Uni has changed me, but I've gone from a shy introvert to an arrogant ******* Watch

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Should I embrace the change?

Before university I was shy, quiet and terrible unsociable. But due to my law course, I've gained more confidence from speaking; and I've not only become more confident, but arrogant - I'm much more witty and more of a 'wiseguy'.

Anyone else have a similar experience?
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Yes, embrace the change. Eventually you will settle into a happy medium.

I went from socially awkward and vaguely antisocial to noisy, chatty, life of the party, lad type with a string of girls. From one extreme to the other.

I eventually settled down into a happy medium.

Better to change than to be stuck in a rut your entire life.
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What really matters is being authentic.
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Law courses tend to bring out the worst in people.
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Arrogance could be your downfall. Temper it find a solid medium. I used to be highly arrogant, trust me it does no favours
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Arrogance could be your downfall. Temper it find a solid medium. I used to be highly arrogant, trust me it does no favours
What happened?
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What happened?
Nothing happened but people look at you in a negative light if you get too cocky and I found some people viewing me that way. I'm a lot more humble now and rarely toot my own horn
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if you think you're arrogant than chances are, you're not actually that arrogant
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Arrogance could be your downfall. Temper it find a solid medium. I used to be highly arrogant, trust me it does no favours
Yep. I don't consider myself that arrogant (although what does that mean? lol) although I used to be a bit, and big tip I would give is to be open-minded. If you are fixed on your own opinion, and ppl keep trying to refute it, your brain will block them out, if left to its own devices. So it's recommended to keep a record of all the refutes, before you forget them. That's what Darwin did, and look how it helped him! I'd also advise reading "The art of thinking clearly" by Rolf Dobelli, if you haven't already. Loads of excellent advise in there! http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Art-Thin.../dp/1444759566
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Made me way less laid back.

Before uni I was really chilled out and didn't put much pressure on myself. After uni (with the intense exams and competitiveness) I came out way more stressed and uptight.
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(Original post by marco14196)
Nothing happened but people look at you in a negative light if you get too cocky and I found some people viewing me that way. I'm a lot more humble now and rarely toot my own horn
This made my laugh so hard, nice joke man.

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Uni has changed me too; I've gone from a shy introvert who had acceptable social life to a shy introvert with almost no social life. "Personal growth" lol

Self-confidence is good; arrogance is only good if you are always right..it depends on what exactly you mean by arrogance. Not believing in yourself is not exactly great but not believing you can be wrong is pretty bad too. But from the sounds of it you aren't "arrogant" in the true sense; it seems too pejorative for what you have described. I think people tend to like a "wiseguy" for the most part, even if they can sometimes be annoying; what people don't like is genuine Narcissist types.
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Before university, I was a self-centred ***hole

Now that I've finished university, I'm even more of a self-centred ***hole
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(Original post by theperformer)
Should I embrace the change?

Before university I was shy, quiet and terrible unsociable. But due to my law course, I've gained more confidence from speaking; and I've not only become more confident, but arrogant - I'm much more witty and more of a 'wiseguy'.

Anyone else have a similar experience?
Embrace it girls like arrogance 👏🏼
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Embrace it girls like arrogance 👏🏼
lol no they don't
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lol no they don't
Well I do, shows confidence and is attractive
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I used to be lazy and always, always put in the minimum effort required to hit an acceptable grade pre-uni. Used to go out more pre-uni as well.

Now doing a law degree at uni, I am now more hardworking than I used to be (at least 75% more effort), and am not too keen on nights out too often.

Perhaps its just that the workload has increased for me to get by and achieve a 2:1...
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Well I do, shows confidence and is attractive
One can be confident without being arrogant.
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One can be confident without being arrogant.
True, doesn't mean that I can't be attracted to arrogance
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True, doesn't mean that I can't be attracted to arrogance
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