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Excessive body hair
I'm an 18 year old female and since I was 11 years old I have suffered with excessive body hair. I've sought medical treatment and I was put on the pill at age 13. I had an ultra sound but they didn't think it was important to tell me what they found. I came off the last year because I couldn't see a great difference and I didn't want to be on it if it wasn't doing anything.
Doctors seem to be really ignorant towards it and don't seem to care that it is seriously affecting me mentally. I have spent hundreds, possibly thousands of pounds on products and treatment and now the only thing I can try is expensive, not to mention painful, lazer hair removal (not possible atm anyway).
I've been so unhappy, uncomfortable and self consious in my own body for so long. I've never had a boyfriend, never worn a bathing suit, can't wear shorts or shirts with no sleeves etc.
I'm at my wits end and would like to know what other people would do. Also is it REALLY off-putting to other people. Would you ever consider going out with someone with this problem?
Sadness
Doctors seem to be really ignorant towards it and don't seem to care that it is seriously affecting me mentally. I have spent hundreds, possibly thousands of pounds on products and treatment and now the only thing I can try is expensive, not to mention painful, lazer hair removal (not possible atm anyway).
I've been so unhappy, uncomfortable and self consious in my own body for so long. I've never had a boyfriend, never worn a bathing suit, can't wear shorts or shirts with no sleeves etc.
I'm at my wits end and would like to know what other people would do. Also is it REALLY off-putting to other people. Would you ever consider going out with someone with this problem?
Sadness
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everyone has a little bit of hair that buggs them and they have to persevere getting waxed,shaving all the time etc so the same for you wether you have more hair or not
Ive got hairy arms, which bug me but im pretty hairy all over really so I can understand how annoying it is OP
id say much hairyer than the average girl in fact one time in my work a man commented on how hairy they were and so have others in uni but ive learnt to accept them because I can't really do anything about it (don't ever shave them
) hair grows so quick on me and the only option I know is Dianette - is that what you were on OP?
The best thing to do is start showing a bit of arms and then gradually increase the amount of skin you show - chances are people won't notice and also getting a tan helps lighten the hair. anyway the majority of guys really wont care and while you may think you haven't had a boyf cause of your hair it's prob cause your too consciensous of your looks which gives of negative signals.
id say much hairyer than the average girl in fact one time in my work a man commented on how hairy they were and so have others in uni but ive learnt to accept them because I can't really do anything about it (don't ever shave them
) hair grows so quick on me and the only option I know is Dianette - is that what you were on OP?The best thing to do is start showing a bit of arms and then gradually increase the amount of skin you show - chances are people won't notice and also getting a tan helps lighten the hair. anyway the majority of guys really wont care and while you may think you haven't had a boyf cause of your hair it's prob cause your too consciensous of your looks which gives of negative signals.
hey Hun. Well i really dont no what to say, except that im going through the exact same thing. I have really excessive body hair as well and its really awfull. On my face/ arms everywhere etc. It is really bad. It doesnt help as well the fact that im pale-ish, and have jet black hair which is very thick. So things are a problem for me to.
Im only going to consider lazer surgery when im older and earning.
You just have to be confident, and i know this will sound bad or annoying but invest time and money () into this problem. I spent alot of money on waxing whole arms / legs at least twice a month. Its time consuming but it is worth the effort. There are a lot of things on the market as well such as hair lighteners/bleachers. So if you are suffering from any facial hair the best way to go is to buy a hair bleacher. Try not to shave to much as well, hair comes back thicker this way.
Im sorry if i depressed you more or anything, but I truly do understand your pain. Its awfull for me as well. I was kinda teased about this when i was younger.
But reallise now there are so many things you can do to get rid of hair,and just be confident and smile.
Im fine now, and no body notices at all that i have excess body hair. Even if i tell them, they think im just messing about. Ill be honest it will take time and effort in investing in products and using them, such as waxing strips etc. If possible, can you perhaps go to another doctor?
Hope ive helped.
