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I'm a guy and I'm sure I prefer girls romantically and sexually. However it seems I'm sexually attracted to guys as well. I can't imagine I'd ever enjoy kissing a guy (whereas I would a girl) or being in a relationship with a guy (again, I would and have dated girls). But sometimes I fantasise about giving head to a guy as well as receiving anal. If I'm watching porn and the girl is blowing the guy I might suddenly start fantasising I'm the one giving the blowjob, rather than receiving it.
I'm not even sure I'd like having sex with a guy, but I think I wanna try it at least once.
With all that in mind, what do you think my sexuality is? I'm obviously not straight, but bi people have romantic attraction towards same sex as well right? And I have none. Thanks.
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Why do you think you`re not straight?

Could just be you`re at an age where you`re trying to figure out your own sexuality naturally - don`t jump to conclusions, or try to force things, and don`t be afraid to come to any conclusion you do - we are who we are, and no one else can or should influence that. The decision you make will be the one that feels comfortable and right for YOU.
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Well, fantasies of giving fellatio and receiving anal would suggest that he's not entirely straight in attraction at least

Sexuality is made up of a number of things, including attraction, behaviour and identity. They're not necessarily the same, and often people's attraction is not the same as their behaviour and is not the same as their identity.

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but bi people have romantic attraction towards same sex as well right?
Not necessarily. Some simply aren't interested in romance / 'relationships' with a gender and just want to have sex with them. Or they're interested in the relationship, but not the sex. Or...

Do a Google search for Klein Sexual Orientation Grid, and see what it comes up with for you.
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Hi. I'm a bi girl and have too been confused about my sexuality.

May I ask your age? Because if you are very young (say about 14-ish) you may not have ideas about romance formed yet. I wasn't interested in romantic relationships at all until I was 16.

And have you heard of the Kinsey Scale?


http://2.bp.blogspot.com/__sCtra0ymq...inseyScale.jpg

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com...e95113e67f.jpg

You MAY be a 1 or "mostly heterosexual".

However, you will be eventually sure of your orientation. It can be very confusing and frustrating, but try not to obsess too much over it and all will make sense soon enough.
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Kinsey being Kinsey was only interested in behaviour rather than things like attraction or identity.

Klein effectively expanded the Kinsey scale to cover those and other aspects of sexuality, plus recognised that they also often change over time. You end up with a telephone number-length result, but it's more nuanced than the single 0..6.
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just experiment. When you're ready to sleep with guys and girls, do what ever you're into and don't feel the need to put a label on it. In your 20's you could identify with being bi-sexual and in your 30's/40's come out as fully gay. Just have fun (and be safe).
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First, how old are you? Im 41 and happily married to a beautiful woman and Im straight. But, I enjoy attending masturbation parties. No touching. Men and women. I love to masturbate with other guys in circle jerks. Did my first circle jerk when I was 14 with my four buddies who were my age (14, 13, 15 and 14). It's safe, really fun and worth trying out. Anyway, I would masturbate with another guy or in a group first. Go from there.
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You could be heteroromantic bisexual, your sexual attraction and romantic attraction don't have to match and you are perfectly valid!
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As others have said, you don't need a label. Just do what you want to do (safely) and label yourself later if that's what you want to do. You could still very well end up identifying as "heterosexual" in the future - lots of things are mixed during adolescence.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm a guy and I'm sure I prefer girls romantically and sexually. However it seems I'm sexually attracted to guys as well. I can't imagine I'd ever enjoy kissing a guy (whereas I would a girl) or being in a relationship with a guy (again, I would and have dated girls). But sometimes I fantasise about giving head to a guy as well as receiving anal. If I'm watching porn and the girl is blowing the guy I might suddenly start fantasising I'm the one giving the blowjob, rather than receiving it.
I'm not even sure I'd like having sex with a guy, but I think I wanna try it at least once.
With all that in mind, what do you think my sexuality is? I'm obviously not straight, but bi people have romantic attraction towards same sex as well right? And I have none. Thanks.
I have quite a few male friends who consider themselves "kind of straight" meaning they essentially have sex with girls but also find guys attractive and have even kissed them before. To put it simply, you could just have a high sex-drive! Either way, it's nothing to worry about. Do whatever you want with whoever you want and don't worry about labelling your sexuality; if anything, it's an interesting one!
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm a guy and I'm sure I prefer girls romantically and sexually. However it seems I'm sexually attracted to guys as well. I can't imagine I'd ever enjoy kissing a guy (whereas I would a girl) or being in a relationship with a guy (again, I would and have dated girls). But sometimes I fantasise about giving head to a guy as well as receiving anal. If I'm watching porn and the girl is blowing the guy I might suddenly start fantasising I'm the one giving the blowjob, rather than receiving it.
I'm not even sure I'd like having sex with a guy, but I think I wanna try it at least once.
With all that in mind, what do you think my sexuality is? I'm obviously not straight, but bi people have romantic attraction towards same sex as well right? And I have none. Thanks.
It may be that your sexual and romantic orientations do not line up. It is possible to be sexually attracted to both men and women, but only romantically attracted to one gender.

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