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Disrespectful?

My boyfriend asked if we could watch a film naked, only to cuddle no fun involved. It was American Pie band camp, I was annoyed throughout the film as I could feel he was getting turned on everytime nudity was shown. He kept trying to reposition himself to make it unnoticable to me though I already knew. Do all men get like this when they watch these films? It just upset me he was turend on more by these girls and didn't give me any attention.

Reply 1

rishishivji

Best thing to do is to ask him why. Then if u need futher help post that here and some onell help u.

Reply 2

Wild Thing

11

' only to cuddle no fun involved'

Erm I think you've answered your question yourself. He said he didnt want to have sex before the movie? Thats a bit weird especially if he was getting erections but maybe hes trying to prove that your relationship is not just based on sex? Have you had a big fight recently??
As for the boners, its understandable, give the poor guy a break! He was probably embarassed by the fact that he was getting turned on by such basic nudity scenes (seen by the way he was shifting so that you wouldnt realise) so you should have either 1)totally ignored it so he would be comfortable or 2)jump on him and **** him hard.

Did he cuddle up

Reply 3

Wild Thing

11

oops...did he cuddle you AFTER the movie*

Reply 4

Nix!

11

OP you're showing an amusing degree of naivity.

Men are turned on by visual stimulus, for women it's psychological. I point you to the rhetorical 'porn debate' for evidence.

If a man sees an attractive naked lady... guess what's going to happen! Oh noes, hide the children!

Reply 5

high priestess fnord

9

im sorry you were having a naked cuddle and you are annoyed he got turned on?

ps :troll:

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

WTF? He was prob just trying to be nice he probably really wanted to screw you but was trying to be a 'sensitive' guy. I bet you didn't even say he could give you attention if he wanted. Also boys get turned on by nudity we can't help it. I never get girls one minute you want a guy who doesn't want you for just sex the next.

Reply 7

Chumbaniya

17

Men see naked women, they get erections. Get over it. Though I should imagine that having his naked girlfriend right next to him at the time is going to play a part in him getting excited.

Reply 8

LipGloss

Remember, he really can't help it. And I'm fairly sure the only person he would have wanted to have sex with is you.

Reply 9

Trigger

18

how could you be with a naked man and not have sex :confused:

Reply 10

Yoda

12

I think he was being quite respectful. He promised not to shag you, he gets turned on, so he tries to hide it just so you don't get pressurized into ****ing.

Reply 11

King Hippo

9

Chumbaniya

Though I should imagine that having his naked girlfriend right next to him at the time is going to play a part in him getting excited.

Agreed.

Men don't just get erections every time they see a pair of baps. I mean come on, an American Pie film? And not even a good one?

I obviously can't speak for other guys, but when I watch a film like that where the emphasis is based on comedy (well, it tries to be), whenever a lass gets her baps out I think "oh, they're alright" or whatever. I certainly don't get aroused by a five-second tit flash.

On the other hand, if there's a lass in the buff lying next to me watching a film, then obviously I'm going to be paying quite a bit of attention to that fact. :smile:

OP, it seems pretty clear to me that the boners were because of you and he didn't want to show you that he was thinking about having sex with you, and that he wanted to be more respectful.

Reply 12

sweetface.

Trigger

how could you be with a naked man and not have sex :confused:

I know, I was thinking :confused:

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Reply 13

Spig

Good Lord woman! Why on earth did you think it'd be all sweet and innocent!You were both in the nuddypants for God' sakes!
I doubt he would have got turned on watching the film himself, fully clothed, so if it makes you feel better you probably factored in his sexual excitement.

The boy can't help getting an erection.
Don't get naked and expect a 'cuddle' next time.

Reply 14

jay1234

1

jesus, if i was watching american pie band camp id be greatful for any sort of disraction

Reply 15

toth8

3

Anonymous

My boyfriend asked if we could watch a film naked, only to cuddle no fun involved. It was American Pie band camp, I was annoyed throughout the film as I could feel he was getting turned on everytime nudity was shown. He kept trying to reposition himself to make it unnoticable to me though I already knew. Do all men get like this when they watch these films? It just upset me he was turend on more by these girls and didn't give me any attention.

Confront him about it.

Or you're being too sensitive. and why should he be respectful to you?! Respect is always earned and never given freely...

Reply 16

Mrs_F

15

Trigger

how could you be with a naked man and not have sex :confused:

Eeeesh that made me chuckle.

Reply 17

*Katie*

1

jay1234

jesus, if i was watching american pie band camp id be greatful for any sort of disraction

I'm still in hysterics from imagining you and him lying naked next to eachother during those scenes - epecially with him trying to shift about to hide his erection :toofunny:

OP, I think you're blowing this out of proportion. Just think how lucky you are a) not to get aroused so trivially, and b) not to show it when you are! It's certainly not disrespect on his part; quite the reverse.

Reply 18

khil

15

Talk to him - he probably didn't know you minded. By the sounds of things he just didn't want his erection to spoil the cuddling. Men can't control their erections, so I think it might be a little unfair to be angry with a man for having an erection.

Reply 19

khil

15

toth8

Confront him about it.

Or you're being too sensitive. and why should he be respectful to you?! Respect is always earned and never given freely...

Eh? You should always treat another person with respect. You cannot expect respect to be given if you don't give them respect - it's a two-way thing and one of you will have to be the first to start.

What on earth do you mean "why should he be respectful to you"!!?? It's like me swearing at you and thinking I'm completely entitled to do so because "you haven't earned my respect" (considering I don't know you) - which would be wrong! You should treat everyone with courtesy. And in the OP's situation - they're in a relationship, so it can be assumed they've known each other for a time, are probably friends and might even be in love - and yet you have to ask WHY he should pay her respect when such is their relationship, namely, a couple!? Where would relationships go without respect!? They'd all break down miserably!

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