Im only going to consider lazer surgery when im older and earning.
You just have to be confident, and i know this will sound bad or annoying but invest time and money (
) into this problem. I spent alot of money on waxing whole arms / legs at least twice a month. Its time consuming but it is worth the effort. There are a lot of things on the market as well such as hair lighteners/bleachers. So if you are suffering from any facial hair the best way to go is to buy a hair bleacher. Try not to shave to much as well, hair comes back thicker this way. Im sorry if i depressed you more or anything, but I truly do understand your pain. Its awfull for me as well. I was kinda teased about this when i was younger.
But reallise now there are so many things you can do to get rid of hair,and just be confident and smile.
Im fine now, and no body notices at all that i have excess body hair. Even if i tell them, they think im just messing about. Ill be honest it will take time and effort in investing in products and using them, such as waxing strips etc. If possible, can you perhaps go to another doctor?Hope ive helped.
Hi there!
From reading the title only, I would have suggested the pill because of the hormones it contains that could help you gain that hormonal balance you lack. But I see you're already well informed and tried various methods of overcoming this issue.
I can only imagine what you're going through, with all the treatments you've tried which haven't had the effect you were hoping for. Unfortunately there is no miraculous cure for your problem. The pill doesn't exactly "remove" your hair, but stops it from growing thicker or in higher amounts.
Your hair issue is most probably associated with a low self-esteem that you find difficult to cope with most if not all of the times. Besides the practical solutions, which you probably already know of, better than most of the people here - like the pill, laser treatments and other hair removal methods (never ever shave though!) - it would be a good idea for you to find ways of working on your self esteem. While there is no permanent and miraculous solution to the problem you're facing, there are lots of ways to help you improve your self esteem and your body image, which is most probably more distorted than it should be.
If your financial status permits it, one of the best ways to help you accepting and appreciating yourself is to see a therapist. I am not talking about a psychiatrist who would put you on medication or lock you in a mental hospital, but about a psychologist who can offer you new insight on your life, personality and ways of approaching yourself and your problem. Be it relaxation, music, color therapy or counseling, a psychologist can help you cope with your fears and help you enjoy every minute of your life more.
The internet also offers valuable resources on how to improve your self-esteem, and I'm sure you have the full support of your family and dear people.
I wish you all the best, and the strength and desire to become the person, the heart and the mind you are, to a higher extent than the way you perceive your body.
Bea.
From reading the title only, I would have suggested the pill because of the hormones it contains that could help you gain that hormonal balance you lack. But I see you're already well informed and tried various methods of overcoming this issue.
I can only imagine what you're going through, with all the treatments you've tried which haven't had the effect you were hoping for. Unfortunately there is no miraculous cure for your problem. The pill doesn't exactly "remove" your hair, but stops it from growing thicker or in higher amounts.
Your hair issue is most probably associated with a low self-esteem that you find difficult to cope with most if not all of the times. Besides the practical solutions, which you probably already know of, better than most of the people here - like the pill, laser treatments and other hair removal methods (never ever shave though!) - it would be a good idea for you to find ways of working on your self esteem. While there is no permanent and miraculous solution to the problem you're facing, there are lots of ways to help you improve your self esteem and your body image, which is most probably more distorted than it should be.
If your financial status permits it, one of the best ways to help you accepting and appreciating yourself is to see a therapist. I am not talking about a psychiatrist who would put you on medication or lock you in a mental hospital, but about a psychologist who can offer you new insight on your life, personality and ways of approaching yourself and your problem. Be it relaxation, music, color therapy or counseling, a psychologist can help you cope with your fears and help you enjoy every minute of your life more.
The internet also offers valuable resources on how to improve your self-esteem, and I'm sure you have the full support of your family and dear people.
I wish you all the best, and the strength and desire to become the person, the heart and the mind you are, to a higher extent than the way you perceive your body.
Bea.
