Love

Love is a trick

Ive been with this guy for almost 4 years, some of which was long distance, although we are now a couple of hours away from eachother. We used to be seriously in love---all the usual obsessive adoring kind of behaviour, talkin of kids and marriage etc---but we have both come to realise that those feelings have now faded. we still really care about eachother and get along really well, and there is still a basic kind of love there-but its not the same. although we have tried to break up in the past we find it hard to be without eachother.
we now have the opportunity of living together next year (from june onwards), but are aprehensive about how we would feel, and if we could ever get to really love eachother again. i think that our feelings have faded because we hardly saw eachother, and so living together would give us a chace to remember why we fell for eachother in the first place.
but im unsure.
basically im asking: is it possible to get those kind of feelings back?

You should probably ask yourself how you'd feel if you were living together and he brought a new girlfriend back to stay, presumably after having made it clear that he didn't feel romantically towards you anymore. If the answer is that you'd find it hard to deal with, then you probably shouldn't move in with him. If you feel like you'd be ok with it, and could move on, then go for it. Whilst living together might bring you a lot closer together, and allow you to rekindle what you had, it might also make it completely clear, fairly quickly, that you two weren't meant to be together.

Love is a trick

No,it can't be! I'm in love with being in love atm Ah the object of my desire is so, well gorgeous,mmmmm, everybody should be in love and experience it's emotional heights and depths, being in love is part of the Human condition, so is being out of love

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Uhm,oh dear a little side-tracked there so to your dilemna...well it could be possible to recapture the deep feelings you had for each other, did you just become kind of "used" to each other?

Sometimes being in a new environment with a former lover can re-ignite the initial attraction

Ive been with this guy for almost 4 years, some of which was long distance, although we are now a couple of hours away from eachother. We used to be seriously in love---all the usual obsessive adoring kind of behaviour, talkin of kids and marriage etc---but we have both come to realise that those feelings have now faded. we still really care about eachother and get along really well, and there is still a basic kind of love there-but its not the same. although we have tried to break up in the past we find it hard to be without eachother.
we now have the opportunity of living together next year (from june onwards), but are aprehensive about how we would feel, and if we could ever get to really love eachother again. i think that our feelings have faded because we hardly saw eachother, and so living together would give us a chace to remember why we fell for eachother in the first place.
but im unsure.
basically im asking: is it possible to get those kind of feelings back?

Ive been with this guy for almost 4 years, some of which was long distance, although we are now a couple of hours away from eachother. We used to be seriously in love---all the usual obsessive adoring kind of behaviour, talkin of kids and marriage etc---but we have both come to realise that those feelings have now faded. we still really care about eachother and get along really well, and there is still a basic kind of love there-but its not the same. although we have tried to break up in the past we find it hard to be without eachother.
we now have the opportunity of living together next year (from june onwards), but are aprehensive about how we would feel, and if we could ever get to really love eachother again. i think that our feelings have faded because we hardly saw eachother, and so living together would give us a chace to remember why we fell for eachother in the first place.
but im unsure.
basically im asking: is it possible to get those kind of feelings back?

He sounds cuter than you! I say: Keep him!

Don't worry about it, your relationship is just entering a different stage - the two year rule if you like. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/4669104.stm

... but for four years.