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It's that Time of year again! Wherever you look on facebook, there's people in your cohort during high school/ sixth form getting pregnant!
As an Indian myself, it struck me that there is no one I know of Indian origin who has had kids outside marriage. Why is the fact that these pregnancies are celebrated in western culture, yet derided in Indian culture?
Do you think that it is only a matter of time before Indian girls buck the trend and start emulating their western peers? It is getting more and more common for them to date blacks and whites after all.
Discuss.
As an Indian myself, it struck me that there is no one I know of Indian origin who has had kids outside marriage. Why is the fact that these pregnancies are celebrated in western culture, yet derided in Indian culture?
Do you think that it is only a matter of time before Indian girls buck the trend and start emulating their western peers? It is getting more and more common for them to date blacks and whites after all.
Discuss.
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Well, although the word "sex" is forbidden in indian households, somehow, I don't know how but we all learn the "No sex before marriage" rule (lol).
So I'm assuming "No sex before marriage" would equal no children before marriage and if children happen, then sex happened and therefore shame upon you and your family.
In more traditional households, I think it would be terrifying to say that you're pregnant. Especially if you're still a teenager. Traditional Indian parents need to be more accepting though, it is a bit ridiculous.
So I'm assuming "No sex before marriage" would equal no children before marriage and if children happen, then sex happened and therefore shame upon you and your family.
In more traditional households, I think it would be terrifying to say that you're pregnant. Especially if you're still a teenager. Traditional Indian parents need to be more accepting though, it is a bit ridiculous.
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#4
because as my indian bff would say she'd get "deported back to india by ship" my friend is a weirdo btw but it's true.
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#5
Well, western influence on Indian society is definitely increasing due to a number of reasons. I'd like to think that this will inspire the younger generation to free itself from the shackles of an antiquated culture.
Here's hoping for change.
Here's hoping for change.
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#7
It's defo got something to do with the no sex before marriage rule.
Unfortunately Indian families still have those irritating aunties who would never stop gossiping if an Indian had a kid before marriage. It's still a taboo thing in Indian culture I think no matter how long Indians have lived in the West.
Unfortunately Indian families still have those irritating aunties who would never stop gossiping if an Indian had a kid before marriage. It's still a taboo thing in Indian culture I think no matter how long Indians have lived in the West.
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#9
Because they have morals and virtues. Something the western society has forgotten.
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#11
(Original post by Bupdeeboowah)
Because how you become doctor if you have baby? - Indian parents.
Because how you become doctor if you have baby? - Indian parents.
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#12
I don't care what people say, but I don't think children should be out of wedlock. No idea why, I guess I just like the idea of a traditional family. 
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#13
(Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
Well, although the word "sex" is forbidden in indian households, somehow, I don't know how but we all learn the "No sex before marriage" rule (lol).
So I'm assuming "No sex before marriage" would equal no children before marriage and if children happen, then sex happened and therefore shame upon you and your family.
In more traditional households, I think it would be terrifying to say that you're pregnant. Especially if you're still a teenager. Traditional Indian parents need to be more accepting though, it is a bit ridiculous.
Well, although the word "sex" is forbidden in indian households, somehow, I don't know how but we all learn the "No sex before marriage" rule (lol).
So I'm assuming "No sex before marriage" would equal no children before marriage and if children happen, then sex happened and therefore shame upon you and your family.
In more traditional households, I think it would be terrifying to say that you're pregnant. Especially if you're still a teenager. Traditional Indian parents need to be more accepting though, it is a bit ridiculous.
Baby outside wedlock = Your life is over and you living on the street or you're wedding is suspiciously early...
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#14
(Original post by drowzee)
Lol we all know they still have sex doe
Baby outside wedlock = Your life is over and you living on the street or you're wedding is suspiciously early...
Lol we all know they still have sex doe
Baby outside wedlock = Your life is over and you living on the street or you're wedding is suspiciously early...
Meh my parents would disown me....oh well, yolo.
joking, I don't even like children....
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(Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
This always makes me laugh!
Meh my parents would disown me....oh well, yolo.
joking, I don't even like children....
This always makes me laugh!
Meh my parents would disown me....oh well, yolo.
joking, I don't even like children....
funny tone and escalation, then de-escalation haha.
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#16
Why would they want to have kids outside of marriage? Surely a marital home is a far more stable environment for children to grow up in?
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#17
(Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
This always makes me laugh!
Meh my parents would disown me....oh well, yolo.
joking, I don't even like children....
This always makes me laugh!
Meh my parents would disown me....oh well, yolo.
joking, I don't even like children....
Well, that's my dream of having grandkids gone out the window XD
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#18
but I mean the first part, my parents would probably kill me or I would just die of worry, or I'd run away to a different country and change my name XD (joking about the last part btw)
(Original post by nucdev)
Hai Rabba!
Well, that's my dream of having grandkids gone out the window XD
Hai Rabba!
Well, that's my dream of having grandkids gone out the window XD
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#19
Because sex before marriage is still considered a taboo, so prancing a baby before marriage around and showing uve been there n done that is seen as shameful and something to be embarrassed about.
I know one Indian girl who came back from uni pregnant, her dad couldn't deal with it and was embarrassed of her so cut her off. She still lives at home with her mum tho
I know one Indian girl who came back from uni pregnant, her dad couldn't deal with it and was embarrassed of her so cut her off. She still lives at home with her mum tho
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#20
(Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
but I mean the first part, my parents would probably kill me or I would just die of worry, or I'd run away to a different country and change my name XD (joking about the last part btw)
but I mean the first part, my parents would probably kill me or I would just die of worry, or I'd run away to a different country and change my name XD (joking about the last part btw)
But, let's make sure we aren't ever in that situation - I've found 4 Rishtas for you from the Pind - please, please, please say yes to one of them.
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