Anonymous
I'm an 18 year old female and since I was 11 years old I have suffered with excessive body hair. I've sought medical treatment and I was put on the pill at age 13. I had an ultra sound but they didn't think it was important to tell me what they found. I came off the last year because I couldn't see a great difference and I didn't want to be on it if it wasn't doing anything.
Doctors seem to be really ignorant towards it and don't seem to care that it is seriously affecting me mentally. I have spent hundreds, possibly thousands of pounds on products and treatment and now the only thing I can try is expensive, not to mention painful, lazer hair removal (not possible atm anyway).
I've been so unhappy, uncomfortable and self consious in my own body for so long. I've never had a boyfriend, never worn a bathing suit, can't wear shorts or shirts with no sleeves etc.
I'm at my wits end and would like to know what other people would do. Also is it REALLY off-putting to other people. Would you ever consider going out with someone with this problem?
Sadness
Doctors seem to be really ignorant towards it and don't seem to care that it is seriously affecting me mentally. I have spent hundreds, possibly thousands of pounds on products and treatment and now the only thing I can try is expensive, not to mention painful, lazer hair removal (not possible atm anyway).
I've been so unhappy, uncomfortable and self consious in my own body for so long. I've never had a boyfriend, never worn a bathing suit, can't wear shorts or shirts with no sleeves etc.
I'm at my wits end and would like to know what other people would do. Also is it REALLY off-putting to other people. Would you ever consider going out with someone with this problem?
Sadness
I'm in the same position as you but sadly older - and it has stopped me from getting a life - I am so insecure - and it's so embarassing - I have never been on holiday so i have never had the issue of what others will think if I go all bikini clad. But I know if i want to go on holiday I shall have to get rid of my hair. I have it all over my front chest and on my back. my skin is pale and my hair is black. i also have really horrible side burns and too much hair on my upper lip. i regularly thread my upper lip. I am going to go private - i think i am going to do it this summer - for too long it has been holding me vback from getting a life - i shall go private - but i'm going to chek out which the consumer service to see who is the most reliable. I have become more and more paranoid about the amount of hair i have recently - probably cos this is the first time i shall go abroad - and i spent ALOT of time just staring at my sideburns and beard when i should be studying
Why can't you wear shorts? Don't you shave or wax your legs?
Maybe it's a genetic thing, I've heard that before. Perhaps you could go on some hormone control medication or something like that..you should tell the doctor just how it is affecting your life.
Maybe it's a genetic thing, I've heard that before. Perhaps you could go on some hormone control medication or something like that..you should tell the doctor just how it is affecting your life.
do people know the reliabilty of laser treatment or not? I mean doest it guarantee rate/what are the symptons/does ir work better if your hair is coarse or does it not make a difference. Have people heard of any cases where say it has had a severe adverse reaction??
hmm im fairly hairy (pretty much like all mediterranean women) tbh i just ignore most of it. have you tried epilating? much cheaper than regular waxing but the effect is the same and it works well on short hairs too. and of course the more you pull out hairs the lighter and less noticable it is when it grows back.
hey hon!! seriously, you are not the only woman out there with the same problem. no matter how much hair a woman has , it is always too much though obviously some women have much more than other (me included). if i were brave i would go the shania mirza way and not shave my legs and be a hairy forest but im too scared to not confirm to society's requirements of hairless women which is bull imo because as mammals we are supposed to have a fine hair all over our body. this is worse for dark haired women i guess but i don't really what to tell you except you aren't the only one, i've been reallllllllllllllllly depressed too so have a hug xxx
I have hair under my navel, its really weird cos im female
Thank you all for replying, it means so much to know that I am not the only one and even more to know that there are some people who can be understanding towards something like this.
I was bullied about it a lot in school at PE etc and I have seen a councillor last year about it. The woman I saw wanted to talk about other things (I suffered from depression for 3 years) and simply told me I would have to just learn to get over my body image because everyone is uncomfortable about something on their body. I was not offered any more help and was on a waiting list for 3 years just for that 6 months of help. I was told I needed a psychiatrist but none were available so I had to make do with a lady who had been on a 6 week Relate counselling course. Needless to say I still hate myself and it didn't work.
At the moment I have to wax my eyebrows, upper lip, stomach, back, under arms, legs, thighs and feet. I am a big wimp so I have not tried bikini line yet. Even though I do these things, the hair is thick and black so it makes no difference and the follicles are still visible under the skin leaving black patches under my arms, on my legs etc. I can't afford to have them all done at once so I have to alternate, plus it is SO embarrassing going to a salon so I do it at home.
I'm getting to that point where I would love to have someone to be close to and have a relationship. I want to show off my body while it is in its prime but I can't with the way it looks. It just makes me so sad.
I've asked to see another doctor but the system is stupid and you have to book on the day you phone up and see who they tell you to see. I'm at my wits end.
I was bullied about it a lot in school at PE etc and I have seen a councillor last year about it. The woman I saw wanted to talk about other things (I suffered from depression for 3 years) and simply told me I would have to just learn to get over my body image because everyone is uncomfortable about something on their body. I was not offered any more help and was on a waiting list for 3 years just for that 6 months of help. I was told I needed a psychiatrist but none were available so I had to make do with a lady who had been on a 6 week Relate counselling course. Needless to say I still hate myself and it didn't work.
At the moment I have to wax my eyebrows, upper lip, stomach, back, under arms, legs, thighs and feet. I am a big wimp so I have not tried bikini line yet. Even though I do these things, the hair is thick and black so it makes no difference and the follicles are still visible under the skin leaving black patches under my arms, on my legs etc. I can't afford to have them all done at once so I have to alternate, plus it is SO embarrassing going to a salon so I do it at home.
I'm getting to that point where I would love to have someone to be close to and have a relationship. I want to show off my body while it is in its prime but I can't with the way it looks. It just makes me so sad.
I've asked to see another doctor but the system is stupid and you have to book on the day you phone up and see who they tell you to see. I'm at my wits end.
Anonymous
I'm an 18 year old female and since I was 11 years old I have suffered with excessive body hair. I've sought medical treatment and I was put on the pill at age 13. I had an ultra sound but they didn't think it was important to tell me what they found. I came off the last year because I couldn't see a great difference and I didn't want to be on it if it wasn't doing anything.
Doctors seem to be really ignorant towards it and don't seem to care that it is seriously affecting me mentally. I have spent hundreds, possibly thousands of pounds on products and treatment and now the only thing I can try is expensive, not to mention painful, lazer hair removal (not possible atm anyway).
I've been so unhappy, uncomfortable and self consious in my own body for so long. I've never had a boyfriend, never worn a bathing suit, can't wear shorts or shirts with no sleeves etc.
I'm at my wits end and would like to know what other people would do. Also is it REALLY off-putting to other people. Would you ever consider going out with someone with this problem?
Sadness
Doctors seem to be really ignorant towards it and don't seem to care that it is seriously affecting me mentally. I have spent hundreds, possibly thousands of pounds on products and treatment and now the only thing I can try is expensive, not to mention painful, lazer hair removal (not possible atm anyway).
I've been so unhappy, uncomfortable and self consious in my own body for so long. I've never had a boyfriend, never worn a bathing suit, can't wear shorts or shirts with no sleeves etc.
I'm at my wits end and would like to know what other people would do. Also is it REALLY off-putting to other people. Would you ever consider going out with someone with this problem?
Sadness
Life is tough and has pain. So what?
toth8
Life is tough and has pain. So what?
The was pretty harsh for no reason.
reading this thread has made me feel better bit. Ive gt jet black hair and people are like..your hairs so nice..dont realise the burden. Fcaial wise ive improved. I had electrolysis from such a young age i have a phobia of needles now! But that was the think that removed hairs the most but its painful. I have laser but its not working (on face that is) so now gna do that with something called vaniqa. Vaniqa works on some people and not on others but they cant figure out why. Can now be prescribed in uk. so sopose 2 have that and laser same time. Rest of bodys depressing. Wax wax wax. I hate it and money in seeing someone. Just go to someone and get it done im goin this week and gonna ask for more than usual. Nervous but has to be done. Dont bleach pluck on face, electrolysis really is best but tiem consuming. Hairs all over body so nots uer what to do. Its a very tiring thing. I have and had depression about this and ive never had a long term relationship. I wax my arms. I suggest waxing. I do it myself because i can, but if worried shave first, let grow a little then get it waxed. I still feel crap about myself and dont think il ever be able to have arelationship. I really am my own worst enemy.
