and we come back and the place is pretty much still dead at 2-3pm.

But there are 72 people in my building, usually 5-10 people in the common room at any time, and everyone is sociable. But it's not about the weekends!

I don't know how extreme it is elsewhere, but people waking up at 4/5/6/7PM isn't that uncommon, usually a few that do at the weekends, lol.

It could be a bunch of things, I guess. But unless she said they are unsociable, I wouldn't just assume that. As everyone needs time to themselves! Also, I imagine, living in a flat you may be less likely to find someone you 'click' with, unless you are lucky. Sure, you'll make friends, but you may find what you consider better friends elsewhere, so may be more willing to socialise with them. I'm not sure!
Reply 5
hermaphrodite
they probably felt uncomfortable because a "stranger" had come into their flat.

When my flatmates cousins came over for the day I hid in my room. But when her Uni friends are over i speak to em

I guess it's a little into the year now, so you'd hope that it would be less like that now. But I agree. My friend visited me after 6 weeks (2, infact). They stayed for 2 nights. The first night people just said hello, but didn't talk to them much, where as they did a bit more on the 2nd night.

But now if people have friends over everyone talks a lot of them, we usually end up exchanging facebooks/numbers/doing stupid things together. So I guess people like the security of who they live with at first.

Meeting so many new people at uni is such a change, I guess at first people don't want the effort of meeting other people. It's also perhaps a case of "never going to see you again, so why should I bother" (but that attitude at this stage is a little anti-social I guess).

But I live in a hall. I can say hello, as can others, to peoples friends/family. But in a flat it's a little more intimate. You're kinda expected to have a little bit of a conversation, as there aren't that many other people to talk to! So the fact it was such close quarters may put some people who are a little shy off!
I'm confused. You were there for a few minutes and people were in their room? Shock horror!! They probably don't spend most of their time hanging out in the corridor, that would be weird. :rolleyes:
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more adventurous
Erm, so you were there for what, ten minutes, and because her flatmates were in their rooms, they must be antisocial? :confused: What were you expecting, a party?


no theyre always like that, ive even stayed over a couple of times but her flatmates still refuse to socialise. about 3 of them are your average 'gangsta homeboys' who refuse to chat to anyone :s-smilie:
if ur sister is unhappy -then she'll make ammendments and/or move .. . .why are u posting this on a forum . . if u have ur sisters interest at heart then u'll discuss it with her . . not with people u dont know on a web forum.
Reply 9
hermaphrodite
if ur sister is unhappy -then she'll make ammendments and/or move .. . .why are u posting this on a forum . . if u have ur sisters interest at heart then u'll discuss it with her . . not with people u dont know on a web forum.


oh sorry dude i seem to have offended you :eek: , i must have struck some emotional chord. If i knew that you were gonna get periods over my post i wouldnt have posted it. :rolleyes:.
Reply 10
what the...?
waji
oh sorry dude i seem to have offended you :eek: , i must have struck some emotional chord. If i knew that you were gonna get periods over my post i wouldnt have posted it. :rolleyes:.



U've not offended me - i was just suggesting that it would be better for you to discuss it with ur sister, rather than on a web forum.
Reply 12
hermaphrodite
U've not offended me - i was just suggesting that it would be better for you to discuss it with ur sister, rather than on a web forum.


wouldnt it would be better if everyone of message boards discusses stuff with others rather then on a message board einstein? that is why message boards exist - to discuss stuff.
yes but people reading this forum don't know the full circumstances regarding ur sibling - only she does - hence why you should discuss it with her.
Reply 14
Calm down, kids. One thing this message board definitely does not exist for is flame wars.

If your sister only hangs about with old schoolmates, is it any wonder her other flatmates won't socialise? Cliques remain cliques, they seldom expand to accommodate new people.
Reply 15
My flatmates are very social!! We always chat to eachothers friends or family, in fact we all went for a meal with someones mum just the other day.
What an idiot. No offence but so what? Did you want them to throw roses at your feet as you entered, offering you all the delights of the world just because you're related to their flatmate?

waji
oh sorry dude i seem to have offended you :eek: , i must have struck some emotional chord. If i knew that you were gonna get periods over my post i wouldnt have posted it. :rolleyes:.



Emotional cord? Hold on, you created this thread. You're crying about your sisters flatmate not coming out of their rooms to talk to you. I think they have struck an emotional chord with you. Hypocrite.
No she isn't crying, she was annoyed with the attitude of your first post. Learn some manners and don't reply unless you have something worthwhile to say.
My flatmates at uni were very antisocial after a few weeks, but I was only in a flat of 5 - one was a postgrad anyway - so we'd all made better friends with others in the building and around uni.
Reply 18
i think you need to remeember the question of this thread 'how social (or unsocial) are your flatmates' ... i see nothing wrong in discussing this wonderment of the OP

i'm on gap year so i couldn't really answer yet
The OP's sister hasn't got issues, the OP was asking if other people's flatmates are the same :tongue: