What do I say when my boyfriend asks me what I want in bed?

He'll say something like 'What sort of things do you want me to do to you?' and if I don't respond too well he might add 'There must be something' or something along those lines. He says it nicely but I can't help but feel pressure and think that maybe he thinks I'm boring if I don't know exactly what I want. It's not that I'm too embarrassed to say, I'm just kinda new to it all and literally have no clue what to say. What would you say in these situations? Also guys, if a girl didn't know what she wanted would that turn you off?

Reply 1

Kevin De Bruyne

21

Say 'breakfast'? :redface:

Think about anything that he could do better. If there's nothing, convince him that he's doing well and doesn't need to change anything and thank him for caring.

Reply 2

Savage R3N3GAD3

2

You can tell him what you want in bed. It wouldn't put me off completely if a girl didn't know what she wanted, all that matters is that she wants sex. Yeah, it's a turn off if she didn't know what she wanted but I'd still do her.

Reply 3

monk1324

14

Original post by Unistudent77

It wouldn't be a turn off if you said nothing..... But

Saying (a white lie)
"Well I was dreaming last night".... Or well "my fantasy is".....

And then saying something.
So I'd say (if I were female haha)
For you to go down on me... If he asks to elaborate say, "in my dream you:

Went up and down my inner thighs... Licking slowly, building the tension, the blood flow increasing. Then licking my 'lips' all around my clit, before finally taking my clit in your mouth and.....

Do I need to continue haha?
Anything like that?

Or of you want to really turn him on then be like I want you to **** me like.... Whatever. So doggie style or 69.
With 69 you can play the 'who will cum first game'...

Answer your question?

*cringe*

Reply 4

ivybridge

6

You don't really sound like you genuinely want anything in that area yet... do not feel pressured - that is the most important thing. He sounds nice but yeah.

Reply 5

Unistudent77

15

Original post by monk1324

*cringe*

Haha, she asked a question, I gave a response.
That's what girls have said to me (with much coercion as if you ask them they have no clue usually, but once more 'liberated'....)

First to cum (well, demand the other person stops) game is the best.

Don't be such a prude, it's an anonymous internet forum.

Reply 6

TheCitizenAct

2

Three simple words: 'anything you want.'

Then watch his eyes light up. Next day: engagement.

Reply 7

lotusbloom

8

Original post by SeanFM

Say 'breakfast'? :redface:

Haha beat me to it :tongue:

Reply 8

username1539513

21

Original post by honeygirl

He'll say something like 'What sort of things do you want me to do to you?' and if I don't respond too well he might add 'There must be something' or something along those lines. He says it nicely but I can't help but feel pressure and think that maybe he thinks I'm boring if I don't know exactly what I want. It's not that I'm too embarrassed to say, I'm just kinda new to it all and literally have no clue what to say. What would you say in these situations? Also guys, if a girl didn't know what she wanted would that turn you off?

Ask him to make you a sandwich

Good one!

Say "take me up the arse; I'll squeeze my cheeks when you cum!".

No it wouldnt put me off if she didnt know what she wanted its an opportunity to explore.

Reply 11

Zarek

21

Don't worry so much. Just suggest a position or that he role plays some some celebrity or historical figure. Wouldn't be a turn off if you didn't have creative and wild ideas or even no ideas what so ever.

Reply 12

EeephantNroom

1

Original post by honeygirl

He'll say something like 'What sort of things do you want me to do to you?' and if I don't respond too well he might add 'There must be something' or something along those lines. He says it nicely but I can't help but feel pressure and think that maybe he thinks I'm boring if I don't know exactly what I want. It's not that I'm too embarrassed to say, I'm just kinda new to it all and literally have no clue what to say. What would you say in these situations? Also guys, if a girl didn't know what she wanted would that turn you off?

from a guy's point of view who has a very active sexual imagination and has since early teen and I'm half a century now I've watched a lot of porn looked at a lot of adult magazines phone sex had a lot of girlfriends and had a pretty active and Wild sold my oats teenage younger years where I had sex multiple times a day with different girls and on a regular basis with the same girl when I had a girlfriend and it was just common just thought nothing of it for me to be with more than one girl at one time and for me and a buddy to share a girl or a couple girls or four or five of my buddies be with just one girl or a couple everybody has sexual fantasies everybody has to get turned on and think about something that makes them aroused I think men especially when they're younger have a very hard time controlling your sexual urges and desires and have fantasies that play out in their mind just like watching a movie to where women especially at a young age don't have those hormone issues and don't have to deal with that and that's one of the reasons why women young girls do better in school with homework more disciplined more academic once they get into college and get into their high school years then their hormones start to create a problem so just tell him you don't know what you're into let's experiment try different things tell him to be creative and use his imagination but by him asking you don't take that ass being pressured or an insult or negative in any way and I would not let it reflect negative towards your relationship or towards him he is not being a pervert or pressuring you think him and think enough of him realize this most guys would not even ask their significant other or their partner what turned them on what they was into what they wanted to do because they are not concerned with anybody other than themselves if you have a boyfriend or a husband that ask you what you were into and what you wanted then he is putting you and your needs and thinking of you and not himself putting you first and that right there if he will put your sexual needs your sexual preferences what you want over his that man loves you will put you on a pedestal and worship you I bet you anything you have been in a relationship for a long time and he doesn't even want anything to do whatsoever with anybody other than you so take advantage of the situation work together communicate talk and just talking aboutany communication watching TV laying in bed that you can take the time use that for foreplay it starts with communication starts with an open mind and then let that communication lead to touching pressing exploring the body kissing hands you masturbating him and masturbating you good luck I'll tell you one thing check out a couple things that you may be interested in cuckold female LED relationship dominant women BDSM Chastity cage female worship edging orgasm control fendom domination superiority Master Slave roleplay rough sex anal sex bondage acting out in role-playing to where you use the script and the man becomes very aggressive and takes you forcibly and has his way with you and is very aggressive and rough but it's all an act you have safe words also look at man worshiping pussy pussy worship oral pleasure pussy pleaser female domination male submission you can actually he'll bathe you wash your hair dry you paint your toenails put lotion on your body massage your feet rub your feet your back give you full body massages even go learn how to actually give a massage and get a certificate do all the chores around the house cooking cleaning shopping anything you need he jumps up and goes and gets it does all the laundry takes care of all the yard work and Pleasures you orally getting you off to orgasm and expect nothing in return you don't have to feel guilty or obligated or your pressured or anything like that it's all about your sexual pressure your sexual needs and you can make him go down and service you orally for 5 minutes 5 hours once a day 10 times a day all night long and you might be surprised if he starts using his tongue on your butthole you may really like that and that could also lead to him not getting any sexual release and it not being your concern of your problem and to humiliation to you having multiple sex partners and him locked in Chastity cage and not having sex watching you have sex and still pleasuring youhope it wasn't too vulgar and you got something out of that or at least do some research Google it Explorer but communicate get along talk

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