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Too ugly to get a girlfriend, don't know what to do, need advice.

Reply 20

nluc88

OP

2

I know, I need confidence however constant rejection puts me down

Reply 21

UWS

21

No one is too ugly for a girlfriend. This guy I know was weird, had a long neck, wore nerdy glasses but he has a girlfriend!

Looks are all subjective

Reply 22

llys

17

Try arranged marriage. I am utterly serious - arrangements can work if both parties are committed. I think in your age range there probably are a lot of nice but ugly women out there who would desperately want to make this work too.

Reply 23

John55

14

Original post by RainbowKiwi

U don't need plastic surgery lmao, u need confidence surgery m8.

Where can you get that? Is it painful?

Reply 24

Souljer

6

You just need a little swag, believe me swag is everything.. perhaps change your style abit. Girls love my confidence more than my face.. in my area I walk in the middle of the road holding up cars abd no one says **** or even questions me.

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Reply 25

uberteknik

21

It's not about looks, it's all about attitude and personality.

Girls are attracted to personality far, far more than superficial looks. That means: quiet confidence, a joy of living, inner strength and courage as well as a degree of sensible stability.

It sounds very much like you are too anxious and with low self esteem.

Stop looking for a girlfriend and start concentrating on yourself. You don't need to spend good money on surgery. Developing a positive attitude and image is critical.

You are young and have plenty of time to change, but it won't happen overnight. Set your sights on being and exuding confidence (but not arrogance). Never show desperation and neediness.

Achieve this and the girls will come looking for you!

Reply 26

georgia.playfoot

Your not ugly, that shouldn't be a contributing factor. To be honest the right girl will come along and like you for who you are not what you look like. as long as you have a loyal and friendly personality.

Reply 27

dairychocolate

11

Original post by uberteknik

It's not about looks, it's all about attitude and personality.

Girls are attracted to personality far, far more than superficial looks. That means: quiet confidence, a joy of living, inner strength and courage as well as a degree of sensible stability.

It sounds very much like you are too anxious and with low self esteem.

Stop looking for a girlfriend and start concentrating on yourself. You don't need to spend good money on surgery. Developing a positive attitude and image is critical.

You are young and have plenty of time to change, but it won't happen overnight. Set your sights on being and exuding confidence (but not arrogance). Never show desperation and neediness.

Achieve this and the girls will come looking for you!

Please don't propagate this myth. Looks are definitely important.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 28

Drax101

14

Original post by nluc88

Hi people,

I'm a 27 year old male that is single and never had a girlfriend, tried to get dates, always getting rejected, even girls I get along with really well, always reject me, I feel a lot of anxiety over this and feel pretty worthless as a man. I'm at the point where I think i should give up on women and life. Always wanted to get married and settle down, the older I get, the more I think it's not going to happen.
I've even thought about spending some of my savings to get plastic surgery.

Here are a couple of photos of me.
Would like feedback on how to improve my face, as it is awful.

Last pic is a few years old, when I was 19.

Pics don't work, pics are on my facebook https://www.facebook.com/nicholas.laurence.7

What is your job?

You could try speed dating, online dating, approaching women, you can try dating from your social circle or you could even ask your parents to get someone for you so you can introduce each other.

Get your confidence up, know that you are a man and as a man you have options. Take Zinc, go to the gym, wear good clothes, practice socialising and mingling with people so you come across as attractive, practice your conversational skills, do things that make you happy, you could also join a club.

The other way to get your confidence up is by having good social skills.

Rejection is natural, everyone does, it doesn't mean nothing, just move onto the next women, rejection only will hurt if you think you have no options or at 27 you are too old to date, their is women everywhere, older, same age, younger.

Just keep going and good luck!

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 29

KappaFish

1

MGTOW. Live and learn.

Reply 30

NoHeroes94

11

No one is too ugly.

Everyone's paradigm of beauty is 100% different. My friend, you'll be fine. Confidence, aim to be happy in yourself first.

Girls who just worry about looks aren't worth your time.

Btw from a straight male perspective, you're not a bad looking guy at all.

Reply 31

karl pilkington

20

Life is harsh and unfair no one can offer you advice you are in an unfortunate situation that is largely unchangeable.

Reply 32

username1539513

21

[QUOTE="nluc88;61313849"]Hi people,

I'm a 27 year old male that is single and never had a girlfriend, tried to get dates, always getting rejected, even girls I get along with really well, always reject me, I feel a lot of anxiety over this and feel pretty worthless as a man. I'm at the point where I think i should give up on women and life. Always wanted to get married and settle down, the older I get, the more I think it's not going to happen.
I've even thought about spending some of my savings to get plastic surgery.

Here are a couple of photos of me.
Would like feedback on how to improve my face, as it is awful.

Last pic is a few years old, when I was 19.

Pics don't work, pics are on my facebook https://www.facebook.com/nicholas.laurence.7[/QUOTE]

You aren't ugly; seriously. Just had a look at your Fb pictures you don't seem to be ugly at all. Whatever you do; don't get plastic surgery; you have 0 need for it as it stands and even if you did need it would be pointless in any case

You probably just need to improve your confidence around women a little bit and not let rejections get you down. How tall are you? Just keep trying; you will find someone in the end :smile:

Reply 33

ftsoft

2

Original post by ubisoft

Self explanatory.

Explain.

Reply 34

Sephiroth

18

I have seen much uglier people with girlfriends, so clearly something else is the problem. Most likely you are going for the wrong types of women - women with really good looks who have dozens of guys chasing after them and could have any guy of their choosing. Try going for more average types. Try joining dating websites, send hundreds of messages and you are sure to get some leads.

If you want to be better looking there are cosmetic changes you can make without surgery. For example you could try cutting down on the muscles (big muscles are only attractive to a minority of people). You could also try growing some hair and styling it. A woman appreciates a man who is stylish.

Reply 35

Advanced Subsidiary

18

Original post by ubisoft

I've found the problem; you watch anime.

So do I, it's never failed me before.

It's not the OP's hobbies which puts people off. If that was the case, then he'll simply need to look for people who have similar interests to his own.

Reply 36

IgnoranceIsBliss

3

Wow. Some of these comments are completely abysmal. It's horrible to see some people projecting their insecurities to other people. To name a few: Ubisoft and dairychocolate. Ignore their ignorance please.

I can't recommended going to therapy highly enough.

In highschool I had reasonably low self esteem. I never had a girlfriend and everyone thought I was ugly.
Now, I am a very confident young man who to quote my friends "has women falling at his feet".

What changed was I simply opened up to my parents(mum is a psychologist so that helped) about my problems, began to stop caring about what anyone thought of me and then one day I looked in the mirror and really liked what I saw.
Subsequently I went out with my friends one night, and a very attractive girl who I found out later was a model, hit on ME! wow! How times have changed!

Please, a therapist will really help you. Your problems are not physical my friend, they are only in your mind.

If you want any more help I would be really glad to help you, feel free to drop me a PM and we could even Skype if you'd prefer more of a 'conservation'! Good luck :-)

Reply 37

dairychocolate

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Original post by IgnoranceIsBliss

Wow. Some of these comments are completely abysmal. It's horrible to see some people projecting their insecurities to other people. To name a few: Ubisoft and dairychocolate. Ignore their ignorance please.

I don't understand why I've been singled out when the thread is full of idiots shouting at OP to just 'be confident', like that advice has ever helped anyone.

I'm telling him that he's not ugly and that improving his hairstyle will help him.

Therapy would obviously help him but I don't see why your approach precludes actually improving his appearance as well.

Reply 38

nluc88

OP

2

Original post by Sephiroth

I have seen much uglier people with girlfriends, so clearly something else is the problem. Most likely you are going for the wrong types of women - women with really good looks who have dozens of guys chasing after them and could have any guy of their choosing. Try going for more average types. Try joining dating websites, send hundreds of messages and you are sure to get some leads.

If you want to be better looking there are cosmetic changes you can make without surgery. For example you could try cutting down on the muscles (big muscles are only attractive to a minority of people). You could also try growing some hair and styling it. A woman appreciates a man who is stylish.