Yeh theres alot of it and some of its tougher for others
Saw my doctor about it first tiem and had blood tests. Says theres nothing wrong but wants to discuss it. Strange! Glad i said something as need the vaniqa so had no choice.
Life is tough and has pain. So what?
Yeh theres alot of it and some of its tougher for others
Saw my doctor about it first tiem and had blood tests. Says theres nothing wrong but wants to discuss it. Strange! Glad i said something as need the vaniqa so had no choice.
Well, uhh, I'm not sure if this'll really help you much but just to let you know you're not alone:
My big secret is: I have a hairy bum. I have to remove all the hair cos it goes up my lower back too. I use veet. You're not supposed to use it there, but it doesn't hurt me.
So, when I'm sitting down and my shirt rides up my back I have to pull it down again, and pull my jeans up when they sag, or the hair might show. I have a line of black hair below my navel too, which I pluck out. But it can leave marks, so I never wear bikinis either.
It's really embarrassing and I have never heard of anyone else who has a hairy bum (and is female). But I really sympathise with you, 'cos at least mine is easy to hide. However, I think you should dress how you want and have the confidence to be who you are, because if there were no people who didn't mind extra hair -well, there wouldn't be any hairy women left, would there? Lol!
Maby you could wear skirts with tights, etc., if you don't want to show bare skin. You can also get 'invisible' tights which might help to hide hair and look very natural. And some people at my uni wear those diamond patterned tights under shorts.
My big secret is: I have a hairy bum. I have to remove all the hair cos it goes up my lower back too. I use veet. You're not supposed to use it there, but it doesn't hurt me.
So, when I'm sitting down and my shirt rides up my back I have to pull it down again, and pull my jeans up when they sag, or the hair might show. I have a line of black hair below my navel too, which I pluck out. But it can leave marks, so I never wear bikinis either.
It's really embarrassing and I have never heard of anyone else who has a hairy bum (and is female). But I really sympathise with you, 'cos at least mine is easy to hide. However, I think you should dress how you want and have the confidence to be who you are, because if there were no people who didn't mind extra hair -well, there wouldn't be any hairy women left, would there? Lol!
Maby you could wear skirts with tights, etc., if you don't want to show bare skin. You can also get 'invisible' tights which might help to hide hair and look very natural. And some people at my uni wear those diamond patterned tights under shorts.
don't be silly, most females have a hairy bum! Honestly. Mine is very, I shave around there but I get a little self conscious with my boyfriend.
is the general consensus to go for electrolysis over laser?? I had always 4t that laser was most reliable. I was prescribed Vaniqa . . .but I didnt use it cos it said it doesnt guarantee - and your hair grows back thicker and darker if you stop using it. thats what i was told.
Because of how unattractive I am - and because of my excess hair everywhere - i sometimes regret my parents bringing me onto this planet. I almost felt like telling my mum that the other day when she phoned me.
Because of how unattractive I am - and because of my excess hair everywhere - i sometimes regret my parents bringing me onto this planet. I almost felt like telling my mum that the other day when she phoned me.
how long would the full electrolysis treatment take??
Excessive hair is a symptom of PCOS. I have PCOS and excessive hair in some areas like my arms and the tops of my legs, i'm the same as some of you in that I dont wear shorts or bikinis. I was prescribed Vaniqa but didnt use it as a side effect was acne and I didnt want any more problems. Alot of my hair has thinned out now but i'm taking a cocktail of tablets so I couldnt tell you which one has helped! lol
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