I have been in a relationship with this girl who I will call (kate) and we have been going out for 2 years now, I loved her so much when we were dating but now I feel we have lost the spark, we have argued many times over stupid things and it just builds stress and makes me feel I have to be careful with everything I say or do. Early stages we were both protective of eachother and we wouldnt want eachother speaking to anyother opposite sex as friends because we were scared (I was 15/16 at the time) I am now 2 months away from being 18 now and I feel like I havent lived life to the full as much as I should have its only recently I have been putting myself out there, I mean ive done drugs got drunk but ive started to socialise a lot more and make new friends. So I was saying to my gf a while back that I dont mind her talking to boys now and I thibk we should let eachother have opposite sex friends since theres no reason not to if we trust eachother. She says thats fine but she still panicks a lot and gets really touchy which is driving me mad.
So things have been quite bad lately, shes into romance and stuff were as I am an emotional person and I can show it but I chose not to because in the past this made me venerable and I got bullied and suffered with depression but now im a very happy person. Right now I just want to party and make new friends and socialise, but my gf wants to see me so mcuh shes very needy and like ive said to her im not good at being this romantic guy who is always staying inbeing together 24/7, I need my own space and need to have fun as does she. The other night I went out to a bar/pub for my mates b-day with other mates, we got there and there were people I havent met before at school so I was quite nevous but I had a few drinks and I was fine, I made new friends that night it was brilliant.
There was this girl though… ive seen her in my sixthform before and ive never had the balls to just chat because I get too nervous. But she was friends with a girl im friends with and I was outside the oub with this girl I havent spoke to before (lucy) and I was smoking I was pissed but I remember everything, me and her were chatting outside and smoking and we just got along so well, never spoke to eachother and we just clicked instantly.
Her friend who is also mine (ellie) joined us and we jsut had such a good time doing shots, I spent ages with this girl (lucy) we were linking arms laughing togehter, just non stop, we were like best mates at the end of the night. She invited me to her party this comimg december from meeting me once so I said yes. Ever since that night though I cant stop thinking about her…
I told my gf how I made new friends and me and (lucy) got along really well, but she goes all sad and thinks im going to cheat and she has a panick attack and doesnt stop crying for an hour. I comforted her and that but shes just making me feel down and our relationships ****e and shes so needy and it jsut makes me not want to see her that mcuh, abd when I say I love you to her sometimes I say it and feel like im just saying a lie to her because I jsut dont feel it that much anymore.
I feel if I break up with her ill regret it because we get along so well but the spark isnt there anynore for me but shes totally in live with me. I just know if I split up with her because shes really into me it will kill her and I dont want to do tjat because I still care. I jsut feel as well im too young for a seriosu relationship and I need to just get out there, I was so tempted to kiss and possibly have sex with that girl (lucy) that night but I didnt because I know I wouldnt want to be cheated on. I just feel weve met at the wrong time if I partied and shagged peole and then met her ehen I was 25 or something and that would be great but im 18 and want to live life and expierence it
So should I split up from her or should I keep going