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Trials and tribulations of Facebook and cancer

Hey guys, if you could help me here I would be very thankful:

Long story short, 18 months ago my mum was diagnosed with cancer, in June 2014. I was one of her primary carers and for many reasons I didn't socialise much in that time, at all. Being a language enthusiast I got a lot of exposure to the "outside world" by using a language website. I "met" a girl on there in January 2015 and it was a few weeks later that my mum was told her cancer had gone.

We built up a very intimate relationship over the months and she was planning on coming here to improve English, so I thought we would be able to "become an item". In May my mum started having scans again for possible cancer recurrence and because of the intimacy of our relationship, I told her all about it. Being Catholic, she even said she would prayer for her - that's how close we had become. At the end of May, get this, I didn't "like" her new profile picture on Facebook and about 4 weeks later, I "liked" a selfie, an innocent smilie one, of a pretty female friend. Despite the fact my mum was having these scans, my action drove the girl over the edge - she didn't talk to me for weeks after that, deleted some nice comments she had written about me and lied during the "make up" about not having the Internet and just "kinda forgetting" to reply - this like occurred mid June and the make up was beginning of July.

I told her 2 days later that my mum had cancer again and it was clear how worried I must have been. However, it didn't stop her from acting like a b*tch towards me, all because of this photo for the following 2 and a half months! She would ignore my messages, try to make me jealous, take subliminal swipes at me that degraded the way our relationship had been, she played games, acted erratically and generally took away all affection and intimacy towards me. In the end, enough was enough and I had to get away.

I mean, we weren't even going out, we just had an intimate relationship. Did I do something wrong? I don't understand how somebody can treat someone like that whose mum is seriously ill, over a Facebook picture. She deliberately tried to hurt me, knowing what my family was going through. My mum is now cancer free by the way 😀
(edited 8 years ago)
You're in the right, the way she acted was out of order. Forget about her, she isn't worth your time.
Original post by georgiaswift
You're in the right, the way she acted was out of order. Forget about her, she isn't worth your time.


Thank you. I'm not a big facebooker, so I wasn't aware of customs. "Liked" her profile pic after that and she still acted nasty.
Original post by Harry-Valente
Thank you. I'm not a big facebooker, so I wasn't aware of customs. "Liked" her profile pic after that and she still acted nasty.


That isn't really a custom, you're under no obligation to like her photos and you're at liberty to like whatever photos you want. She was clearly just a little bit crazy
Original post by georgiaswift
That isn't really a custom, you're under no obligation to like her photos and you're at liberty to like whatever photos you want. She was clearly just a little bit crazy


Honestly Georgia, if it had happened to me I wouldn't have cared. In fact, if a guy acted like that I would think they need counselling. If it had been done on the same night I would understand maybe, but we're talking 4 weeks apart and the girl is a mate. I'm just wondering how it would have been if she came over here, probably would have tried to stop me hanging out with the girl.

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